going out ??

[tracey1]

Hi girls,

Well yet again i am sat here in all my finery.I dont have many chances to dress which gets me down greatly,but this week i have had the rare opportunity twice,last tuesday and tonight.I am once again sat in front of my computer dressed in my underwear,dress,new heels,wig,full make-up and shaven as well looking quite good if i say it myself but my problem is i want to go out when it gets dark and go for a ride in the car but just need some desperate encouragement before i back out again as i did on tuesday.Any words of help girls ?

Hugs

Tracey xxx

[Mirani]

What's stopping you?
To Quote Nike ..

"Just do it!"

[xdbiker]

just go for it You will have a great time Out in the world as the New YOU Have funn the first time i went out was with my wife and I had the time of my Life Kisses Jerzie

[tanya-uk]

Go for it girl. :)

[msginaadoll]

You can do it hun! Go for it, you wont look back!

[Carole Cross]

Just go for it. I spent years in the closet and ever since my first outing, I have never looked back. Getting over the nerves is hard but you can do it. :hugs:

[Kaz]

What do want us to say? You have done it already. Hang in there... it gets better.. lol

[DianneRoberts]

I did and I'm kind of not good looking and it was GREAT.

Just do it.

Then write us back and tell us how great it was.

[charlie]

Look up some gay bar around where you are now and go there for a drink. You will have a drink or two, make some friends and see that you are both appreciated and accepted.

[TGMarla]

Hey, driving at night is a piece of cake. Most people can't even see you, and if they do, all they see is a fleeting glimpse of a woman....hopefully a pretty one! :battingeyelashes:

Now, going out in full daylight, when all the world can see....that takes a bit more nerve, but like everyone else says....JUST DO IT!!!

(Especially if, like you say, you look great!)

[guynheels]

I actually have gotten the courage to go out just wearing some clothing and forgetting the makeup. Last weekend I went to one of the local lingerie stores and bought a new pair of heels. I had on my skinny jeans, nylons, and a cute top. Honestly, there were people in the store and no one said a word even when I went to try on the shoes. Sure I get nervous but that is part of the fun. I have gone out fully dressed but usually only at night. Most of the time no one even pays attention to you unless you tend to dress on the trashy side which will get you noticed. I would love to go to a club but my wife is kind of shy and I don't want to go alone.

[carhill2mn]

We can all "encourage" you but you will actually have to take that first step out the door. Once you have done it you will wonder why you had such fears. Go, girl!

[Joni Marie Cruz]

Tracey, hon, I think all of us can relate. But you know what, it's like all the other girls have said, you just gotta climb that ladder up to the highdive, pull your bikini bottoms up nice and snug, and take the plunge. Honestly, for so many years I was just like you, and I bet a lot of other girls were, too, and then finally I did it and it was like..."well what's the big effin deal! Why did I wait so long!".... I have no idea where you're from, but I know you can find local friends and/or support groups there that probably have social events. Or just find some gay/lesbian bar and go there for a drink or two. Just do it, girlfriend. You won't regret it. <sweet sisterly kiss and a pat on the butt>

Heck, take a look at my avatar. Don't I look like I'm having a good time? Yeah, I lost the game, and a dollar, but I did make that shot. And I had fun.

Hugs...Joni Mari

[CD Susan]

Just do it Tracey! Driving while dressed at night is really easy. This is how i first started going out and the more times I did it the easier it got. Now I can go anywhere I want even during the day and it does not bother me. You just have to put those big girl panties on and head out the door to your vehicle and don't think about chickening out. Once you try it you will love doing it.

[PetiteDuality]

Ok, ok.... where are the pictures? :D

[Melissa Rose]

Tracey dear, I know how you feel. As others have said, you just need to build up a little courage and take baby steps. Next thing you know, it will feel more comfortable and secure being away from home. To ease your fears, pick some streets without a lot of traffic to minimize any potential problems like a car accident. You'll notice a few people looking over at you at a stop light then turn away because they are not seeing anything strange or unusual. Surprisingly, that is a confidence booster. If you are really unsure, throw a bag with some boy clothes and facial wipes (to remove makeup) in the trunk so if anything happens you can quickly revert to boy mode.

[Samantha Girl]

You can do it Tracey, just try not to think too much! ;) That's my problem :p

[gennee]

When I went out the first time, I was hooked. Now I'm out practically all the time. Like all the girls said, just do it.

Gennee

[Jenniferca]

Tracey:

5-6 years ago I was exactly where you are today. The first time I went out to a support group, once I got there, I drove past the place about 6 times before going in. We all have had your same feelings.

Today, I'm a regular in a gay/les bar in Phoenix and 3 weeks ago I drove from Phoenix to Idaho as Jennifer...checked into two hotels on the way, had lunches and dinners at various restaurants, played in several casinos and even went grocery shopping. I'm not telling you all this to be bragadocious but only to tell you what's out there for you once you get past the fear.

By the way, every single person I came in contact with on the trip was extremely friendly and very nice to me.

Jennifer
Mesa/Boise

[AllieSummers]

A lot of people never experience some of the most exciting things in life because of fear. They interpret the feeling they get of anxiousness as a bad thing.

I compare it to riding a roller coaster or bunge jumping. Some would never do it because of that feeling. I choose to do it FOR that feeling.

It is all in the way you look at it.

Go for it girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kisses,

Allie

[tricia_uktv]

Go to a place away from home. Somewhere you won't be recognised. Treat it as a holiday (though you will be so tense inside). Go and do it. I promise you'll never look back.

Go on girl!

[trannie T]

I am so glad that I have already been through that. It takes a great amount of courage to close that closet door behind you. If you are like most of us you will be absolutely terrified for a while then come to a point where you are enjoying it and it will be one of the highlights of your life.

[veryinn]

1. Worst case scenario
In worst case, it's best to be seen by stranger, as supposed to your neighbor. Therefore, you might want to partially change, and then fully change in a car or a discrete area.

2. choice of clothing
If this is your first couple try going out in public, I would suggest jeans. It's not as feminine as skirts, but it sure would attract lesser needless attention. Once you get good at make-up and accessory like earrings, you can have all the attentions in the world.