Crossdressors shopping at my local grocery store!

[Jesse69]

Today I went shopping at my local Jewels grocery store (a big grocery store chain in Illinios, USA) and I saw a crossdressor walk in with his (either a) girlfriend, wife, or sister. I knew it was a crossdressor because "it' had no woman's figure - slim waist and wide hips. He did a good job though - no hair and a passable voice. What amazed me was that people were not freaking out or making fun of him or pointing him out. I watched him as he went around the whole store and the people just didn't care - they treated him like a lady! Then when he went to the parking lot, I asked my grocery bagger - do you think that's a man? He said "Yes, no figure - that's the second one I saw today. There was another crossdressor in earlier wearing a capri - you could tell it was a man cuz of his muscles." The thing about this is that my neighborhood is not gay. And this crossdressor was tall - like 6' 1" and he wasn't slim or fat.

Anyway, I have noticed at the grocery store that women wear everything there except evening / party dresses / and gowns. They wear from suits to casual. And there are also women with no figures!

Any other Cd'rs with grocery store stories please post here!

[Sherlyn]

Now I am hungry and my grocery store is closed ...soo no story from me :)...I have been in this city all my life and never have seen a cd ....must all be passable ..hmmmm

[DebbieThomas]

I've seen afew in the grocery stores in Lakeland where use to live. Ive moved to NE of Orlando last month to a small town called debary. I go out daily dressed all over the place. anyways I was inside at McDs eating lunch, when this tall girl walks by, knew right off she was a cd/ts. she did her thing in the restroom walked back by and left. a minute later this guy walks in wearing capris, fem top, shoes and his legs were shaven. afew minutes later the girl that went to the restroom came back in and walked up to me, said she noticed that I was TG asked if she could sit and chat. great girl plan to go clubing sometime with her. while talking I asked how many TG she knew in the area, oh 20 or so. I named off 6 girls she didnt know not including the TS I live with. cant believe this redneck town has so many TGs living here. :D if theres 25+ of out of the closet girls in a town of 7,000 people, makes me wonder just how many of us are out there. come on girls time to come out and play!

Debra Thomas
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[StephanieCD]

Ya know - I've seen a couple of "maybes" around here.. .I always feel bad when I "spot" one... if it's a guy I feel bad because I made him and if it's a girl I feel bad for thinking it. Either way, I feel bad for judging - exactly what we wish didn't happen to us!

[Cindy K]

What amazed me was that people were not freaking out or making fun of him or pointing him out.

My worst fear when I started going out was that people was going to laugh and point or shout insults at me. That simply never happened, I find that women just look and smile politely, where as most men act as if nothing is out of the ordinary

[Wendy me]

ok as a cd i got to do this.....

"Today I went shopping at my local Jewels grocery store (a big grocery store chain in Illinios, USA) and I saw a crossdressor walk in with his "

don't you mean her

"I knew it was a crossdressor "

you probly ment she

because "it' had no woman's figure - slim waist and wide hips.

there again did you realy mean she

ok so what's the point?????as a crossdresser haveing been out and got some off color remarks , then the fun of shopping with some sales people that try to make "us girls" feel like we are committing the crime of the year for buying pantys......haveing steped up to walk a sister that was less than passable out of a croweded mens room in the casino..."she" was brave just stepping out....so this girl not a "it" or "he" was ok in the store and no one gave "her" a hard time or said anything nasty to "her"........??????? way cool............

bingo.... probleme ......seams that the only negitive thing was from ...........

" one of her own people"ok hate the hell out of me but she is one of our own people....how the hell do we get the rest of the world to understand "us" if we don't stop takeing shots at our own.....???????????????

ok flame me if you must but i got this soft spot for "all my sisters out there"

sorry for running my mouth off but lets all think out there.....


last thought .....


girlfreind rember there was at least two crossdressers in there ....you were there too.........


wendy goes and stands in the connor..........sorry i had to vent......

[Sharon]

Thank you, Wendy!!

[Emily Ann Brown]

When I flew back from vacation last month, I swear that the lady sitting next to me wasn't. All the telltale signs. I just ignored her like I would any other passenger sitting next to me. Got her bag out of the overhead compartment for her. She seemed quite tickled at that. I so much wanted to introduce myself, but thought she would have a better memory of sitting next to a guy for 2 1/2 hours and "he never noticed".

Emily Ann

[Mandi]

I like Wendy was dissapointed that Jesse who I assume is one of us referred to her as "it" and thought that the general populous wuold be freaked. I am not "it" when I am Mandi I am her, she etc.

I think however that we are far more aware of cd and tg people that we are more likely to notice than the general population (although I was surprised that the cashier appeared as aware). I have found once I mastered becoming passable the general public don't bat an eye lid because they never noticed. As such becasue we are likely to be more aware it is important that when we come across one of use that we do not bring undue attention onto the person as Jesse did or even by perhaps looking at the person more or differntly than would be the norm as this can only result in discomfort for all and perhaps set back there life as a cd or tg person somewhat. I know wehn I go out it is a real confidence thing and I can still easily get spooked. If you want to do anything then treat the person as the gender they are dressed as and if you feel like it and they appear comfortable and stike up a friendly and supportive conversation.

Jesse is quite right hwever in pointing outthe importance of the hip and waist relationship and I try to choose clothes that make my wasist look smaller relatively to my hips. Spending money on my wig was also an important step to not attracting attention and adding to my confidence.

