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tricia_uktv

07-02-2009, 04:14 PM

When I first started dressing in safe areas one thing that really frightened me was the thought of meeting straight guys (this would often happen because they would specifically go to the areas I went to check girls like me out).

I soon cured that but when I first started dressing in the open it was children I was afraid of and I can remember staying in my hotel room, dressed and ready to go out, for half an hour because I could hear children in the corridor.

Last weekend I was taking the lift to go out with a t-girl friend of mine and it stopped half way. A little boy (about six) with his parents wanted to come in. He looked up at us and didn't know what to do. I winked at him and said "Its alright we don't bite" and smiled at the parents. They walked into the lift and he and I had a bit of a giggle together.

The parents were fine and thanked me. The kid was fine and had a story. There really is nothing to be afraid of

BUT

Who are you scared of meeting?

StevieTV

07-02-2009, 04:25 PM

Meeting another person wearing the same outfit that I'm wearing:doh:

Gabrielle Hermosa

07-02-2009, 04:27 PM

The only thing I really fear is being confronted by a gang of haters who want to teach me a lesson (as in harm or kill me). Hate for those who are different runs strong where I live. A gay man was brutally attacked and beaten by a bunch of thugs just minutes from where I live. It was reported as a hate crime. Most people (like that) think of cd's as gays, and I fear I might run into the same, perhaps even worse because I'm dressed "wrong" in their eyes as well.

I've gotten laughed at before. I don't like it, but it's not exactly something I fear. I'll get laughed at many more times in my life.

I do kind of worry about being hit on by a guy in public, but I don't exactly pass, so I don't think that is a very likely thing at this point.

I can handle myself against a single assailant. Being cornered by a group of hate-filled thugs does scare the hell out of me.

Marissa Mae

07-02-2009, 04:27 PM

Meeting my close guy mode friends that don't know I dress, and having everyone discover Marissa.

PaulaJaneThomas

07-02-2009, 04:32 PM

I don't think I'm scared of anyone. I was always told that kids will read you regardless of however well you think you pass but I've not found this to be so in practice. Nice story.

flic

07-02-2009, 04:36 PM

If i really think about it,,,some days are different to others, some days i feel very unphased about who i might meet,,simply because i am who i am, i can't or won't change it. Other less confident days may cause me to become anxious of meeting anyone,,as it goes though i can't change that unless i sit in all day. So i guess it goes in ebbs and flows, although i wish all days were more like the super confident, head up high days!!! that'd be aces!
flic xxx

5150 Girl

07-02-2009, 05:21 PM

Rednecks scare me

SweetCaroline

07-02-2009, 05:41 PM

No one really. I suppose I would be kinda wary of people I work with, but I don't think any of them would be that surprised, and I more or less consider myself fully out. I'm ready to explain to anyone who I might encounter while out dressed. Part of the reason I went out in the first place was to overcome the fear I had being seen by others.

Lorileah

07-02-2009, 05:49 PM

I don't fear a specific person or group of people. I am just more aware sometimes. There are places I won't venture into no matter what I am wearing.

MissConstrued

07-02-2009, 06:29 PM

Who are you scared of meeting?

Dick Cheney, while on a hunting trip.

kellycan27

07-02-2009, 07:44 PM

Nothing, or nobody! :raisedeyebrow:

dawnmarrie1961

07-02-2009, 08:11 PM

The only one that truly scare me sometimes is myself. I'm always afraid that someday I'm going to do something totally stupid and end up getting myself killed.

The girls at work are always trying to get me to go out to the bars and clubs with the them. I always politely decline the invitations. That is just not my scene. Maybe because I'm so up tight I won't know a good time if it hit me over the head!

I probably just need to loosen up a little bit.

MWCMDarlene

07-02-2009, 08:39 PM

First of all, I am probably more scared of myself than anyone because I am afraid that one day, I will go to far in this CDing and completely blow it (if I haven't already). Secondly, I am scared of my wife who doesn't approve of any aspect of my CDing at all and detests it completely.

Next would be my kids. One probably knows after the other day, when he found one of my bras and my breast forms under the seat of my car. He hasn't said anything yet, but it is probably only a matter of time (probably days). He "caught" me a little over a year ago when I was dressed in the house on my day off and he got out of school early. (I wrote about this incident in an earlier post)

Then last of all, I am scared of the entire community that I live in and am a part of, for I am in a very instrumental position that would bring great shame to me, my family, and my profession if discovered.

