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Kimberly Marie Kelly
07-22-2009, 08:59 PM
Today I sent an email to every friend in my personal email address book. As I have told my family and some close friends and they have all been accepting of Kimberly, I felt it was time to start telling my friends. here is the email I sent to my friends;

Dear Friends,

Recently, I told my brother a revelation, the funny thing is he revealed to me a revelation. He told me that God made me different from him, he said he knew I was distinctly unique from age 11. That would have made me about 9, My revelation which I have just come to understand in the last 10 months is that I am a transsexual, essentially a woman inside a male body. My brother told me that he knew from age 11, that I thought more like a girl than a boy, I disliked pretty much any activity that boys engaged in. As I grew older I realized that I was different but could not pinpoint or understand the reason. Many transsexuals realize at a very early age they are girls in a boy's body and deal with their situation early in their lives. For me, like other transsexuals, we go thru life not knowing what is different about us, we lead the life that others expect of us. We marry, have families, but as we grow older this person, this inner feminine person yearns to be her and to no longer live the persona we have lived all of our life's.

As I have come to accept myself, that I am a woman inside, a calm has come over me and I have been more at peace with myself than ever before. I am finally happy with myself. I realize that this is going to be a shock to some and a lot of information to absorb. I have accepted myself and I have decided to begin the process of transition. This process will ultimately help match my body gender with my mind's gender. This process begins first with my own acceptance, the second stage which I have started is HRT. This is where I am taking Anti-testosterone drugs and Estradiol (estrogen), this HRT regimen will help my body develop more feminine characteristics, such as breast's, smoother skin and fat re-distribution (rounder face, hips etc..) but more importantly a better mental state. In time hair removal and SRS (Sexual Reassignment Surgery) would be considered.

No one knows what causes transsexuals, but the prevailing medical consensus is that at various points in a embyro's development, hormones cause the brain to develop a brain gender, either male or female and later as the babies body develops, hormones again cause the development of the male or female reproductive systems. These two developments occur during different periods in the babies growth. The theory is that if the mother is taking different medications, or drugs or have other issues these hormone levels may vary considerably causing the brain to develop as a female, but the body developing as a male, causing one to be transsexual. Since there is no way to correct the brain's gender, it has been found to be easier to alter the body to match the gender identity of the person. When these match the person finally becomes the person he or she was meant to be.

This is where I'm at, I know who I am and have started the process to match my body with that of my mind. Just to let you know my immediate family already knows about me. My hope and prayer, is that you, my friend, can accept me for who I am and not what society tells you I am. Society has many stereotype's about Transsexuals and I can say they are mostly wrong. I know this is a shock but all I ask is your continued friendship, understanding and support. I hope you can do this, as I value your friendship. As I will be transitioning, I will be taking a new name for myself, in time it will become my legal name. My chosen name is Kimberly or Kim for short. If you want to talk to me I will answer your questions to the best of my ability. I plan on transitioning at work, but have not informed co-workers of my transition plans yet. If you as a friend knows someone I work with please don't tell them, let me tell them in my time.

Sincerely your friend,
Kimberly aka Michael Kelly


I will see what the response is tomorrow.

Kimberly :battingeyelashes:

Jessinthesprings
07-23-2009, 01:12 AM
wow! that was gutsy, but I'm sure you have come to the point where living a lie was no longer acceptable. I am proud of you and wish I had half your courage. I hope the rest of your friends are as accepting as your family has been.

Katelyn
07-23-2009, 03:11 AM
I look forward to reading the responses from your friends. So far it has been positive. I hope it stays that way for you. Congratulations on taking yet another difficult step in your journey.

Teri Jean
07-23-2009, 06:31 AM
Kimberly, that is wonderful and as Jess said really gutsy. But being at the same point I understand. Tuesday I had an appointment with the Dr. for physical and went underdressed with make up, no lip stick. That went well and got a referral for a therapist. Then out of the blue a friend of years ago e-mailed and ask what I have been up to since we last seen each other. So my answer was very simular to yours. Congrats and hope the best for you.

Huggs Teri

Eileen
07-23-2009, 04:28 PM
Good for you Kimberly! You have taken a really big step in your life. One that, it seems, will bring you even more in touch with your tru self. All the best to you in your journey.

Eileen

Kimberly Marie Kelly
07-23-2009, 04:49 PM
So far the responses are short and sweet.

Here they are, 1 friend replied:

Kimberly,

Run your car off the side of the road
Get stuck in a ditch way out in the middle of nowhere
Or get yourself in a bind,
Lose the shirt off your back,
Need a floor, need a couch, need a bus fare…

This is where the rubber meets the road
This is where the cream is gonna rise
This is what you really didn’t know
This is where the truth don’t lie

Ya find out who your friends are
Somebody’s gonna drop everything
Run out and crank up their car
Hit the gas, get there fast
Never stop to think “what’s in it for me?”
Or “it’s way too far”
They just show on up
With their big ol’ heart
Ya find out who your friends are.

