CD desire deminished after wife finding out

[Dahlia T]

Has anybody had this happen to them? After my wife found out by accident about my crossdressing my desire has deminished. The only thing that I do now is have glamour shots done once or twice a year, which she has accepted completely. She was even able to go and look at the pictures with me and could not pick me out of a group of other photos.

[LindaTS]

Glamour shots???????? Oh yeah, very nice indeed.

[kristinacd55]

Uhhhh, no way. My cd desire has increased, especially since my wife is a somewhat reluctant acceptor of my dressing which I am eternally grateful to her for! :)

[Becci]

i think we all go through a point of the desire waining i.e purging wardrobe etc but when desire comes back its twice as strong xx

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

Has anybody had this happen to them? After my wife found out by accident about my crossdressing my desire has deminished. The only thing that I do now is have glamour shots done once or twice a year, which she has accepted completely. She was even able to go and look at the pictures with me and could not pick me out of a group of other photos.

No, not a bit. If anything, I only want to do it more often. :)

I wonder if you're feeling embarrassed or guilty about it since she found out. We all grow up learning how "wrong" it is to be a crossdresser (note the quotes). I was embarrassed about my own crossdressing until fairly recently in my life.

If you're happy cding only once or twice year, then there doesn't seem to be any problem. :)

[Dahlia T]

Don't mis-understand me,I'm not embarrassed, but, if I can't be made up by a pro, I'm just not interested, but can't wait until my next chance for photos. The only reason I don't get to do it more is that the girl who does it, lives in Vegas and I don't trust anyone else for the price she charges me, she is great.

[Tasha McIntyre]

No, not a bit. If anything, I only want to do it more often. :)




Ditto, ditto and ditto :)

[TJ Tresa]

No my dwsiew to crossdress has not deminished, however the intoxicating feeling of getting by with something has gone completely. In many ways I love it more this way because I can share it with my wife. She has helped me become more of a woman or at lest look like one than I could have ever imagined. we have girl nights where we spend the whole night as a couple of girls talking playing games etc. A couple of ladies we know who are deeply inlove with each other and who know about Tresa come over and we play games and just have a good evening as girls. I am fortunate enough to have these people in my life and wh accept me as one of the girls.
So I would encourage you to get your wife moe envolved with your crossdressing.

[Nadia-Maria]

Don't mis-understand me,I'm not embarrassed, but, if I can't be made up by a pro, I'm just not interested, but can't wait until my next chance for photos. The only reason I don't get to do it more is that the girl who does it, lives in Vegas and I don't trust anyone else for the price she charges me, she is great.

I find it difficult not to "mis-understand" you to a certain extent : :2c:

Your opening post was this one quoted below : it had nothing to do with that girl living at Las Vegas, but mainly at your wife's finding.
And now you are alluding to another wholly independent issue !!
Therefore I find it not especially easy to follow your way of thinking !



Has anybody had this happen to them? After my wife found out by accident about my crossdressing my desire has deminished. The only thing that I do now is have glamour shots done once or twice a year, which she has accepted completely. She was even able to go and look at the pictures with me and could not pick me out of a group of other photos.

As you seem being happy anyway, I wish you a good continuation.
All the best !

[Nicole Erin]

I told my wife about it, and really, it didn't effect things either way.

[Rachel05]

Nope sorry, my desire to cross dress has increased massively since my wife found out, she doesn't accept it and we don't talk about it but I want to do it ever so much more now and certainly underdress much more when I am out with her

[Carly D.]

I fantasized about telling everyone a few years back and I went as far as doing one of those dress rehersal type of things where I dressed up and then while nobody was around acted like I told them.. I tried to act this out completely with the made up reaction of some not understanding and others supportive and everything in between.. the next day I felt relief but then I didn't feel like dressing up.. and for the next few weeks I was this way.. then I snapped out of it and started dressing and flushed the idea of telling anyone right out..

[Patty-Fay]

My wife doesn't know, and I'm working hard to keep it that way. I believe one of the attractions to dressing, for me, is the secrecy - it's something I do for me, and me alone. It's an escape from the world I normally live in. I'd lose that if she found out. And another thing: by keeping it a secret, I avoid being judged. Knowing I was being judged would very much turn me off of it, I think.

[Dahlia T]

I'm not sure why I feel this way right now. Maybe the girl in Vegas has taken me to a new level and now if I can't be that girl, I'm just not interested as much and since I don't have the talent that she does, I don't what to try. Or then again, maybe it's just a cycle as some of you have said, I don't know. All I do know, is since My wife has found out and still loves me, that has brought our marrage to a new level and all I can do is focus on her and trying to make her happy. She may accept this, but she does not necessary aprove or understand it. All I know is how I feel. Sorry if this is confusing to some of you, I know it is to me.

[Sally2005]

It might be because you finally accompished the goal of telling your wife. Now that you have, there is no reason to dress in private. Also, if you have a set activity to work towards preparation for that maybe allows you to focus on other things the other times. I experienced some lack of desire once I went out fully dressed in daylight and accepted CDing as part of myself. And when I am busy with other parts of my life the opportunity is less as well as the desire.

[Danielle Gee]

Hey Girls: I find my "urges" will wax and wane over a period of time. Fall seems to be the worst (or best),,,,,I WANNA DRESS UP ALL THE TIME!!
Summertime is when my urges are lowest...Even tho our home is air conditioned, I seem to sweat like a pig when I'm in make-up...and I'm not normally a sweaty person.

I always sleep in feminine nightwear.....Panties are a must from quitting time Friday till Sunday night.....ditto for painted toenails......Other than that I'm just normal workin' class slob!!!

[Kate17]

I told my wife and now I am able to stay in fem mode all of the time. I am not always dressed but i usually have some thing fem on to help me stay happy with our overdoing it. A day with out red toe nails is like a day with out sunshine !

[DanaR]

My desire didn't diminish after my wife found out, I told her over 30 years ago. Actually she has been somewhat supportive. Lately I've pushed myself, trying to get some projects done to the point that I don't take the time I need for myself. It becomes frustrating knowing that I should take the time and go out, but don't.

[Patty-Fay]

Like Danielle, my urges wax and wane as well. Consequently I sometimes go months at a time without dressing. During these periods. I sometimes think I'm done with it. Then the urge builds, out of nowhere, and Patty is back.

Just go with the flow. Don't worry about it either way.

[Dahlia T]

It might be because you finally accompished the goal of telling your wife. Now that you have, there is no reason to dress in private. Also, if you have a set activity to work towards preparation for that maybe allows you to focus on other things the other times. I experienced some lack of desire once I went out fully dressed in daylight and accepted CDing as part of myself. And when I am busy with other parts of my life the opportunity is less as well as the desire.

I think you may of hit the nail on the head. Thank you all for some good insight.

[xdbiker]

For me it was just time i hated keeping it hiden from her so now after telling she is very ok with it all and now i get to have my nails done all the time and no one says a word to me about it any more so have funn with it Jerzie