Jamie001

07-02-2009, 08:49 PM

Being a CD didn't hurt Rudy Guilianni. Sometimes the fear is mostly in our heads.

First of all, I am probably more scared of myself than anyone because I am afraid that one day, I will go to far in this CDing and completely blow it (if I haven't already). Secondly, I am scared of my wife who doesn't approve of any aspect of my CDing at all and detests it completely.

Next would be my kids. One probably knows after the other day, when he found one of my bras and my breast forms under the seat of my car. He hasn't said anything yet, but it is probably only a matter of time (probably days). He "caught" me a little over a year ago when I was dressed in the house on my day off and he got out of school early. (I wrote about this incident in an earlier post)

Then last of all, I am scared of the entire community that I live in and am a part of, for I am in a very instrumental position that would bring great shame to me, my family, and my profession if discovered.

SuzanneS

07-02-2009, 09:09 PM

Being a CD didn't hurt Rudy Guilianni. Sometimes the fear is mostly in our heads.

Ok, I'm sure I've missed plenty of things and I know I can be slow at times, but what's this about Rudy Guilianni being CD? Seriously, I've never heard of that.:eek:

As far as what I'm afraid of....not being accepted as a CD,I guess I really wouldn't want my neighbors to find out, but if they did, I would hope that they would at least accept what I do 'after hours'...maybe not even accept, but 'live and let live' type of thing. When I really think of it, not just being passable, but being 'understood' that I DO have somethings I like to do in my spare time that may or may not agree with everyone else.
Don't get me wrong...I'd love to be passable, and maybe even fool the neighbors, but if they didn't, I'd love for them to just understand that everyone here on this planet has some things that everyone else does not understand.

Suz

MissConstrued

07-02-2009, 09:12 PM

Being a CD didn't hurt Rudy Guilianni. Sometimes the fear is mostly in our heads.

Hey, if a transvestite can be mayor of New York, run for president, and kick it with Donald Trump...

If the mayor of Denver was one, we'd be proud. Why? Hey, at least he doesn't bugger little boys, like a lot of the politicians!

Ok, I'm sure I've missed plenty of things and I know I can be slow at times, but what's this about Rudy Guilianni being CD? Seriously, I've never heard of that.

80041

susancheerleader

07-02-2009, 09:49 PM

SuzanneS

07-02-2009, 10:20 PM

Hey, if a transvestite can be mayor of New York, run for president, and kick it with Donald Trump...

If the mayor of Denver was one, we'd be proud. Why? Hey, at least he doesn't bugger little boys, like a lot of the politicians!

80041

OK...had to have been a joke or something...gotta say, though, it would be hard to tell it was him unless you knew it beforehand.:)

Suz

Marisa_M

07-03-2009, 04:21 AM

I'm scared of meeting my boss who don't know I dress.

But...who knows? If I'm wearing a sexy dress and show him my legs maybe I can seduce him and get a promotion :devil:

Mya Summers

07-03-2009, 04:22 AM

I am mostly scarred of my parents especially after the way my mother threatened me when she found my stash of clothes when I was 14. She put me in counseling for it, but it didn't work cause I still do it:D

Shari

07-03-2009, 05:49 AM

Nancy Pelosi

Deb The Brunette

07-03-2009, 06:10 AM

When I really think of it, not just being passable, but being 'understood'
Suz

As a side issue that's a great way of looking at this cd stuff

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Kate Simmons

07-03-2009, 07:31 AM

Bill collectors mostly.:)

Joy3

07-03-2009, 08:56 AM

I got a kick out of the Nancy Pelosi remark. I would expand it to include all of the "socialists" that will ruin this great country of ours. I love people but feel that helping people to be independant rather than making them dependant on the government is far preferable to what are now facing!

Joy:)

Intertwined

07-03-2009, 09:17 AM

I don't fear a specific person or group of people. I am just more aware sometimes. There are places I won't venture into no matter what I am wearing.

100% agree, also called, common sense.

Dick Cheney, while on a hunting trip.

Thats not a problem, just don't wear an orange vest, you will be safe.

To be honest, I can only think of 2 things.

