Spotted one of our friends today...

[CharlotteW]

Although I had to take a second look, the lady walking through Old Colwyn was wearing jeans, a black leather jacket, had short(ish) hair and doing a pretty good job of blending in as she walked past the BP petrol station. I so wanted to stop and say hello but I wouldn't want to freak her out. If I ever did say hello to her, what would be the best opening line? Perhaps "Hi I'm in drab at the moment so please excuse me, I just had to stop and say hello".

If she reads this, well done you looked fab, you made my day.

Take care

[Chrissie P]

If she was blending in that well I bet a lot of people did not notice. :heehee: You would have picked it up a lot quicker than anyone else.

[ronniee]

:hugs::)you sound soo nice and a very careing person.i was at the check out stand [dressed] and hapened to drop my wallet when a gentleman picked it up for me.i said thank you sir.but when i looked at him he looked very fimular as i went to my car he followed me and said i know you but pleasee dont be alarmed .we became very very good friend from there on and enjoy one anothers company.thanks ronniee

[Sheila]

I did yesterday in Scarborough, holding hands with her boyfriend and she looked fantastic :)

[CharlotteW]

Thanks for your comments. If I see her again I think I'll give her a girlie smile (rather than a manly nod) and disarm her with the "Hi, I'm sorry I'm not in girlie mode today, I just wanted to say hello and make a friend, here's my mobile number if you fancy a chat". If she has the fortitude to go out dressed, I'm sure she can cope with another CD'er saying hello.

[Kristen Marie]

When I was in Vegas, I had a number of people stopping and saying hi...of course, the casinos are an easy place to do that. I was flattered on the compliments and loved having someone to talk to. I'd say hi.

[MissConstrued]

doing a pretty good job of blending


Not quite good enough, apparently. :)

[CharlotteW]

Not quite good enough, apparently. :)

Well not every CD'er is maxillofacially ultra-feminine with relatively narrow shoulders, dainty hands, sexy gait and lacking any apparent nervousness. All things taken into consideration, she was looking pretty good.

Kindest regards

[Sheila]

Not quite good enough, apparently. :)

maybe she was ................... before being involved with a CDER appart from one in town that was very very obviously "a man in a dress" ... I rarely if ever noticed a cder ............ now because of being involved I do tend to notice just because ....... a bit like women we see but don't notice other pregnant women until we are either pregnant ourselfs, just had a baby or are desperate to have one .............. in the latters case they then see them everywhere ................ make any sense :)

[Jaclyn NM]

I think if I was out dressed, I would welcome one of my crossdressing sisters coming up to me. To me it would be just more validation that I'm not alone.

[5150 Girl]

I don't know, I think I'd be devistated. When I'm out, and trying to pass, I think I would be hurt if I were read, unless the opening line was to the effect of, "the only reason I noticed is beacause I'm a t-girl to and know the symptoms"

[CharlotteW]

Fair comment Sheila. Actually, it was not myself that spotted our friend, it was my wife. I guess that sorta proves your point:)
When my wife told me "Ooh look, you're NOT on your own in the village" I almost didn't believe her and had to make a detour for a second look, don't worry I didn't make it obvious.

[PaulaJaneThomas]

I'm fairly used to people coming up to me and talking to me whilst I'm out and about en femme. Usually they're lost and asking directions. I've yet to work out why they seem to home in on me :confused: But whilst it wouldn't phase me if one of you came up to me and said hello (hopefully swiftly followed by the offer to buy me a pint :drink: ;), it doesn't mean that every other TG you see out and about would be so comfortable with your approaching them. Under that serene exterior she may be bricking herself.

[sterling12]

If you ever see her out again, and you get that "hankerin'" to say hello.....in a word, "DON'T!"

We have discussed this sort of thing before. The odds are very, very, good that she wants to keep her anonymity. It's also likely that she would be devastated that you now know her secret. There is no cleaver thing to say that makes a situation like this better; in fact, it would probably make things worse if you tried to be glib.

I realize it's a terrible temptation, so nice to meet someone like yourself and fantasize about being girlfriends and whatnot. My advise; if you want to meet someone transgendered, join a group. Everyone there is wanting to meet others...if it's what both parties want, then you have a match.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[MissConstrued]

Well not every CD'er is maxillofacially ultra-feminine with relatively narrow shoulders, dainty hands, sexy gait and lacking any apparent nervousness. All things taken into consideration, she was looking pretty good.

Kindest regards


That's all fine and dandy. My point was simple: if someone noticed, then he wasn't blending all that well. It's not a big deal; just pointing out the obvious.

I know damn well I get read... usually in picoseconds. I'd be perfectly happy to have anyone come over and say hello. I'm really quite outgoing IRL, always making new friends -- and quite used to making an ass of myself in front of a crowd. :)

[Jessica Who]

If I were the one being greeted I would prefer a simple hello and smile, nothing more.

[CharlotteW]

"I'd be perfectly happy to have anyone come over and say hello" - MissConstrued.

Well that's really nice to hear, especially from an American. I'm guessing you're strong enough not to need to see a 'therapist' once a month.(see my sig below)

I'm the same way too, I'd be happy for someone (who just so happened to be walking towards me on the same side of the street) to acknowledge me with a smile, introduce themselves and openly admit they spotted me but just wanted to make contact as if to say you're not alone my friend, I support you. Actually, I think I'd feel somewhat empowered by it:) Heck, if I'm going to put myself on show for the world to see then I should expect some comments from time to time, shouldn't I?
Here in Britain, people of all creeds, races, sexual preferences etc are apparently tolerated by the vast majority. Even if someone is offended they stay quiet about it, generally speaking. The only people we would all hope to avoid are the young chavs, you know, the trouble causers who just have to pass comment because they nothing else to do.

Kind regards

[CharlotteW]

If you ever see her out again, and you get that "hankerin'" to say hello.....in a word, "DON'T!"


Hi, I see you put the word "hankerin" in quotes. I don't recall saying I was or would be hankering or hankerin' to say hello.

Please, good people, I like a conversation as much as the next person but please don't twist my words or even add extra words for the sake of effect. Please don't change what I say in order to give yourselves a reason to disagree.

Kindest regards

[Lilith Moon]

I have been on the receiving end of a "friendly" approach several times and the first one was utterly terrifying. It did turn out OK but I didn't know my heart could race so fast. That was when I was much more closeted than now and I had never spoken to anybody while dressed. A friendly "Hiya" is much less traumatic for me these days.