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Kimberly Marie Kelly
07-13-2009, 09:33 PM
I finally know that he knew for a long time. My brother is out from the west coast on business and this last weekend I used the chance to tell my brother about being TS and my transitioning. I could not, out of fear tell him in person, so I left a letter in his Hotel room explaing my being transsexual and starting hormones. Everyone else in my immediate family has been told and was okay with it. I was expecting to have the hardest time with my brother but was surprised and shocked by what he said. To preface that when we came back from the city back to his hotel room he made a statement to me that he realized that God made me different and in my mind "I said You don't know the half of it." I left my letter with other material for him to read as well, that evening..

Well tonight, he called me to say he read it and was not surprised. What shocked me the most was what he said afterwards, that he knew from about age 11, I would have been 9 years old then, that I was more a girl in a boys body and thought more like a girl. His concern is for my health and warns me that both the HRT and surgery takes alot of of you. He say's that from seeing me this weekend, he feels that I have lost muscle tone and gained some weight and looked more tired than in previous visits, back in February. He told me he will support me and not disown me, both which were greatest fears about telling him. He is a christian and tells me that in his view the Bible does not mention anything specifically against transsexuals, as long as I stay believing in Jesus as Lord and Saviour, it's not his place to judge me or anyone for that matter only to love them as Christ loves us.

He as had other friends of his, transition so he has had some experience with others and warns me to be careful of relationships with men. As he says there are many men who are predators when it comes to transgendered people and to be careful with them, if I would choose a relationship with someone. As he mentions many TG individuals have fragile personalities and are easily attracted to people who are sympathetic to them and can be taken advantage of easily. He warns me the path is not easy because even though you don't hear comments directly from people, people are very two-faced, as he hears comments about his friend Mike who goes by the name Liz, from people who supposely are friendly to him. He say's he will probably still call me Mike as it is force of habit.. I told him he can..

I am so happy and relieved, he was the one person I thought would be the hardest person to tell and to think he knew I was more a girl since I was age 9. So tonight was a very good night for me.......:):):battingeyelashes::battingeyelashes:

Katelyn
07-13-2009, 10:28 PM
That is a touching story. I'm so happy that everything worked out. It's nice to know that you still have a brother that cares deeply for you and loves you. Good luck with the rest of your journey. :hugs:

pamela_a
07-13-2009, 10:40 PM
What a wonderful story Kimberly. I'm so very happy that your brother accepts and will support you. You're a very lucky girl.

-Pam-

TJ Tresa
07-13-2009, 11:41 PM
Let me add my congradulations to those above. YOu are very lucky to have an acceepting brother. Good luck with your future.

sandra-leigh
07-14-2009, 12:17 AM
Interesting!

The people I've told... none of them suspected

(well, my wife knew -something- was up when she found a pair of my forms... kind of fortunate in a way, in that if she'd found something else she might have been misled into thinking I was having an affair or something like that.)

On the other hand, none of them have been surprised... though my GP (doctor) expressed doubt in a way, by saying "But I've never seen you wearing women's clothes" (actual truth: they'd been almost all women's clothes)

Veronica_Jean
07-14-2009, 06:41 AM
Kimberly,

I am quite touched by your brother's reaction and thrilled for you. I know how many of us spend months or years dreading telling someone very close to us especially family members. Your brothers seems very special and genuinely concerned about you and your future.

I love happy tears!

Veronica

deja true
07-14-2009, 06:58 AM
As much as we sometimes rail against the "christian" morality that condemns us so frequently...

It looks like your brother is a true christian and loves you without exceptions.

Good for you, Kim, and good for him!

Congratulations, dear one!

:)

Sheila
07-14-2009, 09:15 AM
Kim, WOW!!!!! thst is fantastic ............... I am so pleased for you & your brother :hugs:

MJ
07-14-2009, 02:49 PM
i'm happy for you sis :hugs:

Kimberly Marie Kelly
07-14-2009, 05:24 PM
because of his response, I know I am blessed. I can't express my feelings I have now.. Just plain joy, relief and peace. :battingeyelashes:

Chelseaswpa
07-17-2009, 10:42 AM
Congrats Kimberly! My (older by 7 yrs) brother now knows as well- my sister told him last fall. I am fine with that as well, because he and I are not close, but my Sister is my best friend. The first words out of his mouth were "it must have been all that dope he smoked when he was younger"! He and his family came by a few weeks ago to visit, thank goodness my Sister was here. He said like 3 sentences to me and generally avoided me. So in closing I am glad that it has worked out for you hon. I realized a long time ago that there were gonna be some people who just never get it. You are very fortunate and wish you much continued success! hugs

Carole Cross
07-17-2009, 11:02 AM
That's great Kimberly. knowing that you have family and friends to support you makes you feel more confident that you are doing the right thing, I have found. None of my family really suspected anything which did surprise me a little, I must have hid my feelings better than I thought.
Your brother will probably adjust to your transition quicker than other members of your family as my elder sister has with me. I think parents will probably take a little longer to adjust.

Fred
09-02-2009, 04:21 PM
Hi Kimberly, I was really touched by this message here! I am so glad for you. Especially too, as it reminds me, my own brother of years past died. He died tragically, by shooting himself. I normally do not mention this to people. But this was a long time ago when I was a teenager. But I still miss him. I don't know if he ever knew that I felt like a girl. I often wonder. But not the chance to find out. But you Kimberly, are so fortunate in having a good kind brother that you do!! And a Christian at that!!
I am a born-again Christian as well, not that this matters to anyone here, or that it matters not. I do not care! It is how I am and I will not turn from my Lord and Savior. Someone here said, "That we rail against Christianity". Yes, perhaps we do. But it should not be us railing against Christianity, but should be against those who do not uphold the Christian faith in the way that they should. When we see the actions of Kimberly's brother, we see a true representation of Christianity at work. Of acceptance!! This is the way it should be! God bless Kimberly!

Teri Jean
09-02-2009, 09:51 PM
Kim, that is such good news and his being so insightful at a young age is something wonderful about his nature. I suspect he will be closer than ever before. I'm happy for you.

Huggs Teri

Steph2003
09-03-2009, 08:06 AM
Congrats Terri -

I haved a large family and don't know how they'll take it whenthe time comes - It has been my biggest concern, them not accepting me.

Hopefully they'll be as understandingas your brother!

Steph:)

CharleneT
09-03-2009, 09:28 AM
Oh that is great ! I think it is wonderful that he has some experience with TG's and transition. I told my brother a couple of weeks ago. While he doesn't have such experience, he is open to being supportive.

It is SOoooo.... spooky to tell a close relative. I have another brother and mother to go... but those two I think I need to do in person.

Congratulations to you !! :hugs:

Charlene