Gift from children

[Teri Jean]

The other day I had a conversation with one of my daughters about her cousin and wife breaking up after five yrs of marriage and she said why is it family members do not talk to each other anymore. She was frustrated and a little angry.:Angry3:

Anyway after all these years of hiding this part of my life I felt, how can I not tell them because sooner or later I will be wanting to start hrt for my transition. So I mustered my courage and contacted the girls (I have two). I explained the reasons for why I felt that I am a transgender male. I also let them know that I am the same father that they have known all their life but this is something I have dreamed of since a young boy.:daydreaming:

Of course there was the shopping list of questions and I said let's reserve that for a sit down this weekend. So the response was so much better than I thought and they knew that their father had changed in the past couple of years. Since the outing they have texted and called a couple of times and they seemed very happy.:hugs: All I can say to you is thank you for your help and advice, because the support that you have given there is a world that I have dreamed of is finally coming true. :love:

Huggs Teri

[Poetic Awakening]

Wow, I am so happy for you :D
That's awesome!

[sherri52]

good for you. You never know what will happen until that time comes. Seven of my eight children took it very well

[Midnight Skye]

Sounds like you've raised two wonderful loving girls! I hope things continue to go so well for you Teri. Sometimes family can impress you so much, reminding you of how much they really do love you.

[Teri Jean]

A person goes through life and parenthood wondering if they are doing the right thing in encouragement, understanding, friendships while raising your children and then when you least expect it they do something that validates your efforts.Thank you for your kind words and yes I think they are special.

Huggs Teri

[Empress Lainie]

I also am very happy for you Teri. Wish I had more response from my kids. I feel semi-ignored. They have never actually talked to me about transition but I have sent them lots of things including my journal as posted in this site. No comments come back. No comments on my pictures I send them.

When they call me it is just about other things.

[Sheila]

Teri, good luck for the weekend, I am sure you probably won't need it but I send it anyway :hugs:

[Hope]

Good for you.

And remember to tell that story to others the next time you hear about some one worried about coming out - particularly to their children.

[Teri Jean]

Thanks girls and Hope, I will tell the story to whom ever needs to hear it. Thank you all for the support and kind words.

Huggs Teri

[Nicole_P]

Way to go Teri! I know how difficult doing something like that is, especially when you fear the worst outcome. I wish you and your daughters all the best!

Nicole

[Teri Jean]

Well we had our sit down discussion of my transition and they in part were supportive but my oldest said something that rang clear. With the passing of their mother and my wife of 35 yrs and then all the other things that have taken place this past two years she asked if there could be a year of no new surprises. I said I would do what I could and still be true to myself. We discussed the process of therapy and then HRT so there would not be drastic changes in the near future but there will come a time there will and hopefully we all will be better with it by then. They both said they loved me and that they supported me but they were concerned about my safety. We will keep talking and loving each other each day.

Thank you for all your support. Huggs Teri

[grantdiaz]

I can understand how you might had felt at that time.But you did a great job. And the best part is the way you grow your kids.It is the effect of that.All the best Tori.

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[Kaitlyn Michele]

Teri - I am so happy for you...

You handled it beautifully with love and affection...the follow up discussion (s) are just as important as the disclosure...

Things will continue to sink in and their questions sound like the one's asked by my Mom..heh

You are a wonderful dad!
xoxo
Kate