Too Big?

[Sally49]

I'm quite a new member,late 40's with a need to transition soon. I have tried to transition before,but my size hasd always held me back, my face is ok as I lack rugged features, but i'm too large 6ft 2ins and a large build with broad shoulders.
I have been weak in the past and reverted to male role at the first sign of trouble or abuse.
Now I want to be positive and succeed,I know it's all about confidence and I realize it has to come from me,my doctor is behind me and I want to start putting together a wardrobe to achieve my ambition of being a passable ,if not tall woman.Any advice would be appreciated

[Shikyo]

It doesn't really matter what your size is or how you look. There are many GGs that have rather large bodies for a girl. More so it is the way you behave. As long as you behave like a girl no one will doubt that you are a girl. The large shoulders will go away with hormone therapy. It is surprising how much muscles there are that will disappear with the use of hormones.

Try to be more confident into yourself. The process of transitioning will be hard and long but it is doable for everyone from us. Don't let your size or anything else keep you from doing what you've always wanted to do. Live your own life the way you want to live. Sadly, not no one will ever be able to go through their lives without any issues at all for us transsexuals it's even worse. What we have to do is learn to have a thick skin about bad comments or trouble that we will have to face. No matter what you are there is always going to be someone whose going to give you trouble. All I can say is not to give in at the stupidity of these people but believe in yourself. The life you have is yours not theirs to command. If you want to live your life as a female nothing should keep you away from it.

Be it male or female they come in all sizes and shapes so you will not have a trouble at all even with that size of yours. You might stand out more than others but that comes always with a bigger size but the same goes for smaller people as well. I've seen girls bigger than you are and they didn't seem to have a trouble living their daily life. No one was staring at them. Nothing, absolutely nothing was wrong with them.

I hope I could bring little more confidence into your life.

[PetiteDuality]

Where do you live?

In North America or Northern Europe you will be fine. In other countries, you would definitively stand out, even as a guy.

By the way, when I read the title I thought that it was another boobies thread :D

[sherri52]

Be the woman and the woman will be you. Don't let your height interfere.

[Super Amanda]

My size is something that used to give me lots of self doubt...but over time, my need to be myself shattered many of the old "excuses" that I used to hold myself back.

I do see many women taller than myself, all the time, so I know I can be acceptable.

Besides...their wouldn't be long length women's pants if their was not tall women to buy them! It's not like clothes manufacturers make the largest size women's clothes for trans folks, I think?

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Sally I'm 6'2...i used to weigh almost 240 lbs...altho i will say i don't have rugged features, i'm certainly masculine
This was high on my list of what i called comforting excuses to not transition..

but i've learned how to mask those features as best i can...

i have been crossdressing since i a kid, and recently (in my 40's sound familiar?) started my transition...

No question we are tall...but you know what....more and more i'm finding that it's just not an issue, and frankly tall girls are everywhere..

Many girls pass well, many don't pass well at all but have learned to not care and be comfortable in their own skin...

feeling good about yourself is what this is really all about and the real truth is that if you can do the second part first (be comfortable), then the first part doesnt matter

Plus, your confidence will then help you pass better...

u should ask a million specific questions of folks, including here...it all matters and we all have different issues, different sizes, excuses, roadblocks and personalities....i know of a girl in my area that is transitioning at 6'7"..

[Heatherx75]

Hi Sally, I'm also pretty tall, 6'0". I used to let size hold me back. And yes, I've always had a masculine build, but you know what? It's probably not as bad as you think. At least, I seem to pass ok. If, as you say, you're face is not too rugged, you'll probably be ok. You just have to learn how to play up your shape so as to maximize your best features. Read the fashion magazines. They always have articles on how to do this. (Hint: you probably have what's known as a 'boyish' shape.;))

Besides, a lot of women are taller than 6'2".

[Patricia1]

Without trying to sound too much like Pollyana with rose-colored glasses, the size of your heart is what matters most. How much do you want what you want? See the woman in your heart & you will be that woman, no matter what anyone else sees.

[joanlynn28]

Don't worry about your size, my sister started out like you at 6'1" and 235Lbs. Today you look at her and could never imagine her as a man. She has pictures of how see used to look like out and there is just no comparision between the two. She didn't do anything special other than hormones, electrolysis, and SRS. So anything is possible just takes a little time. There are a lot of GG's around that are larger than you or I. Don't worry about your size, women come in all sorts of shapes and sizes.

