No Popcorn? :-(

[Persephone]

Short version: You've been invited to a movie by a really nice guy who treats you like a perfect lady and seems to expect nothing in return. He's paid for the tickets. He heads directly for the movie, ignoring the beaconing smell of theater popcorn. Is there a polite feminine way to have him get popcorn and a drink?

Longer version: This really nice guy friend invited me out to lunch yesterday. He's always polite, holding doors, etc. and treats me like a perfect lady. He pays for everything as if we were on a date and seems to expect nothing in return other than my company for the day.

I wore a cute little summer top with a black pleated skirt that really swirls nicely when I walk. I think he likes me to be really girly (isn't that what most guys like?) and, since we were only going to lunch at a place with nearby parking, I wore a pair of open-toed 4-1/2" stilettos.

After lunch he asked if I'd like to go to a movie. I agreed, and we decided on The Proposal with Sandra Bullock.

The parking lot turned out to be a couple of blocks from the theater, but, oh well, if you're gonna be a woman who wears stilettos, then you have to be prepared to walk the walk.

It turned out we were about 1/2 an hour earlier for the movie than we needed to be, so he bought our tickets and suggested that we walk around the shopping area.

We talked and window shopped, and it was really kinda nice.

Then we headed back to the theater and directly for our seats. No popcorn? :sad:.

Actually, it all worked out, because after he'd seen me to a seat (I let him pick where), he did offer popcorn and a drink.

Still, I'm curious, is there a polite feminine way to have him get popcorn and a drink?

[Kathi Lake]

In your best, most feminine nurturing tone, ask him if he is thirsty, or would maybe like some popcorn. It usually gets them out of guy mode, "Huh? Whazzat? Oh yeah, I wasn't staring at your legs - or anything else. Promise!" and reminds them to ask you if you would like a treat. Guys need subtle reminders, poor things - especially if you're wearing something swirly and with cute shoes and the legs and the, . . .

:)

Kathi

[Joni Marie Cruz]

Link your arm through his, touch his upper arm with your free hand, look him in the eye and say, "Umm, doesn't that popcorn smell delicious? I love popcorn at a movie, don't you?" Of course, once he's gotten the popcorn, he'll be sure to ask if you'd like a drink as well. Go for some chocolate coated peanuts, too, I would.

Hugs...Joni Mari

[Mirani]

"Lets get some popcorn - I'll pay"

Actually I hate the smell, the noise and the mess of popcorn. It spoils my enjoyment of the film.

For goodness sake - you had just had lunch! ;)

[Joni Marie Cruz]

For goodness sake - you had just had lunch! ;)

LOL.

Joni Mari

[cdbethany]

just bat the eyelids and say im kinda thirsty and head towards the snacks stand then if he offers to buy the drink ask can we have popcorn too? my gf does it all the time.me personally i hate popcorn it tastes like styrofoam(dont ask me how i know)

love and kisses
bethany xxxxxxx

[TxKimberly]

You mean that "Hey asshole, what kind of chicken shit date is this??!!" may not be subtle enough? Odd, it worked very well for my wife a month or so ago when I headed straight for the movie!

All kidding aside, if I read this correctly, he took you to your seat, made sure you were comfortable, and then HE offered to go stand in line to get you refreshments. Seems to me the guy rocks and I might take a page from his playbook!

[ambe96]

[QUOTE=TxKimberly;1778523]You mean that "Hey asshole, what kind of chicken shit date is this??!!" QUOTE]

OMG I soooo want to use this line next time Im on a date!

I would just say, "Hey Im going to get some popcorn, you want any?" Then that way they either say yes and order with me and pay for it, or I just get it myself! Im willing to pay for my own popcorn cause I LOVE popcorn!

[kellycan27]

[QUOTE=TxKimberly;1778523]You mean that "Hey asshole, what kind of chicken shit date is this??!!" QUOTE]

OMG I soooo want to use this line next time Im on a date!

I would just say, "Hey Im going to get some popcorn, you want any?" Then that way they either say yes and order with me and pay for it, or I just get it myself! Im willing to pay for my own popcorn cause I LOVE popcorn!