1st, meeting my wife while dressed, she knows, she just does not like to see it. It actually happened several months ago, I was taking lunch from work, I was in our favorite restaraunt in one of my favorite skirts, and, my wife and daughter showed up, they joined me for lunch, and nothing came of it, the only thing my wife said later, accidents happen.

2nd, ANY of you, as far as I know, I have never met a CD, I want to very much. Even tho I chat with you guys and gals here, actually seeing someone, well, its just different.

immike

07-03-2009, 09:25 AM

I am 100% afraid of my family.... when or if they ever discover I love to dress as a women.

When I was 11-13 years old. I kept sneaking my sisters clothing and was often caught by my mother, whom then made me feel ashamed and embarrassed. But not enough to stop me, as I did it over and over.
Then I was shipped off to a private school. Where I wasn't able to do this. So I didn't until a few years ago when I wore a skirt at work, as a joke. WHAT A RUSH!!!!
Now I have a couple cheer uniforms, many skirts, women's shorts, bras, pants, sweaters and a couple pairs of high heal shoes. When I am home, I am mostly found in women's clothes.
I am confident my neighbors know. They haven't said anything about it though.

But my family doesn't know. I keep this side of me hidden as best I can from them. Considering how they reacted to it when I was younger wearing my sisters stuff.....
I'm afraid of family,as well.I'm afraid of mother walking in on me,trying on her dresses,
skirts,blouses,shoes,heels,etc.Luckily,she has never caught me&I've been wearing her
clothes for many years.I order frilly stuff&pantyhose out of one of mothers catalogs,but
I love wearing off-black pantyhose&trying on most of mothers giood wardrobe,especially
her good business suits,all her skirtsuits&blouses&heels.I live alone&have a decent
wardrobe,but hers is much more expensive&feels incredible against my skin,the silky soft
fabric.My ultimate fantasy is about to come true,as I have a replica Dallas Cowboys
Cheerleaders uniform,w/out the stars,being custom made for me&I just ordered
waitress pantyhose&white boots,so I can't wait to try everything on

docrobbysherry

07-03-2009, 09:28 AM

My daughters!:eek:

Tasha McIntyre

07-03-2009, 09:51 AM

Being recognized :doh:

Sharon B.

07-03-2009, 10:45 AM

I agree with Marissa and Mya Summers; close male and female friends, family and more important myself.
I'm afraid that should I start going out on a regular basis dressed as a woman I will start enjoying it to much. I would be disowned by family and friends.

tabby1975

07-03-2009, 11:04 AM

I'm scared of how my family and work will act if I ever get caught my wife is so against CD and work wise I've been at my company for 13 years and have made it to upper management plus its oil field related (bunch of haters)

kobe

07-03-2009, 11:23 AM

I think i would be afraid of a man with a time machine. If i even went back one day and ran into my crossdressed self, i wouldnt be able to keep my hands off her.

But we would have a lot in common and she would let my dress to... I think i need a time machine?

Hali

07-03-2009, 02:20 PM

All the fears highlighted in all the posts on this thread and the ones that will be mentioned later and the ones that have not been mentioned run through my head everyday i CD.

tricia_uktv

07-03-2009, 04:15 PM

Thanks girls, some brilliant replies but I'm not sure about American politics :)

I'm pretty much out everywhere and am anticipating coming out further at work (have started that already). I'm out with family, friends and a lot of colleagues.

There is the safety aspect. I have a song I sing in my mind whenever I see danger which alerts me to it. Its almost ingrained now. There are also places my male self wouldn't go to because they are too risky, so there is no way I would ever go there.

What I am most scared of though is myself as many of you have pointed out. I am very happy where I am but want more. The further I go down the line the less easy it is to get back and one mistake could cost me dearly.

For the first time in my life I'm thinking very dangerous thoughts. For now I'm just thinking them, but as I go further who knows what will happen.

That is fun, and I like fun. That is also dead scarry and I don't like scarry. Time will tell but I need my male side to control this whole process.

Sorry, a bit deep but I need it off my chest. I am not going to rush into anything quickly but its almost like when I started out. The nervousness mixed with the exhileration and it is a heady mix.

At least the guilt has gone!

Thanks

trannie T

07-03-2009, 04:47 PM

tricia_uktv

07-03-2009, 05:11 PM

Jacquilynne

07-03-2009, 05:13 PM

What am I most scared of . . .

