My wife throws some daggers

[Wen4cd]

So my daughter has this one kid in the neighborhood who plays with her- a boy. They've played all summer long

But today he hurt her feelings. He got around other boys, and together they outcast her, it was suddenly like he didn't know her, hadn't exclusively played with her all summer.

You know that scene from "Grease" where Danny Zuko gets all "cool" once he's with the guys, and rejects Sandy? Just like that, but in 8-year old form.

This makes my wife very upset, visibly upset. Our kid is feeling the cold realities of social life, and she can do nothing about it!

So then we put on "The Waterboy," and all the other football players are ridiculing Adam Sandler, and she starts getting mad again, the thing with the neighbor kid still bothering her.

Wife: "Men suck! I hate men! Except for you."

Me: "You only like women, heehee?"

Her: "No I hate women too! All they mostly do is back-stab and try to hurt each other. They destroy their own positions by being petty with each other."

She's all agitated, lol. She gets like this sometimes.

My kid overhears some of this, from another room, and enters.

Kid: "If you hate boys, why do you like daddy?"

Wife: "Because people were mean to your daddy when he was little, and it made him into a.... nice person."

Kid: "But how? I'd think it would make him into a mean guy, like a thief or something."

Wife: "Well, you're right, but your daddy's um.... special."

She looks at me and gives me a weird glance.



Kid goes to bed finally, and my wife is still fuming about the neighbor kid.

Wife: "I'm glad you're not like most men. I'd have to kill you."

Me: "Lucky me! I'm not a girl either, you know."

Her: "I'm so glad that you're a crossdresser. You have the best sides of both, and the worst sides of neither. You don't know how lucky I was to get you."

Me: I guess we're both extremely lucky.

[Sally2005]

Oh my... I cry when my little girls feelings get hurt. Maybe because I remember too well what it was like being a kid. If your wife wants to keep you, that's what's important!

[vivianann]

That is such a wonderful exchange between your wife and you. Sorry to see kids being cruel to one another. And bless your little daughters heart, and hope things get better for her.:hugs:

[Joanne f]

:) I love your wife`s sense of reasoning in that cross dressers are the best of both worlds, and i expect in a few weeks time your daughters friend will be back playing with her as that is how things go with young children,( you got the teenage years to look forward to yet) :heehee:

[tricia_uktv]

That's kids for you. From my experience though girls (I've twin daughters) are worse than boys in that respect. They may disagreements linger whereas boys quickly forget and move on.

[Frédérique]

My kid overhears some of this, from another room, and enters.

Kid: "If you hate boys, why do you like daddy?"

Wife: "Because people were mean to your daddy when he was little, and it made him into a.... nice person."

Kid: "But how? I'd think it would make him into a mean guy, like a thief or something."

Wife: "Well, you're right, but your daddy's um.... special."

She looks at me and gives me a weird glance.


Cool.
The same thing that happened to you happened to me when I was a boy. Strange how we meet under these circumstances…
Beautiful story, Wen. :hugs:

[Miranda09]

Your wife sounds like a wonderful person Wen. You're lucky to have her and she's lucky to have you. Thanks for sharing your story. :)

[BLUE ORCHID]

Just remember that what don't kill you -----makes you stronger!
.................................................. .thanks..............ORCHID

[Mandyflcd]

That is a great story but has an underlying message for every cross-dresser and SO out there... always find the good in things and use them to counter act the bad. Well, I guess that is a good lesson for anyone and everyone and not just those in our community... but we can keep it exclusively to us a bit longer. :)

As for the event with the kids... I have a 9 year old that has had some interesting social events transpire with her friends. All the typical elementary back stabbing and junk that goes on. We've just tried out best to teach her to be above that sort of thing and understand that she doesn't need those other kids to validate her own value. She can be strong with or without them sort of thing. So far it has worked well.

[docrobbysherry]

Your daughter, I mean. Or, maybe you're in the closet, and plan to NEVER let her know?:eek:

Mine's almost double your's age. And that's MY PLAN, too!:brolleyes:

She's dealing with SO MANY issues in high school. Can't imagine her thinking about her CD dad as well!:doh:

[Wen4cd]

Your daughter, I mean. Or, maybe you're in the closet, and plan to NEVER let her know?:eek:

Mine's almost double your's age. And that's MY PLAN, too!:brolleyes:

She's dealing with SO MANY issues in high school. Can't imagine her thinking about her CD dad as well!:doh:

Yeah, that's my plan too. She'll not see me rep-dressed, maybe not ever, but certainly not while in the throes of her own critical development.

I can imagine the awkward conversation if she did, lol.

"Daddy, why do you dress up and paint your face every week, and then sit cross-legged on the carpet staring into your own reflection for hours while whispering into a tape recorder?"

"Well honey, that's just how daddy um....writes in his diary. The girl daddy sees in the mirror reminds him who he is, and how he needs to live. She lives inside me and is the archetypal representation of my own inner soul."

"Why can't you just write in a notebook then?"

"I do that through the rest of the week, let's just go get some ice cream, ok?" :D

[Mandyflcd]

For me, I'd be more worried about who shed tell. You know how kids are... They blurt all kinds of stuff without a second thought. LOL

[5150 Girl]

It had come to my attention that in Native American society the TransGenderd are often looked upon as the perfect mate becaause they're in touch with both sides of their soul.

[Danielle Gee]

Your wife sounds like a wonderful person Wen. You're lucky to have her and she's lucky to have you. Thanks for sharing your story. :)

I agree with Miranda, you have a wonderful wife...Treasure her!!

[Sheila]

:) I love your wife`s sense of reasoning in that cross dressers are the best of both worlds, and i expect in a few weeks time your daughters friend will be back playing with her as that is how things go with young children,( you got the teenage years to look forward to yet) :heehee:

:yt:

[Nicole Erin]

Yeah we have all had friends like that - they are cool when it is just you and me but when anyone else comes around, forget you!

My son has had friends like that, I don't know why people act like that. My best friend growing up was that way.

[ReineD]

Aww, this is incredibly sweet! Thanks for sharing it. :hugs: I am sorry about your daughter though. I hope she and her friend will work it out eventually.

[sherri52]

you are both very lucky

[sissystephanie]

Yeah, that's my plan too. She'll not see me rep-dressed, maybe not ever, but certainly not while in the throes of her own critical development. :D

Wen,
I was lucky enough to have a wife like yours for over 40 years before I lost her! We agreed from the "gitgo' not to tell our kids about my CD activities for the same reasons you quote! I finally told our daughter (now age 52 and divorced) this year. She is O.K. with it, but did tell me that she would rather not see me dressed! I told her because of my age (77) and the fact that I almost died last fall. I thought it best that at least one of our children knew about their CD Dad, before he died and they found out when clearing out the closets! Didn't tell our son, because his wife is a nice lady but a big gossip! And he would tell her because he tells her everything!!

I think you and Doc Robby are doing the right thing with your children!!:thumbsup:

[emmlouise]

After a very messy divorce when my ex decided to tell everyone about my dressing and trying to use it at a reason for me not having custody of my 2 girls, I had to be "evaluated" by a psychiatrist and my girls ( aged 5 and 7) were questioned by social workers. Despite suggestions by my ex that I might sexually abuse them while I was cross dressed, I won custody. The kids accepted me as I was, and never talked about it to any of their friends. It was about 2 years ago that my daughter told one of her close friends who had just discovered her dads secret dressing habits, about me. She was open about it, about how I was her dad, no matter what I was wearing. The only time my girls normally make any mention is Dad can I 'borrow' some tights or 'borrow' a skirt. Strange how long term the borrowing is!