Unbalance

[Gabie]

Hy,

Lately i have found something not so much interesting but i wanted to know if it append to some of us here. I tink that im starting to loose my male side, i always try to pass the less time posible in male mode and i hate to look at myself in the mirror in that mode (changing myself to go meet a client is a royal pain in the... and a friend said that i should quit being more agresive everytime im in "normal" clothing). Is it a phase or can Gabie take all the place (well most of it ><) ?

[Hope]

Well, everyone is at a different place along the spectrum, so I am afraid that you are the only one who cal say wether or not Gabby can handle going full time.

But, of course, if she cannot - you don't have to stay. Everyone has to, and indeed gets to, find their own place.

[NathalieX66]

Hy,

Lately i have found something not so much interesting but i wanted to know if it append to some of us here. I tink that im starting to loose my male side, i always try to pass the less time posible in male mode and i hate to look at myself in the mirror in that mode (changing myself to go meet a client is a royal pain in the... and a friend said that i should quit being more agresive everytime im in "normal" clothing). Is it a phase or can Gabie take all the place (well most of it ><) ?

This sounds more like a "coping with life" issue

Once, I had a college professor made me & the class fill out a life plan. The life plan consisted of were I saw myself, and also who I *wanted to be* in five years, ten years, 15 years, 25 years, and eventually retirement. I found this excercise to be very profound and yet helpful in my finding my way through life, and who I was as a person. It told me a lot about myself, and where my brain was. I found it very helpful. The problem is, that it does not take in account for the reality that actually happens throughout life's journey. After all.....life is a journey, not a destination. All I'm saying is find out what you're about, and know the dissapointments before you proceed forward.

I do not have all the answers, perhaps a counselor would know best. My attitude is that you are what you want your epitaph to say who you are.

[Christina Horton]

hay go full time........or don't . It's your life. It's your male side. It's your fem-side. You pick what you want.

[Gabie]

This sounds more like a "coping with life" issue

The life plan consisted of were I saw myself, and also who I *wanted to be* in five years, ten years, 15 years, 25 years, and eventually retirement. I found this excercise to be very profound and yet helpful in my finding my way through life, and who I was as a person. It told me a lot about myself, and where my brain was. I found it very helpful. The problem is, that it does not take in account for the reality that actually happens throughout life's journey. After all.....life is a journey, not a destination.

I do not have all the answers, perhaps a counselor would know best. My attitude is that you are what you want your epitaph to say who you are.

Thanky! i never tough about that "exercise" :o

(there's only 3 conselor in my state ... and in canada you don't have a choise but consult before hand if you want to transition sigh :( , one of them is again it, the second one think what ever your case is it always the best option, i contacted the last one last week, no responce yet :straightface:)