jenniferj
07-14-2009, 06:26 PM
We have a frequent repeat of the question "should I (as a guy) acknowledge a CD/Tgirl when I see her in public?" I generally say no, but if eye contact happens a nice smile is a sweet thing to do. Here's a good example.
I was in guy-mode moving through Heathrow (London) a couple of weeks ago and got on one of the long up-escalators. Directly in front ( a couple of steps up) of me was a tallish, thin girl who was very much involved with a handsome young man. I happened to notice that her long blond hair was pulled up into a wavy, curly updo that seemed to be help in place with a single butterfly clip. Casually I tried to figure out how she did it (I'd like to do the same thing), but I didn't want to stare. As I started to look away (toward the boyfriend) she turned her face toward him to say something. I noticed then that she had quite a prominent brow ridge (like mine) with carefully shaped, very thin eyebrows. And the tiniest hint of an Adams apple. And quite a deep voice (speaking -I think- German).
I can't stress enough that she was (is) absolutely gorgeous, and that I was probably the only one in the whole airport who knew - I just happened to be in the right place to notice her hair, which led to the rest of the things. As we got off at the top, they stopped for a second and I walked past; she was wearing a black velour pants/hoodie set with a pink tank top underneath (again, I didn't stare). She was showing off quite a bit of cleavage (I know, JJ is a prude) and was not the slightest bit uncomfortable. A minute later I stopped to adjust my carryon/coat/briefcase and they walked past me. I ended up following them for a hundred yards or so since we were heading for the same group of international gates. I noticed that she had a lovely walk, but that the elastic waist of her pants allowed them to slip down over her narrow hips, showing off a very attractive patch of skin in her lower back. And she made a delightful little hop as she pulled them back up.
I passed them one more time as we queued up for the train, but the opportunity for casual eye-contact never happened. I still smiled in her general direction in case she had noticed me being "observant".
I think that she was totally unaware that she had been read, and would have been upset by any sort of "I know what you are-good job"
So, I propose the jj-criterion:
If we see one of ourselves who seems to be beyond worrying about being read, treat her as you would any other girl.
If we see someone who is obviously uncomfortable, a smile and an encouraging word is a nice thing to do.
And if we see one of us who is looking for attention, (drag queen style), it would be rude not to notice and talk to her.
Whatcha think?
-jj
I was in guy-mode moving through Heathrow (London) a couple of weeks ago and got on one of the long up-escalators. Directly in front ( a couple of steps up) of me was a tallish, thin girl who was very much involved with a handsome young man. I happened to notice that her long blond hair was pulled up into a wavy, curly updo that seemed to be help in place with a single butterfly clip. Casually I tried to figure out how she did it (I'd like to do the same thing), but I didn't want to stare. As I started to look away (toward the boyfriend) she turned her face toward him to say something. I noticed then that she had quite a prominent brow ridge (like mine) with carefully shaped, very thin eyebrows. And the tiniest hint of an Adams apple. And quite a deep voice (speaking -I think- German).
I can't stress enough that she was (is) absolutely gorgeous, and that I was probably the only one in the whole airport who knew - I just happened to be in the right place to notice her hair, which led to the rest of the things. As we got off at the top, they stopped for a second and I walked past; she was wearing a black velour pants/hoodie set with a pink tank top underneath (again, I didn't stare). She was showing off quite a bit of cleavage (I know, JJ is a prude) and was not the slightest bit uncomfortable. A minute later I stopped to adjust my carryon/coat/briefcase and they walked past me. I ended up following them for a hundred yards or so since we were heading for the same group of international gates. I noticed that she had a lovely walk, but that the elastic waist of her pants allowed them to slip down over her narrow hips, showing off a very attractive patch of skin in her lower back. And she made a delightful little hop as she pulled them back up.
I passed them one more time as we queued up for the train, but the opportunity for casual eye-contact never happened. I still smiled in her general direction in case she had noticed me being "observant".
I think that she was totally unaware that she had been read, and would have been upset by any sort of "I know what you are-good job"
So, I propose the jj-criterion:
If we see one of ourselves who seems to be beyond worrying about being read, treat her as you would any other girl.
If we see someone who is obviously uncomfortable, a smile and an encouraging word is a nice thing to do.
And if we see one of us who is looking for attention, (drag queen style), it would be rude not to notice and talk to her.
Whatcha think?
-jj