[pamela_a]

Sally, what do you mean at 6'2" you're too big?

I stand about 6'5" in stockings and have been a plus size woman for many years. I've found out the same thing Amanda has. I can walk into any plus sized clothing store and buy things THAT FIT ME. This tells me there must be a lot of other women my size and shape so I don't worry about it.

Be who you are. Don't let narrow minded people run your life for you. Be confident in who you are.

-Pam-

[Patricia1]

Don't worry about your size, my sister started out like you at 6'1" and 235Lbs. Today you look at her and could never imagine her as a man. She has pictures of how see used to look like out and there is just no comparision between the two. She didn't do anything special other than hormones, electrolysis, and SRS. So anything is possible just takes a little time. There are a lot of GG's around that are larger than you or I. Don't worry about your size, women come in all sorts of shapes and sizes.

Joan - You must be pretty hard to impress. But, as you said, it's not the size of the package that matters so much as the contents.

[Carole Cross]

I always use to worry about my masculine build, it's what has stopped me from transitioning until now, I started my transition at the beginning of this year, aged 40. I have recently dicovered that many women have masculine features, such as a sqaure jaw or muscular arms, some even have a completely masculine face, but they don't hide away they learn to accept it and if neccessary use makeup to soften their features. Even some of the worlds most beautiful women have masculine faces, such as Jennifer Aniston or Paris hilton.

It doesen't really matter about your features, you just have to try and look confident. It will be hard to pass at first and you will get read, but the more you go out the more confident you will become. Hormones and the elimination of facial hair will help but these will take time. You just have to learn to be comfortable with yourself and accept the occasional jibe from insensitive people.

I am not really tall, 5'10", but I am what is considered quite tall for a woman, and because of my build, I will never be the most beautiful as a woman, but I have learned to accept it and I am getting more confident and have even been accepted as a woman at times, something which I didn't think possible a year ago. :D

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

But you will get past that fear to be you and once at that point it will no longer matter your size or shape. You will be you and you will be happy. Kim :battingeyelashes:

[BrittneySmith]

I agree with what others have stated above. Everyone is different and we come in all shapes and sizes. I'm 6'3" and about 220, broader shoulder and monkey arms. I can walk into almost anywhere and find something that looks great. Read magazine and pay attention to fashion, dress age appropriately, and you'll be fine.

[Jessinthesprings]

I''m 6'2" as well. When I need confidnece about my height I open this site. It makes me feel better. http://www.tallwomen.org/

[Sally49]

Thanks for all the kind words of support and advice. I have spent too long living a lie, but I must learn to forget about past experiences and be a confident woman.(must lose some weight though!)
(For the record I live near London UK)

[Kaitlyn Michele]

So sally, now that you are out of excuses...:heehee:...

start getting your hair removed!!! (if you havent already)..not kidding...it takes forever

[Sally49]

I know i've run out of excuses!
I am taking the first steps to transition, I agree that hair removal is paramount and losing weight (I have too lose 3 stones!)
I'm off to the gym

[RedGG]

Sounds like your in good company with these issue's but from the reply's you've received so far it looks like a pretty common concern that will hopefully be easy to overcome. I look forward to hearing more about your experiences.

[Teri Jean]

Sally I stand 6-2 also and 200lbs but it isn't stopping me. I work in a university environment and the women in sport where I work are the tallest and greatest looking women. Besides my youngest daughter is also 6-2 and I think shes strikingly good looking. Don't look at it as something to hold you back but something to admire. I know some guys really like tall girls.

Teri

[Hope]

Yup.

I'm 6'2, and I was really bummed about it.

And then I saw this:

http://www.cockeyed.com/photos/bodies/604-160.shtml

[Andy66]

I think statuesque women are beautiful. ;)

Don't worry, people are getting taller with each generation. At my son's high school there were several teenage girls who were over six feet tall.

Hee-hee! I thought this post was about boobies too, at first. :heehee:

[Jennifer Marie P.]

Dont let the fear of size hold you back be the woman you want to be and there is alot of big sized women out there.

[Jessinthesprings]

I'm quite a new member,late 40's with a need to transition soon. I have tried to transition before,but my size hasd always held me back, my face is ok as I lack rugged features, but i'm too large 6ft 2ins and a large build with broad shoulders.

I'm in the same boat here. I have to keep telling myself know one cares, take a deep breath and move on. Still it's hard and like you I allow fear to take hold and I revert back to male mode.

Funny thing is I bet there are more that accept us than those that don't.