Pent up inhibitions

[Stephanie Mancini]

Seems to me we girls tend to put all kinds of obstacles in front of ourselves as reasons for not acheiving our full potential as the ladies we undoubtedly are, expletives such as what if, maybe, can't, someday, fear of getting caught and shamed and others too numerous to mention here sound all too familiar in our vocabulary, whilst there are thousands of girls out there who are perfectly happy to live out there entire lives without telling anyone ever they dress or exist, the majority of the girls on this forum if not all(correct me if i'm wrong) have all made the first giant step forward for themselves by reaching out and exhibiting one of the most human of all traits, to be in contact with likeminded, to at least share with another human being on this planet of ours that as girls they do exist, seems to me we have to set little goals for ourselves to make any personal progress, now i know that some of you girls need a sharp kick up the backside to make things happen so here's your big big chance now to let all those pent up inhibitions take a walk on the wild side for once and choose one acheivable target for the special girl in your life if for nothing else the sheer hell of it and because she's so damn worth it anyway, now remember girls miracle goals can be performed immediately, impossible goals may take just a little longer and who knows it may just make all the difference personally for you



Steph

[Marla GG]

Thank you for that, Steph. Beautifully said.

For some girls, it's a huge step just to go out and buy a pair of pantyhose, or wear women's underwear to work under their guy clothes. Baby steps are so important, and whether they lead to bigger things or not, they deserve to be celebrated!

[Billi49504]

WOW, Steph, I think I resemble those remarks. I get ready and then make all kind of excuses for not doing what I planned to do. But most times I finally give myself that kick in the butt. I usually worry a lot, then when I get started shopping or what ever, I forget the worry and start having fun.
Marla, I remember the first time I bought a pkg of panties from the grocery store. I bought a lot of groceries that I didn't need so I could hide the panties within the rest of the stuff. I felt like everyone was watching me, and my pkg of panties. I'll never forget, the person that packed my order, put the panties on top. As if they knew they were for me...Billi

[Marla GG]

Marla, I remember the first time I bought a pkg of panties from the grocery store. I bought a lot of groceries that I didn't need so I could hide the panties within the rest of the stuff. I felt like everyone was watching me, and my pkg of panties. I'll never forget, the person that packed my order, put the panties on top. As if they knew they were for me...Billi

Doesn't it make you proud to think how far you've come? :thumbsup:

I have so much respect and admiration for those who have broken out of the closet and are not afraid to show the world who they are.....

But I have a real soft spot in my heart for girls who are still too scared to shop for themselves and terrified that everyone will somehow "know" that they crossdress. When I first met Angel, he had never even worn a bra outside the house because he was afraid that it could be seen, but now he even wears them to work! He is also in the habit of wearing some very girly items while in boy mode. We are currently planning our first "real" en femme outing to the mall, and if all goes well, who knows where it will lead....

But every journey begins with a single step, so they say. Setting goals is a terrific idea. Just begin where you are.

[Lauren_T]

One of the things I enjoy about this place is the range of personalities, from those who peek out of the closet, to the bigger-than-life, devil-may-care extroverts. I doubt that I'm the only one who's ventured farther from the closet than I would have, egged on by reading about other gels' experiences big and small.

There's the nuts & bolts of playing dress-up to be sure, but the valuable thing here is getting gels to forsake their safe comfortable homes and get out there and show the world (or bits of it) that we exist! (and that we won't eat their babies, lower their property values or other such naughty things)

Lose your inhibitions or lose your mind!
:duh:

(Speaking of losing inhibitions, where the hell is Minaki and that Bond-girl bikini?) [taps fingers impatiently]





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I'm not sure about life after this
God knows I've never been a spiritual man
-Billy Joel

[Brianna Kylee]

steph, you are so right. I mean, I'm 18 years old, i have my whole life ahead of me. And i've realized this early on it's not about anyone else. Its about me. I shouldn't stuff the real me inside, i should just do what i want and not feel threatened by the ignorance of others. Thanks Steph for the eye opener. :)

[Jenny Beth]

Great post Stephanie and so very true. We ourselves are the only ones who keep us in that closet out of our own fears and inhibitions. My first few outings took an incredible amount of nerve and way back then there were no places like this for support or encouragement. I think in time many here will venture out simply because there are so many success stories here. Hey, we've even got GG's cheering us on now......can't let them down now can we?

[emmicd]

Marla,

You sound like a wonderful woman! You really have compassion and understanding which I appreciate very much. Your husband is very fortunate to have you. I wish all women could learn a thing or two about understanding and tolerance like you so clearly state in your writing.

Thanks for being understanding to us crossdressers and being a part of the community!

Emmi

[Lauren_T]

Stephanie, I so agree! Your words should be heeded by all. Unfortunately some of the sisters face more potentially dire risks from putting themselves in the public eye, sad but true. But those of us who can afford to say 'who cares what others think' are the best candidates for that kick. (some of the bums around here are too damn cute to kick, tho) :love:

and Emmi, you're spot on; Marla, you and every gg who calls here - are the VIPs, role models and inspiration to all aspiring gels. You serve as living proof that acceptance and affection, not merely tolerance, are really out there, which in itself is - or should be - a major motivator, or am I wrong? :confused:

Few will disagree if I say we all thank you for being you and being there...







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Willow sky, oh I walk and wonder why
They say love your brother
But you will catch it when you try
Roll you down the line boy, drop you for a loss
Ride you out on a cold railroad
And nail you to a cross
- the Grateful Dead

[foxylady]

Do what you want and feel free doing it. I don't know what it is like since I am a gg but I do have compassion for all kinds of people. Be yourself as long as you don't offend others. There are people who do not understand this whole thing and you can't expect them to understand but yet you shouldn't feel bad just considerate.
Foxylady