By the way Jesse I would be interested to know if you are cd or tg and if you get our dresssed as the opposite sex or are just interested. Please son't take my comments as personal as I found your insight valuable and with time Jesse it may become more natural to you to accept us as the gender we appear as at the time.

luv Mandi

[Jesse69]

I like Wendy was dissapointed that Jesse who I assume is one of us referred to her as "it" and thought that the general populous wuold be freaked. I am not "it" when I am Mandi I am her, she etc.

I called him / her an "it" because I didn't know whether to refer to him as a him or her. And I almost went up to him to talk to him in the store to ask him some questions like - does he work in drag ? or - Is that his girlfriend? or - How'd he find a girl that likes his crossdressing?


By the way Jesse I would be interested to know if you are cd or tg and if you get our dresssed as the opposite sex or are just interested. Please son't take my comments as personal as I found your insight valuable and with time Jesse it may become more natural to you to accept us as the gender we appear as at the time.


I'm a closet crossdressor and my avatar is a backside pic of me. The only time I might consider going out in drag is Halloween. I don't go out in drag because I don't want to attract men!

[Mandi]

I thought that may have been the case. Early on in my cd days I would have been thinking along similar lines. I now refer to myself in the femme gender as that is the way I see myself when dressed. Interesting if others like to see themstlve the same way.

I understand your concern with attracting male attention. I have attracted the odd whistle and a guy followed me when I was wearing a short loose dress when down the beach. I was both flattered but uneasy about it. But when dressing if you dress more conservatively with clothes that are typical of where you are going people will not give you a second glance and it is really enjoyable. I particulalry like being able to browse around all the femme clothes with ease when dressed as Mandi.

Have fun

Luv

Mandi

[JoAnnDallas]

I kind do what my sister does. She is a little over weight so her waist is larger than it should be. She wears blouses that have no waist to them.

I have found that it works for me. My waist and hips are almost the same size. It hides my waist and still makes me look femm. At least I think it does.

[Marla GG]

I have been in this city all my life and never have seen a cd ....must all be passable ..hmmmm

Sherlyn, I am in the same boat. I have never in my entire life seen a crossdresser in public, except a couple of times in San Francisco and once in NYC. I love hearing from all of you who go out and do normal, everyday things while dressed. I just wish you would GET OVER HERE AND DO IT IN MY TOWN! :p

Ok, maybe all the girls in Sacramento 100% passable.....but I would have thought that a CD-aware person like myself might have a clue.....

I will tell you this, though: If I am ever lucky enough to come across a "sister," I will see her as a lady and treat her like one.

[Olivia]

I recently took my mother to a doctor's appointment. Just after she was called in, a woman, about 50 I'd say, came in, registered and sat down. I can't be positive but I believe she was a crossdresser. She had on a lovely skirt and I so wanted to compliment her on it and perhaps even say more but I was en drab and didn't want to freak her out any(a stranger, a man gets "too" friendly). I guess she would've appreciated the comments but I was too hesitant. She was so courageous (if she was a cd), and there I was, too timid to say anything, sigh...Olivia

[Natalie x]

ok as a cd i got to do this.....

......seams that the only negitive thing was from ...........

" one of her own people"ok hate the hell out of me but she is one of our own people....how the hell do we get the rest of the world to understand "us" if we don't stop takeing shots at our own.....???????????????

ok flame me if you must but i got this soft spot for "all my sisters out there"

sorry for running my mouth off but lets all think out there.....

....

wendy goes and stands in the connor..........sorry i had to vent......

I know there have been some posts since Wendy contributed this, but there are two very important points here.

1) Wendy is right. If members of the crossdressing community, with the benefit of inside knowledge, can't understand and support each other, how can we expect the ROTW to accept us? Jesse, we are all sisters. For many, the act of going out is a very brave thing to do, and we owe it to each other to affirm and support every crossdresser we meet, whether passable or not.

... but ...

2) We must also be tollerant of each other's shortcomings in the forums. We all come to these forums with different perceptions resulting from different backgrounds. We dress for different reasons, with different expectations from the finished products. We inhabit different communities with different prejudices. It is this site alone that unites us, and through this site we can help, guide and educate each other. The insight we gain into each other's circumstances will help us to be better prepared for the times when we may have to give another crossdresser the encouragement they need.

I hope that Jesse will see that some parts of her comments were, shall we say, a little illconsidered?

[Di]

Thank you Wendy, Mandi and Natalie. I was just shaking when I read this post.

[jo_ann]

where at in illinois? if it were in a certain section of chicago I can see how they blended in.. When I was just outside of amish country (maybe 10 miles outside) in indiana, we stopped at this plus size store to get something for my wife, and I totally knew the girl working there was a guy (bad voice, rose colored glasses to hide the eyes, etc.).. my wife actually didn't even realize it.

[clairebear04]

I live in Orlando and was in a chipotle restaurant the other day. when i walked in i saw this "lady" at the counter and knew instantly that it was a man. she was a big girl with large muscles. it was actually kind of akward for me. i was excited to see another T-Girl outside of the gay club, but my friend doesnt know so i didnt do anything. i couldnt help but stare. lol i felt silly

[Krystal Lee]

I have never seen a sister in the grocery store but have seen two others in the lingerie sections of department stores. At the club last friday night I made a new gg friend and at her table before we met was a lady that I was sure was one of us. After we started talking I inquired about this person (she have left) and was informed she was real. Needless to say, but I will, I was surprised as I thought my radar was infalable! So now am wondering if those I have seen were not what I thought. Guess I need not do any judging. Hugs Krystal.