Lost the "Drive" to dress?

[Nessa88]

For 3 weeks now I have had no desire to dress what so ever. I believe I might have overdone 4 weeks ago to the point it was like eating a certain food for a week. Is this normal? Is it due to low estrogen levels?

[Ras]

i go through period s in which I want/need to dress more and some times less. This is primarily due to the guilt feeling relating to dressing I am sure we all feel from time to time.

When I have the need or desire.I act upon it

[Nessa88]

i go through period s in which I want/need to dress more and some times less. This is primarily due to the guilt feeling relating to dressing I am sure we all feel from time to time.

When I have the need or desire.I act upon it

With me there is no guilt feeling. I lack that.

[Wen4cd]

I have no guilt feeling either, but have gone through months-long periods without dressing.

I like to phrase it as "She comes and goes."

[TJ Tresa]

Nessa, I wouldn't worry about it. I am sure the desire will come sooner or later. I have went for months and thought I was over it. but something will trigger the desire and you will not rest until you have something feminine on. If you are trying to quit then this would be a good time, if not don't fret your pretty little self IT Will Come Back.

[Erica K.]

I wouldn't say you lost the "drive", it hasn't been that long. I mean some people don't get the opportunity to dress once a month even. I went 2 weeks without dressing last month due to being depresed, I didn't even shave my legs or facial hair (not normal for me now). Then I remembered I love pantyhose & silky things, I have dressed every day since. guilt free, by the way :)

[Alana Beaumont]

I think its safe to say that most of us go through periods of time where we have little or no drive to "dress." I know that I will sometimes dress (partially if not fully) every night of the week. However, due to a hectic social and work schedule, I find myself only "dressing" once or twice a month. Meanwhile, much of the time, I'm wishing that I was "dressed."

[Alice B]

It is no big deal. We all have such periods. Because I travel a lot there are times when I go a month or more without dressing or any reference to it. I live and when the urge is strong I act accordingly.

[Sarah-RT]

I occasionaly dress, but recently i completely lost the desire for around the similar lenght of time, but i went out shopping, which was against my desire and the urge is back

maybe that, if you want it, would rekindle the desire?

[ClaudiaDawn]

Something similar happened to me a while back, I also posted a thread here called "Dressed out" (I don't know how to post the link). Anyway, the urge will be back, in the mean time, enjoy your guy time! For me it was a little bit of a relief not to have to think about dressing for a few days.

Hugs,

Claudia Dawn

[Michelle S]

Do what you want when you want. If you need break from CDing, take one. I didn't dress for a year once. I just didn't feel like it.

[Holly]

Well, put it in park for a bit. Soon enough you'll be be shifting out of neutral and back into overdrive before you know it! (And not to worry... it happens all the time.)

[Deedee Dupree]

Sounds like a normal short cycle to me ... the amount of time you mentioned isn't a big deal.

For me, there are short and long cycles. The short cycle fluctuating within the longer. Short cycle is counted as weeks & months, long cycle is 1 1/2 or more years.

Right now I've just entered the male side of a long cycle, that means for the duration, I will dress enfemme infrequently, spending most of my time in male mode or what I call "in combination mode" a middle ground. When I am in Female mode of a long cycle I spend most of my time dressed enfemme, and when necessary will dress in male mode for short periods of time..

[jenna_woods]

I think we all have gone through not wanting to dress but belive me you willstart again, I sure did

[JenniferR771]

Oh yes, Ness. It happens to me. Last week for instance.I was not in the mood to shop. But I was near my favorite thirft store (drab) and just stopped to say hello. I ended up with a beautiful dress, a wig in red and a wig stand. Full story later and pics when I get done trying it on and typing it in.

[Celeste]

That happens to me a lot too,sometimes I'll go a month and then get inspired by something or another.Sometimes I won't really pick up on what got me going strong again.I sure would give anything to know exactly why the urge goes and then returns with a vengeance.The answer must lie in our fluctuating hormone balance or lack there of.

[docrobbysherry]

IT'S BACK!:eek:

Happened to me last year! :)

[Bluesman]

Totally normal, from my personal experience. The desire to CD (like many desires) ebbs and flows. I go through varying lengths of time with a strong desire to dress everyday, periods of medium desire, and periods of zero desire. Just accept and enjoy each different stage.

[Crysten]

I think it's interesting that you're so deeply concerned that the desire is momentarily not there. So many people wish the desire would go away permanently. 99% of the time, it doesn't.

Er, could it just be "that time of the month"?

Could be. And if it happened once, guaranteed, it will happen again.

Crysten

[jazmine]

For 3 weeks now I have had no desire to dress what so ever. I believe I might have overdone 4 weeks ago to the point it was like eating a certain food for a week. Is this normal? Is it due to low estrogen levels?

Don't know. But I am in a low point right now too. Lately it's been nothing but tunnel vision when it comes to my Dodge Challenger restoration.

Everything is a cycle for me. My arcade games, my guitar playing, my challenger resto, my oil painting and my crossdressing. When I'm in a certain cycle, it's full bore, and complete tunnel vision with it.

[Kara Connor]

I suggest counselling, or hypnotherapy to help you get started again. OK, just kidding. I know I go through cycles when the urge to dress is much stronger, and other times when it isn't there. Given the stories of people "purging" only to have to buy everything again, odds are the urge will return.

Don't want to hijack the thread, and apologies if this has been asked before, but if there was a one-off pill or treatment that was virtually guaranteed to take away your urge to be a CD, would you take it?

I definitely wouldn't. Its just a part of me and I'm fine with that.

[NikkiBeth]

I am going through that cycle, right now. My wife was gone all last week and the "pink fog" never blew through.
This was the first time I can remember that I did not dress, when I had the house all to myself.
I do know that this too shall pass, and Nikki will come out to play.

[DianneW]

I lose the drive the summer months. To many other things to do & sometimes its just too hot.

[stephaniedoes]

i to have exp. this feeling, for me it was the inability to share how i looked and felt and thought whats the point? but short lived, i was back and running but to know that i really wanted to share gave me a new desire to go out no matter what anyone thought.. hope you make it...:)

[victoriamwilliams1]

I have those times as well in fact I am on a vacation from dressing, I did dress last week but I was not feeling like doing what I normally do as Victoria so I did a few photos. At that time I had gone almost 3 weeks without dressing and for me I do take the hotter months off from dressing. Plus schools out so that makes it harder.

[MarcieBflo]

Because the urge. . . .the desire, "I have to feel feminine" (and sexy) always returns, for me anyways. And your NOT a weirdo babe . . .

[KimberlyJo]

A little while back I went through a similar cycle of not wanting to dress. I missed it, but I just didn't really have the desire. I thought it might be gone. But I got some new clothes and whammo I'm back in a cycle of dressing regularly again.


I lose the drive the summer months. To many other things to do & sometimes its just too hot.
:eek: it's NEVER too hot for a miniskirt!!!!! When it's hot that's ALL I want to wear. But yeah, it's can be a little too warm for a wig.



Don't want to hijack the thread, and apologies if this has been asked before, but if there was a one-off pill or treatment that was virtually guaranteed to take away your urge to be a CD, would you take it?

Ok thread-jacker, I'll bite.

Nope, I wouldn't. And I seriously hope that such a thing never comes to pass. I firmly believe that crossdressing is not a disease or a mental illness or something that requires curing.

I guess what you're asking is, do you like your cding or do you wish it was gone. Well, I for one love it and want it with me forever.

[Charla McBee]

I don't know anything about that as I must have a three year deficit built up. Just last week I finally got to that point where the need to go all out got so intense that it overpowered my inhibitions and allowed me to just buy a full set of clothes at walmart, albeit 300 miles from home at 4AM.

Is crossdressing like sleep, in that you build up a debt and end up overdoing it if you're deprived? I guess I'll find out now that I finally have the capacity to fully indulge at will for the first time since I was 17.

[Gisele]

My desire use to come and go alot way back when. I think it is just a stage that we go through. I have been going strong (dressing as a woman) for about 9 years now (execpt at work or around family). I have been finding it harder and harder to dress in male mode now.:doh:

[Sallee]

that has happened to me usually after a period of dressing frequently. It becomes opld hat and I loss the thrill. It just gets old. I can't really explain. I get really into dressing maybe 24/3 or 4 and then it begins to subside and dressing almost becomes a chore An enjoyable one but just not as much fun

[JoAnne Wheeler]

I have had those "periods", but fortunately I was able to get over them and get back to my feminine side where I belong

JoAnne Wheeler

[Carly D.]

I'm in a dead lull right now as far as dressing up fully is concerned.. I still wear a bra daily and shoes but rarely wear any more than that.. I'm in a lull I guess.. the drive to dress up fully is gone and although I blame the weather (I hate to dress up when it is hot) it hasn't been that hot of a summer until now.. so what am I done cross dressing fully forever?? did I stumble upon a mysterious cure for cross dressing?? I think I'm just waiting for that feeling to hit me again... I've had troubles of sorts recently that in the past would make me want to dress up and by now I would have I think in the past.. but not now.. I don't know what gives..

[Frédérique]

For 3 weeks now I have had no desire to dress what so ever.

I come here to maintain my enthusiasm. It’s true. It always works, too. Only fatigue seems to curb my desire to dress up – once I’m rested I’m good to go. I did lose the drive a few years ago when I moved here, but that had less to do with my desire and more to do with being overly apprehensive about everything else in my life…



I lose the drive the summer months.


This summer I’ve been very actively dressing for some reason, and it’s been HOT! Needless to say, I’m looking forward to the return of cooler weather in a few months. Autumn in Kansas literally lasts a week.



…if there was a one-off pill or treatment that was virtually guaranteed to take away your urge to be a CD, would you take it?


No. What’s it called – cyanide?

[Renee Demarea]

The Best thing to due is try too loose weight when you stop and loose a dress size then you can go shopping.:)

[Michelle123]

I am in my mid 50's now, and I must say that back in my younger yrs., the desire to dress would diminish at times, probably for the same reason you mentioned. Just over did it for a while.
But for at least the past 10 yrs., The desire is always there now. I have read from others that as we grow older, this is quite common.

[Roxi Loh]

I recently lost my job and have much more opportunity to dress but I have not in over 4 months. I think the weight of the job search is wearing on me and has affected my desire to dress as a woman. I know it will come back but in the meantime its more job searches.

[janet p]

I think it must have been something in the air because I had the same feeling about the same time,but I'm getting back to normal and going to a GNO tomorrow night.:love::love: