neighbors know you crossdress?

[dana55]

hi girls i was wondering if your neighbors know that you dress? i was thinking of moving but was wondering how to approach it with my new neigbors ...should i become freinds with them or should i just keep it simple and say hi if i see them so when i go out dressed i wouldn't feel so worried about it becasue they wont really konw me that well? it would probably be an apartmetn building so im always bound to run into them.

[DianneRoberts]

What if you first met them en femme and became friends and THEN revealed your other ?

[PaulaJaneThomas]

I don;t exactly hide my TGism so all my neighbours know.

[michelle_tx]

I live in an apartment complex and I'm sure most of my neighbors either think I'm a woman or have figured out my TGness. I don't really try to hide who I am. But then, I don't really take time out to know my neighbors either.

[Nicole Erin]

Just be polite if you see them. I know some of my neighbors think I am weird but I try to at least give a polite greeting when I see them and they don't give me any crap.


I don't think I would bother with the whole "coming out speech" or anything,
And yeah it would probably be good if they saw the femmish side first. I mean you don't have to unload the uhaul wearing a dress but just femme up a bit so they don't see Joe Average and then later see Jane.

[MissConstrued]

Yeah, mine know, I'm sure.

But then, I know they don't have green cards. :devil:

[Sarah Doepner]

Nope. My neighbors are the in-laws on one side and the folks from the other side would probably send some kind of missionary to help me change my ways. I don't see the need to share this side with any of them, thank you.

[Bethany38]

I now know my whole neighborhood knows,(thanks to my lovely Sister-in-law)but I do not know how any of them feel about it. Most of them are older than I, and of the same mindset as my Father was I am sure. They tend to leave me alone though. I am happy with not having any trouble. My Wifes Sister lives in the same neighborhood as my Wife and I. So after I came out to the family she thought it would be cute to tell everyone around us... :angry: And this women wonders why I dislike her so...:tongueout


Well Dana I would agree with the others whom have said to let them meet your femme side first. If I would have been out when we moved in here I would have done things that way.

[Nikki A.]

Nope and they don't need to know.

[dilane]

Yeah, mine know, I'm sure.

But then, I know they don't have green cards. :devil:

:)

You haven't lived until one of them sagely says "La Chingada" while passing by :)

[Jocelyn Quivers]

I hope not. I try to keep this part of me in the closet, although sometimes I've forgotten that my blinds were not closed were not closed when I walk into my rooms en-femme.

[sandra-leigh]

I've been here 6 1/2 years. The few people around whom I was "afraid to lose" have died or moved, so now I only hide it to the extent of not wishing to deliberately discomfort my wife -- so if she's away in a good mood, then I might be found outside cutting the grass or weeding in a skirt.

I know for sure one of my immediate neighbours knows. The one on the other side, the position of the windows is such that there is a possibility they haven't happened to see Sarah yet, but it isn't something I worry about. The one diagonally back from me... it perhaps might not be her cup of tea, but I don't get the impression she'd bother thinking about it. The one directly behind me... has never bothered to try to get to know us, even though we've given some openings, so either they have already decided they don't like us (before I started being as obvious) or else they just don't want to know us anyhow; either way, not my problem if they decide they don't like what they see. The one diagonally back on the other side, we only see for a moment every couple of years.. I know less about them then I know about some of the random people I see on the bus.

The new neighbours, two doors down... they have a noticeable bumper-sticker style sign in their truck window that says, "Piss off a Liberal: buy a gun!". I figure that if they are into deliberately annoying people, then I have no qualms about potentially annoying them by being an obvious cross-dresser. If they didn't do "due diligence" background check-ups on the neighbours before moving it, in case one of the neighbours was "The Sort of Person we wouldn't care to Associate With", then that's scarcely my problem. :devil: Maybe I'll tilt my limp wrist at them or something like that :D

[Fab Karen]

It's your life, just get on with it. My neighbors may or not know- whatever they may think,who cares?

"life's not worth a damn
til you can shout out I am what I am"

[Alice B]

I think a couple of mine have seen me, but nothing has been said. I don't go out dressed, but we have lots of large windows.

[kellycan27]

:)

You haven't lived until one of them sagely says "La Chingada" while passing by :)

At least they used the "feminine"..... ya can't have everything. :heehee:

[Joni Marie Cruz]

Well, fwiw, when I moved up here to Seattle I had planned to be 24/7, which didn't really pan out. A story for another time, perhaps. But I don't try to hide it when I'm going out or anything, so sometimes neighbors see me in male mode and sometimes I'm my real self. The neighbor across the street has seen me enfemme, I know for sure, and has come over to borrow printer paper and things like that, and doesn't act any different.

Basically, I guess what I'm saying is I don't flaunt it and I don't hide it either. I just do what I do.

Hugs...Joni Mari

[sherri52]

The worst hat would happen is that you'll lose one of your new friends. As you have pointed out they will see you, you might as well be friendly. Mos of my immediate neighbors know but don't ask questions. It was pointed out to me by another that it was clear that I wear makeup.

[DanaLynn57]

One morning about 6 months ago I was home and wearing a white cotton sleeveless gown with little flowers on the front...I had to pass by my door when I go from the TV room to the kitchen...When I passed, I looked out and there was my neighbor coming up my driveway and we made quick eye contact...I hurried off to my room and put on a white t shirt and came back to the door...Im pretty sure he saw me but didnt say anything...

DanaLynn

[DAVIDA]

If they don't know, then they just don't look!:)
I know for sure that one side neighbor knows. We have spoken to each other with me wearing a dress. She just said that it doesn't matter to her what I wear.

[Butterfly Bill]

All of mine know. I think most of them have decided that i am gay, and I just let them go on thinking it. Just let them see you dressed and acting like it's normal, and if they are friendly, then reciprocate by responding with friendly conversation. I would not approach them deliberately with the intention of announcing your orientations.

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

I wear womens clothes. I mow my lawn in skirts and wear bra's now so they know. I'm Transsexual and transitioning and my closest neighbors know, in fact one has become a very good friend now. Loving my new life as Kimberly. :battingeyelashes:

["Mary"]

Nope. I'm pretty discreet coming and going on my occasional outings.

[Emme]

I live 2500 ft from the highway. Several neighbors live down on the road. One part time neighbor has a hunting preserve immediately behind our small farm. Emme walked out to the dumpster one bright morning and there was young mr hunter (35)....right at my dumpster. I figured ,who cares, so I placed the trash in the bin and said hi. He was so nice. In fact we talked for 10 min. (thank God I had on a little makeup) I invited him in and all went well. Now his older dad(76) knows. They are very nice and have become even better neighbors. I would have thought the opposite....but I was wrong.

Wife was away and I went to the barn when the other good neighbor was feeding up. He said..woow you look good as a woman. We talked and he said he already knew. Said he had seen an awfully tall woman in the yard many times. My wife is 4'11". He had no problem and life goes on!

If we treat neighbors like we want to be teated, most of the time we will be OK.

By the way....young mr hunter said he didn't know who I was till I spoke! Yeah!!

no silly, his name is not hunter tee heee

[Hope]

My neighbors are sheep - and I don't think they know I dress... So i am not sure I can be any help, but I think the question is whether or not you want to be out. If you don't want to be out, chances are you shouldn't tell you neighbors, if you are out, your neighbors will figure it out on their own - it doesn't have to be a sit down "I just wanted to tell you I have this debilitating heart condition" talk.

[Phyliss]

The neighbor to my left (facing the street) Has kinda figured out that I have too much fun at Halloween, and really doesn't much care one way or the other. So If she happens to be outside when I leave the house, I just wave at her. The fella across the street doesn't say much, sorta keeps to himself, so I don't really know what he's seen or not seen. The backyard has a whole bunch of trees and such, so I don't even see the houses back there, much less see any people.
Now, the old gal on the other side of me, well, she's a bit of a "nosey" one and would blab it all over town while calling down all sorts of fire and brimstone upon me, and having the local pastor pay me a visit to "cure" me. What she doesn't know is fine with me. I know the "day will come" when I have to confront her, or she confronts me, but I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

[Georgia Rose]

I think at least one of my neighbours knows there is something going on and one who moved away might have too. I don't have much to do with the neighbours and really don't care but I have my wife's relatives living quite close and don't want them to know as they are all a bit homophobic. Not a concern for me but my wife would have to put up with a lot of crap that I don't want to visit on her.

[trudytwoshoes]

Let them see you as you are. If you are proud to be a TS and you take them as they are (which is probably square), don't fret about it, I don't and most of them accept me as I am- though I think I scare a few of them.
T

[Karen Born]

I've been concerned about the neighbours, but my wife simplified it and told me that if it bothers them, too bad. We don't really interact with them other than to say 'hi' over the fence.

[Donna Marie]

My next door neighbor, "The Colonel," saw me a couple of years ago. He said it was OK with him. but he asked to not see me as Donna Marie when he comes over for Happy Hour. A lady down the street came to the door last Spring when I was dressed and I let her in. She said I looked pretty (!!) and was fine with it. During that time I was feeling really bold and was out fully dressed quite often, so others must surely know. But many of our residents in this community of townhomes are snowbirds - they spend the cold months in Florida. And I have gone back into my shell for some stupid reason. Can't gather up the courage to go back out there for now. Anyway, nobody has made any unkind comments.

[Angie G]

Just be yourself if they want to know you better it will happen.:hugs:
Angie

[Kim_Bitzflick]

I think one knows.

A few days ago I was all dressed & ready to go out. I was waiting for my wife while she was outside watering the flowers. I walked out to my truck to put some papers in the glove box. As I walked out onto the driveway I see my neighbor & my wife talking and standing in the grass 50 feet away.:doh: I just opened the truck, put in the papers & went back inside. The truck was between me & them, but I'm pretty sure the neighbor saw me. My wife said the neighbor didn't say anything, but.........

On the otherside, I don't really care if the neighbors know, I'm just not going to throw it in their faces.

[StaceyJane]

My neighbor from across the street may have seen me once getting into my car dressed. I never talk to her so I don't know. I'm not sure if she saw me or even knew it was me and it was 2 days before Halloween so maybe she thought it was for that.
Anyway I don't and since it never comes up I guess it really doesn't matter.

[ArleneRaquel]

I do everything enfemme, the last two days I have been working in my yard and I have a gurl full time for a few years now, so my neighbors must know.:love:

[CLARRISA]

I'm sure mine know now, as i gave up making sure the coast was clear about a year ago, i can't understand how lucky i've been not bumping face to face though. However have to be extra carefull now..i've just recently found out that one of my neighbours works at the same place as me...its a 2 hour drive away my job.. i mean....of all the places in this big city of London, he picks my little quiet street to live on...jeese....

[karynspanties]

My neighbors on each side have seen me on my patio in a full slip.

[PaulaJaneThomas]

I'm sure mine know now, as i gave up making sure the coast was clear about a year ago, i can't understand how lucky i've been not bumping face to face though. However have to be extra carefull now..i've just recently found out that one of my neighbours works at the same place as me...its a 2 hour drive away my job.. i mean....of all the places in this big city of London, he picks my little quiet street to live on...jeese....

And I bet he cross-dresses too. You'll have to ask him :devil:

[Frédérique]

hi girls i was wondering if your neighbors know that you dress?


The neighbors don’t know I dress. I live in a small block of about 9 houses, but I’ve only met a few of the people that live in them. I use this to my advantage, since most of my neighbors don’t know what I look like – I can come and go as I please. I imagine they must think I have a nice girlfriend that comes to see me, or maybe there are two women that live here (they also rarely see my sister). When I mow the lawn, they must think I’m a guy hired for that purpose…

[MichelleP]

My neighbors don't know but they've seen my "sister" come an go at times and even drive my car! She also sometimes lounges out on the patio and reads etc. when I'm not home.:D

Michelle

[SherylynJade]

I'm pretty sure some of my neighbors know, especially since I've started going out more and more. The other day I went to pick up my fiancee and her sister and when we got back to our apartment, there were some guys from the next building standing and talking in the parking lot. I know they had to have figured it out.

[Barbara918]

I live in New York City, stereotypically famous for people who don't even know their neighbors' names. But I'm sure mine have seen me dressed, and the few I've spoken to have either never mentioned it or have complimented my looks.
Fact is, sometimes I go out partially CD'd, even to the point of wearing hose-&-heels and a bra under my T-shirt, and nobody's said a word. I guess it's true -- NYC stands for "Not Your Concern".

[carrie-ann]

I came out of the closet in last dec. It wasn't good and still isant good. It's there lose mine too but more them. So I just be what I am. I'm 24/7 now and don't hide it but don't flaunt it either. I dress accordingly. That helps a lot. It's funny I live in a very mixed dem/rep area. But they are so closede minded here it's ashame. Start by being your self be it in lady clothing then if they don't like it from the start you wont have to go through what i'm going through. I have lost all my friends here in the neighborhood. I have been told I need to move into the country side so no one would ever see me. They cant beleave that my job allows me to be 24/7 female. They said I'm sick and my wife is even sicker for being with me. Good luck withch ever way you go.

[Vicky_Scot]

Its none of your neighbours business. Why do feel you have to justify yourself to them?

If they see you coming and going in femme mode then they will just have to accept who you are or tough.

Xx Vicky xX

[Jenny Gurl]

New neighbors don't. One of my old neighbors probably did. I lived in an apt and wanted to go out and get the mail. I figured I was the one closest to the mail boxes and it was midnight, what could possibly go wrong. I started towards the mail boxes and my neighbor had taken the dog out to potty. He was about 40 feet out but I was walking in the light dressed in chick jeans, heals, and a floral top. I got the mail and went right back in. He seemed to look at me different from then on.

[sarahNZ]

I live above a business which also is my landlord so there is no hiding the fact from them, (especially when I wonder down the stairs in plain view of the workers to pay my rent) I recently asked the land lord if my dressing causes concern for anyone in the office but he just said "it's ok by him as we all have our own ideosincrocies (I hope I spelled that right) to worry about and it's not hurting anyone so it's all good", and due th the fact that I sit on the balcony in the sun and smoke while drinking my coffee, the neighbours across the road know about my dressing as well! No one has complained yet so it must be all good.

[Vicky_Scot]

I live above a business which also is my landlord so there is no hiding the fact from them, (especially when I wonder down the stairs in plain view of the workers to pay my rent) I recently asked the land lord if my dressing causes concern for anyone in the office but he just said "it's ok by him as we all have our own ideosincrocies (I hope I spelled that right) to worry about and it's not hurting anyone so it's all good", and due th the fact that I sit on the balcony in the sun and smoke while drinking my coffee, the neighbours across the road know about my dressing as well! No one has complained yet so it must be all good.

Why do people say this. Its ok as long as its not hurting anyone. What do they expect us to put a person in a headlock or beat them up when we dress.

When we dress we are the ones most likely to be hurt.......honestly this saying is so stupid and sums up the people who say it as complete baffoons......IMO.

Xx Vicky xX

[Wrenchette]

I don't know...I've only gone out twice and that was to move a vehicle into the garage so it was only like 30 seconds or so.

I honestly think they would be cool with it. One side are young partiers, other side (sharing the house) are lesbians and across the street is the bassist for the Go-Gos...lol Everyone is pretty cool here.