Dads asking mom questions about me

[Penelope Marie]

think they may be onto me. my nails are very long, my dad ask me a few Weeks why they are so long. i just said cause i like them that way. he just grunted lol. Now tonight my mother ask me did you hear what your dad said about your nails? i said no what did he say? mom says he ask mom why there so long. mom told him i have always kept them long which is true. i am surprised she noticed. do you think i have been made?:hugs: surprised they have not noticed the sparkel poilsh

[Ralph]

my dad ask me a few Weeks why they are so long. i just said cause i like them that way.

If you think there's going to be a confrontation, maybe you should take the initiative so you're not on the defensive side. Next time they ask you a probing question, ask "Do you really want to know?"

If they do, go ahead and tell them. Opening up couldn't be any worse than whatever they have already decided about you in their imagination.

BUT FIRST - you need to have a talk with yourself and figure out just where you're going with this. If they ask you - are you gay, are you TS, do you want surgery, etc. - be prepared to know the answers to those questions.

[Amy Lynn3]

Some parents can't deal with crossdressing and ask the children to leave, so be ready in case that happens too.

[Michelle S]

... surprised they have not noticed the sparkel poilsh

They have.

[Joni Marie Cruz]

Hi Penelope Marie-

While we all want to keep our parent's love and respect, I notice on your profile that you're 46 years old. Hon, you can do whatever you darn well please. Of course, if your parents are concerned and want to know what's up, then you, out of courtesy and respect, should offer them some sort of explanation and not just tell them it's none of their business.

As one of the other girls mentioned, though, you should do some self examination and decide where you are personally with the whole TG thing. Then again, lots of us don't know all the answers about where we are, either. The situation, as they say, is fluid. Just let them know you're the same person you have always been, just had a secret is all, and now you want them to know about it. Yeah, there is that chance of total rejection, of course, you can't discount that possiblity, but if your folks are like most parents, they will still love you no matter what. Being TG isn't like being John Wayne Gacey, after all.

Good luck.

Hugs...Joni Mari

[Sally2005]

One thing that works if you are married or have a girlfriend... just say she likes it that way and your not about to disrupt a good thing, eh hem, if you know what I mean? Parents won't want to go near any discussion about what happens in the bedroom. And they will just think you and her have a kinky side.

[Christina Horton]

Just tell them the truth. If they hate you or kick you out of there lives , well is it a possbilty? You know your mom and dad , so your the only one who knows. I told mine and they both hated it. My mom more then dad. Now my mom excepts it to the point the she went out with Christina and is more ok with it then dad. Some here have told there parents and have lost them. So you knowing them must figger out if you think it best to tell them or not. Good luck Hun.

[Penelope Marie]

Thing here is, i am currently laid off and have been unable to find employment. If they put me out i have no where to go. i don't like being here however, at the moment i have little choice. I have no S/O and currently don't want to bring any one into my life so far as intimate relationships go simply because i am pretty sure i want to transition fully. Therefore, i don't want to have to break the news to someone else who may reject me. Rejection is nothing new to me, I've felt rejection most of my life from class mates when i went to school and most every female I've attempted to love. However no matter how often one gets rejected it never stops hurting.

I am aware i can do what ever i desire as i am an adult, it's not so much a want to as it is a have to, i am sure most of us here can relate. My current body has never been something i was or am happy about. In fact, i hate it. simply don't like the looks of my plumbing or the absent of breast. i do get some long looks from my brothers and they may suspect something. the other week i was in the bathroom, urinating, standing (I'd rather sit) my older brother did not knock just opened the bathroom door and there i stood with my bright pink panties pushed down. If he saw any thing and i don't know how he could not have he has not said any thing. most of the time i am here i do wear a bra with some Small forms place. if they have not noticed i don't know why. i do wear an over sized T to break up the profile. Well if i am made i am made and it may be a good thing. i have for all of my life wanted my dads approval and just to hear him say i am proud of you. To this day i have not heard that part his lips and now i don't expect to. I have not really ever counted myself close to my family but felt as if i were the black sheep. Oh well it is what it is. Oh and the hair bands wear those a lot too. i just got to be me to be happy and frankly i am weary with trying to please every one and placing my self in a den of unhappiness