I am with you on this one. he paid for lunch and the movie tickets, I wouldn't have a problem springing for the popcorn and a drink. I get a large too,just in case he wanted to share.I love popcorn too!:heehee:

[Sharon]

We're still in the 21st century, aren't we? If I want popcorn and a soda (which I almost always do) then I won't hesitate to buy it myself. Of course, I would ask my date if he wants some also.:)

[trannie T]

If he had a good chance of getting lucky he should spring for the popcorn a drink and a cocktail after the movie. If getting some after the show was not in the cards, buy your own damn popcorn you tightwad!

[FireFoxAngel]

popcorn is bad for you :)

but I personally don't think you can expect it right after a meal!

[JaytoJillian]

"Lets get some popcorn - I'll pay"

Actually I hate the smell, the noise and the mess of popcorn. It spoils my enjoyment of the film.

For goodness sake - you had just had lunch! ;)

LoL

[dawnmarrie1961]

I can open my own doors thank you! Now get your ass up and go get me some popcorn and a drink!!!

[Janet Bern]

Maybe you should spring for the popcorn. Sounds like he picks up everything else.

[Sarah_GG]

I'd offer to get him some popcorn and a drink... he's paid for everything else! :)

[joank]

Just went to a movie with my SO and we bought the special - two large sodas and popcorn---almost $20. How well healed is he?

Seriously though, I would have offered to buy.

[joannemarie barker]

personally i wouldnt want bits of popcorn to be the first thing he feels when he kisses me and slips the tongue in :)

[Lorileah]

So are you still scraping that sticky mess from the floor from your nice shoes?

[Ralph]

Why not cut to the chase and tell him up front how much you expect him to spend on you? Then he can just pay you at the start and not have to worry about interpreting subtle cues later.

[cindym5_04]

Make the lipsmacking motion, but do it very quietly. Make sure he sees you. When he asks what you're doing, tell him that you're so thirsty and your mouth is so dry that you can't make the sound to go with it.

(okay it's a really silly think that me and my wife do to each other... visually it's a bit entertaining...lost a bit in translation when I wrote it)

or there's the other option (because I like my girls with a bit of attitude, I come off sometimes with attitude when I dress too)...

just say "where are you going? Excuse me, I think I'd like something from the concession stand. Don't just go running off like that".

Like i said.. I'm a bit of a b*tch.

[VeronicaMoonlit]

Short version: You've been invited to a movie by a really nice guy who treats you like a perfect lady and seems to expect nothing in return.

Pardon me, but you went out on what you're describing as a date, and aren't you married?


He's paid for the tickets. He heads directly for the movie, ignoring the beaconing smell of theater popcorn. Actually, it all worked out, because after he'd seen me to a seat (I let him pick where), he did offer popcorn and a drink.

Then there wasn't a problem, other than you wanting to act all stereotypically 50's housewifey passive-aggressive-y


Still, I'm curious, is there a polite feminine way to have him get popcorn and a drink?

I can understand wanting to be polite, but that's pretty obvious isn't it. "Hey, how about we get some popcorn, my treat." As for "feminine", why such a concern that you have to act in a stereotypically feminine way?

If you want to be a woman, fine, but a touch of feminism might do you some good.


All kidding aside, if I read this correctly, he took you to your seat, made sure you were comfortable, and then HE offered to go stand in line to get you refreshments. Seems to me the guy rocks and I might take a page from his playbook!

Yep, he was gooder.


We're still in the 21st century, aren't we? If I want popcorn and a soda (which I almost always do) then I won't hesitate to buy it myself. Of course, I would ask my date if he wants some also.:)

Exactly!


Why not cut to the chase and tell him up front how much you expect him to spend on you? Then he can just pay you at the start and not have to worry about interpreting subtle cues later.

Heh. In other words don't be stereotypically passive-aggressive.

Veronica
Rondelle (Ron) Rogers Jr.

[Ralph]

Heh. In other words don't be stereotypically passive-aggressive.

Actually, I was shooting for something more along the lines of the old joke that ends with "We already established what you are, now we're just dickering over the price."

[docrobbysherry]

She insisted on buying the popcorn and 7 Ups. After all, I supplied the tickets and the flask of tequila for the drinks!:brolleyes:

[Marisa_M]

I would give him a kiss slightly touching his lips and say in a sexy voice:

"Hun...do you know a girl can't live without popcorn and a drink?"

I'm sure I would get all the popcorn I can eat! :battingeyelashes: