Results of conversation with my SO

[Pauline Lauren]

I have ben dressing a little (camisoles, panties under shorts/sweats, nightwear in bed) around the house with my GF's knowledge for about 6 months, and she hasn't had a problem with it. I recently (as in two days ago) disclosed to her the full extent of my desire to crossdress. Her response was what I would call unenthusiastic but tolerant, I can continue to do what I have done to date with her there, but anything more (ie dresses, heels, wigs make up etc) she would prefer me to do when she is asleep, out or when I go out. She says she doesn’t have a problem with me dressing or going out en femme, but she says she just doesn’t really feel comfortable seeing me that way. It's not ideal, but I can live with it, and it is certainly better than continuing to feel trapped in my apartment without even a full outfit of clothes and needed accessories to go out en femme.:)

That said, I do hope she gets more comfortable with it over time and will go out with me en femme sometime. During our discussion, and without me prompting her about it, she said she might reconsider this down the road and be willing to accompany me, but for the moment she would be more comfortable letting me go do what I would like, but not being involved.

I was just curious if any other CD’s here have had similar arrangements with their SO’s, and if so, how did it work out? Do you think an arrangement of this type tends to stay as is, or does it tend to slide over time towards more or less tolerance?

This was not an easy discussion for me to have with her, but I feel that by having it with her, and being honest about my feelings and needs, I have at least gained some freedom to go beyond the limitations that I previously had, so that makes me really happy. :battingeyelashes: But I guess, I am also concerned that such a lukewarm response from her now may spell trouble coming down the road. Then again, it has only been two days, perhaps over time greater acceptance and tolerance will come.

Thanks for any feedback you may have!

>>>hugs<<<:hugs:

Pauline

[Marcia Blue]

Give her room and time. Later if she is inquisitive or more resepitive show her this sight. There is a lot of great information for your SO here.

[DanaR]

The secret here is to take baby steps and not jamb anything down her throat. If she is going to be accepting, it will be at her pace and not at yours. My wife’s worry was where is this going from here; only time will tell her the story. Talk to her and be understanding, you are expecting that from her, so you should give her the same courtesy.

[Ralph]

And above all - If you have agreed to her boundaries, then if you value your relationship at all stay within those boundaries and let her be the one to expand them if/when she is ready. I've seen more grief on this forum from guys who agreed to only dress when they were alone, then tried to sneak a little extra in on the side ("She was asleep before I got into bed with the nightie/pantyhose/whatever on, that shouldn't count!")

I am glad you are open with her... good on ya!