Hummm. . .

Well, Haters would indeed be a bit scary. . . never been heckled by haters or even laughed at while presenting both though could be scary I guess.

I've been hit on by a few guys. . . not so scary until :eek: they start stalking or asking for some "company" and sit outside of a club waiting for you. . . thats a bit scary!! Quite a bit scary :eek:

But, there are 2 instances that I feel for me are the most scary and one is a bit hard to explain :o

First scary incident would be to run into someone who knows me and my family . . .yeppers, I have yet to run into anyone I know around town and that is a wonder as before when my wife was with me . . it seemed that whenever the family went out anywhere, we would inevitably see someone we knew. For some reason this hasn't happened, yet. I'm waiting for my odds to run up and for me to be out dressed and get spotted and confronted by a co-worker, siblings, parents or friends :O I know it will happen. I have spotted people I know and have been able to avoid them while out so I know its going to happen sometime . . but I still take the risk!!

The other thing that scares me for some reason an I can't explain it as I have gone out and about in all kinds of situations and to all kinds of places with no nerves but whenever I step into a crowded mall. . .I'm nearly petrified!! I don't know why. . . maybe it was because the last time I was dressed up a little too much for the typical shopper. . . that is the only thing I can think of why I was so self-conscious. . . anyway. . .

hopefully this is helpful or at least a cute piece of trivia about me :)

Hope

07-03-2009, 08:23 PM

Rednecks scare me

Me too - but that has nothing to do with dressing.

Angie G

07-03-2009, 08:52 PM

Just the people I personally know.:hugs:
Angie

MissConstrued

07-03-2009, 09:18 PM

Rednecks scare me

Boo!

Oh, I'm sorry... did I scare you?

I am walking down the street and see a group of consruction workers

Judging by the number of construction workers on this very forum, wouldn't you think that's your best bet?

Unless they're Mexicans, of course. (Hey, prejudice is prejudice, right? When in Rome...) :brolleyes:

kellycan27

07-03-2009, 09:28 PM

Boo!

Oh, I'm sorry... did I scare you?

Judging by the number of construction workers on this very forum, wouldn't you think that's your best bet?

Unless they're Mexicans, of course. (Hey, prejudice is prejudice, right? When in Rome...) :brolleyes:

If they were Mexicans they were probably too busy "working" to notice you anyway.

Aubrey Green

07-03-2009, 09:33 PM

Snakes, only snakes. Had several run-ins on the job with rattlesnakes. Don't like snakes of any kind!!!! :daydreaming:

Nicole Erin

07-03-2009, 09:50 PM

IN reality - yes, hicks/rednecks scare me. Other than that, the boogie man

Dick Cheney, while on a hunting trip.

hahah hah a hah a hh aaha :devil:

Miss construed, I gotta hand it to ya - that has got to be the best post in this thread. But joking aside, that would be scary!

I am walking down the street and see a group of consruction workers at the intersection, turning around I see a crowd of teenage girls walking toward me, I turn right and look into a biker bar, turning left I start to hear banjo music. Ain't life grand?

Look down and you see the Devil. Look up and God is laughing at you. Life is a bitch

Rachel Morley

07-03-2009, 10:14 PM

The only thing I really fear is being confronted by a gang of haters who want to teach me a lesson (as in harm or kill me).
That's the only thing I really fear. I feel a bit shy about certain things being said about me to my face when I'm out in public, and I don't like the idea that I can upset say someone who thinks (because of their religion) I'm a bad person and that I'm a sinner to hate .... but it's only violence toward me that I really fear. I've learned (from past experiences when I was young) that no matter how tough you think you are there's always someone not that far away who can seriously kick your ass. :sad:

2B Natasha

07-03-2009, 10:21 PM

I am walking down the street and see a group of consruction workers at the intersection, turning around I see a crowd of teenage girls walking toward me, I turn right and look into a biker bar, turning left I start to hear banjo music. Ain't life grand?

Sounds like you should change your name to Gunga Din (SP) Can you squeal like a pig? Sorry. They just come out sometimes and I can't stop them

The only thing I fear is my wife. Only because she has the power to take my son away from me as CD'ing and transvestism is considered a mental disorder and the court will rule on her side every time, even though I am a better parent IMHO