sandra-leigh
06-29-2009, 10:11 PM
A few days ago, I reported that I came out to my sister (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=110108) on the telephone.
I'm currently visiting her and my mother is here. On the day of the local Pride march, it was raining, which would have ruined my planned march in my linen dress. So I had m own Pride march of sorts: I went to a local park with my mother, and we walked around a long way (partly in the rain) and I told her a bunch about my personal history (long time social outcast or ignored), and I told her I'd found out something about my self, and I talked about how science doesn't know numbers or causes but it was probably biological (and everyone might have it to some degree.) And only after all of that (which took rather some time), I labeled what it was I was talking about: crossdressing and transgender. And we talked about that that for a while, and she told me about some of her life experiences, and understood about needing to internally balance masculine and feminine. And I talked a bunch about th acceptance i've found from so many people in my crossdressing even from people that clearly knew I was male. She said she still had lots of questions and that we still had lots to talk about, but we ran out of time (3 1/2 hours of talking). There was a little-bit of body-language ambiguity as to how she took it all, but it definitely was not rejection, and she at least joked about how perhaps we should go out together sometime.
It was a good talk and she didn't freak out at all. But we haven't had time to process questions such as whether she really would be willing to go out with me, or about how she would feel if I dressed in her presence... but based on the talk, I know she definitely won't "disown" me or anything even remotely close... and now she knows, and we're both comfortable enough with it that we will be able to talk about it in the future.
And Yes, I did explicitly mention skirts and dresses and bras and breast-forms, but I don't think I happened to mention panties or pantyhose.
She did not, by the way, ask the famous first questions about gay and transitioning, but at the end, when we were driving back I answered them for her in case she'd been wondering.
So now all of my living immediate family knows and accepts (not just tolerates) to at least some degree.
I'm currently visiting her and my mother is here. On the day of the local Pride march, it was raining, which would have ruined my planned march in my linen dress. So I had m own Pride march of sorts: I went to a local park with my mother, and we walked around a long way (partly in the rain) and I told her a bunch about my personal history (long time social outcast or ignored), and I told her I'd found out something about my self, and I talked about how science doesn't know numbers or causes but it was probably biological (and everyone might have it to some degree.) And only after all of that (which took rather some time), I labeled what it was I was talking about: crossdressing and transgender. And we talked about that that for a while, and she told me about some of her life experiences, and understood about needing to internally balance masculine and feminine. And I talked a bunch about th acceptance i've found from so many people in my crossdressing even from people that clearly knew I was male. She said she still had lots of questions and that we still had lots to talk about, but we ran out of time (3 1/2 hours of talking). There was a little-bit of body-language ambiguity as to how she took it all, but it definitely was not rejection, and she at least joked about how perhaps we should go out together sometime.
It was a good talk and she didn't freak out at all. But we haven't had time to process questions such as whether she really would be willing to go out with me, or about how she would feel if I dressed in her presence... but based on the talk, I know she definitely won't "disown" me or anything even remotely close... and now she knows, and we're both comfortable enough with it that we will be able to talk about it in the future.
And Yes, I did explicitly mention skirts and dresses and bras and breast-forms, but I don't think I happened to mention panties or pantyhose.
She did not, by the way, ask the famous first questions about gay and transitioning, but at the end, when we were driving back I answered them for her in case she'd been wondering.
So now all of my living immediate family knows and accepts (not just tolerates) to at least some degree.