Everybody wants to slap your back
Wants to shake your hand
When you’re up on top of that mountain
Then a-one of those rocks will get wet
And you slide back down
Look up and see who’s around then

This is where the road comes to an end
This is where the band wagon stops
This is just one of those times when
A lotta folks jump off.

Ya find out who your friends are
Somebody’s gonna drop everything
Run out and crank up their car
Hit the gas, get there fast

Never stop to think “what’s in it for me?”
Or “it’s way too far”
They just show on up
With their big ol’ heart
Ya find out who your friends are.

When the water’s high
When the weather’s not so fair
When the well runs dry
Who’s gonna be there?

Ya find out who your friends are
Somebody’s gonna drop everything
Run out and crank up their car
Hit the gas, get there fast
Never stop to think “what’s in it for me?”
Or “it’s way too far”
They just show on up
With their big ol’ heart
Ya find out who your friends are.

See you next Friday, friend.

Love you,
Franc & Christine


A previous boss and friend replied:

hey kim
if there is anything i can do, don't hesitate
we have been friends for years and you have been there for me whenever you could
best of luck with this life change, God bless\
scotty o

An Uncle of mine on my Mom's side replied:

Kimberly, I am perfectly comfortable with your change, and I support you completely.

Jim

I thanked God for all the positive responses last night. With all the positive responses from both christian relative's and non-religious friends I've come to my own conclusion that being transsexual is not against God as some people would say. With all the responses so far it makes me so happy to know people will accept me. I realize that not all people will respond well, but so far it's be far smoother than I could have imagined.

Kim :battingeyelashes:

Plasibeau
07-23-2009, 05:00 PM
:cheer:

Kaitlyn Michele
07-24-2009, 08:34 AM
Hi Kim! I think that first response was a little less than "short" :heehee:

You are just doing great and I'm so happy for you...having sat with you in our group therapy I can see how far you've come in expressing yourself in a very short time......kudos to you...

it sounds like you have some great friends and family and that is sooo helpful in all this...

over time, you will likely find that some of those who responded positively will not stay close, but that's the nature of the beast...you are changing and not everyone will be able to or want to change with you. That doesnt mean they don't care or love you...it just means that they are not moving on with you...

Are you planning to personally reply to each reply you get??

XOXO
michele

Veronica_Jean
07-24-2009, 05:08 PM
Kimberly,

It is so gratifying to see people respond so well. I am thrilled that the responses have been excellent and hope you continue to receive a lot more!

Well done and good luck!!

Veronica

Kimberly Marie Kelly
07-24-2009, 07:26 PM
I have replied to everyone with a personal response to those who have responded so far. I have had many friends over the years and have found that friends come and go, you drift apart and how close you stay depends on how much attention one gives to the friendship, how much you value that friendship.

I'm not naive to know that some of them will respond well and then drift apart. In fact one of my friend, a previous coworker has not responded at all and we used to talk or email almost everyday. So I think I have lost one friend, but I'll wait. :battingeyelashes:

MelissaSue
07-25-2009, 12:41 PM
The fact that so many people are responding positively says something about you as a person, and the relationships that you have. That should make you feel so awesome!

Kimberly Marie Kelly
07-25-2009, 03:11 PM
It made my day. Kim :battingeyelashes:

sheridan
07-26-2009, 09:35 PM
I know its a terrifying experience, I did something similar just a few months ago. All I can say is that people will surprise you and it will be a huge weight off of your soul. I felt that I relieved 30 years of stress in one moment. I was elaed to find that I had people that loved me and cared for me no matter what. I found out who my true friends were and I discovered the true nature of the people I thought I knew. This sort of thing either brings out the best or the worst in people. Be prepared to lose friends and at the same time discover a whole new level of love. Best of luck to you and remember no matter what happens who stays and who goes you will always be loved and accepted, you will always have people who care about you and you are not alone.

kellycan27
07-26-2009, 09:50 PM
Bravo! I am so happy for you!
Kelly

Kimberly Marie Kelly
07-26-2009, 10:03 PM
As he did not respond right away, he usually responded the same day but I sent another email and he responded right back. It seems he was not online for several days and just didn't get the email for a few days..

His response was: Hey Mike. I apologize for my silence. I haven't been online for a little. I need to get to bed but I wanted to tell you that I am glad you were able to really find yourself. I am behind you 100%


So my internal fears step in the way again. But what I am learning is that far more people are accepting of, in my case being a transsexual, than I ever thought. It has made being me and eventually presenting as Kim at work in the short term future.. Why I waited as long in my life for this is beyond me.
Kim :battingeyelashes:

Aubrey Green
07-26-2009, 10:12 PM
Kim, that is great news. It sounds like the responses are positive. I am so happy for you. Another hurdle leaped. Congrats!!!

:^5: :jumping: :rave: :yrtw:



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