Just wanted to say thanks/ update

[Sherry-Stephanie]

Hi Girls....

Pretty soon within the next few days I'll be leaving this site for awhile...

As some of youa re aware, my marriage is ending and I'm moving back home to Florida. I'll be leaving a marriage that has covered some 14 years and another six years beyond that that I've known my wife. We've had some issues that have coem up that has put us in the position of needing to go in different directions with our lives....The dressing is a part of it, but a small part compared to the other issues that we've had to deal with.

Where are we now???? Well she and I went out last nite for our "last date" and had a a very nice time talking about times gone by and experiences and all and it seems like nothing is wrong with our relationship, yet we both know we have changed and need to now go in different directions with our lives....so that means that sometime in the next few days I'll pack up say good bye and move on to a new chapter in my life....and her life as well....

For the past year and a half since I began to dress and I came to this site I have learned a tremendous amount of information as it related to dressing...from makeup to clothing from hair styles to nail polish....but learn I have and it's all come from suggestions insight and experience of you girls...and what you see in my avitar is what I have evloved from and into...

But more importantly, and the purpose of this thread, is along the way I have had the womderful opportunity to meet some of you via e-mail IM and other mediums of cyber space and something wonderful has happened....I have found friends that I have had contact with beyond threads and posts....and some of you I have actually had the pleasure to meet in person...but many of you I have also been able to call "friends"...and one day if nothing else I would like to have the opportunity to meet each of you in person as Stephanie, as your sister(s) and give youa big hug and simply say "thanks for being you and supporting and caring for me as I have progressed to whom I have become...

So to each of you with whom I or Stephanie have had contact with during the past year and a half of this wonderful journey, I wish to to say now "Thank you all" for being who you are and reaching out to help Stephanie become who she is....and in doing so it has allowed her to move out into other venues both her in cyberspace as well as in the real world to meet other girls as wel,l and that has only added to the total experiences that is now her life and her world...

We are about to turn a new page on a new chapter...and one thing is for sure...it will be a chapter that features Stephanie and what is laying ahead for her as she becomes more of a cental part of our life....and all of this is partly due to the kindness, comapssion friendship and love that she has received over the past year and a half from you all....

In time, after the dust settles, the boxes get unpacked and thoughts get sorted out we'll be back...not sure how long that will be but hopefully not to long....we both need to be able to sort thought some emotions, feelings, memories as well as getting our legs in a new "place" and "time" for us both...moving "from" and "to" isn't all that easy at best and under these circumstances this will be a bit more difficult...

So yes, as usual, I've gotten a bit long winded here...but then again it wouldn't be me...

So to all you girls Steve and Stephanie wish to say thank you for being who you are, what you are and what you have give us both....you will always be remembered, appreciated, respected and loved...

Thanks....

Steve and Stephanie...

[Phyliss]

An old Navy saying, "Fair Winds and Following Seas"

May your new life be as blessed as it has been to this point in time.

Looking forward to you returning.

[TxKimberly]

I wish you both the very best. :)

[April Renee]

Good post,we'll be here for you when you get settled in Steph. Good luck on the move and getting on with what you need.

April

[Joni Marie Cruz]

Hi Stephanie-

<big hug> I'll just echo what the other girls have said, best of luck to you and yours during this change in your life. Personally, I look forward to seeing you back on the forums again soon. Take care, hon.

Hugs...Joni Mari

[AmiFL]

Thanks for sharing your feelings with all of us. A change like this is hard for anyone. On a positive note, you will love Florida.

Ami

[Andy66]

A new chapter and a new adventure - I love those. Best of luck to you. Keep looking forward.

[Sherry-Stephanie]

Finally got eveything done and settled so tomorrow I move to S. Florida....

Finishing my packing tonight and will head out in the AM...

Wife is kind of regretting things...but we both agree that we need space and time to see what's what....a number of issues out there and some can't be resolved and not sure if we can live with them or not....only time and space will address those concerns. The good thing is we're past the annomosity and all and all, actually have been OK with things the past few weeks....

So I'm on the road and will eventually pop back up here in due time...so all of you girls take care and we'll catch you on down the road....

Steph....

[sherri52]

Hi Stephanie: enjoy florida. I hope the two of you find what you need and the marriage grows from the seperstion. Keep in touch

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Sherry
I wish you the best of luck and much happiness in your new life's journey.
Just remember when one door closes another one opens to a
new adventure. When traveling down life's highways steer
clear of the potholes and don't get stuck in the fast lane either
take it easy and enjoy your new life. Again I wish you the best.
Plese be careful on your trip and keep us advised.
.
.................................................. .........thanks..........ORCHID

[Sherry-Stephanie]

When traveling down life's highways steer
clear of the potholes and don't get stuck in the fast lane either
take it easy and enjoy your

and watch out for the speed traps especially in Georgia!!!! Right????

[LisaM]

Steph,

Good luck and travel well!

[Teri Jean]

See you soon hun and drive careful.

Teri

[erickka]

God bless, take care, be safe, and talk to you soon!

[Miranda09]

Here's to wishing you all the best Stephanie and to your new life in Florida. Don't be away too long!! :)

[Sherry-Stephanie]

GONE!!!!

Compass heading set..."Due South"!!!!

[Sheila]

lucj god speed and see you when you get back .............. hopefully not to long :hugs:

[kateyliz]

I look forward to your return to our little niche. Best of luck and many hugs, Kathy

[Sherry-Stephanie]

made it to Lake City Florida...9 hours driving and stopped for 10 minutes to gas up...just up on motel wifi....so this is temporary

[Stephanie Miller]

Friends don't leave Steph........ they just stand by for the right time to be a part of your life again.
So son't worry. We'll be here when you get back.
Be safe and God Bless.

[LeslieSD]

Enjoy your time there. Feeling sad and happy for you at the same time.

[Josey]

If nothing else, you'll love the weather down here! Look forward to your return!

[Sherry-Stephanie]

I'm back!!!!

Made it down here in 13 hours and the drive was very smooth...

Made it to where I'm staying and renting and the two guys here are fine...and they're both gay so the Cding is not an issue...as a matter of fact they're looking to eventually meeting Stephanie...they say that I might possibly be able to maybe work a job up at one of the clubs for Stephanie as Stephanie, but we'll see where that idea goes....

Getting around OK since I know part of the area...but the City of Ft. Myers I have to learn, Ft. Myers Beach I know from way back when.

Mostly unpacked and it appears I'll have enough room for eveything I bought...

I've been talking on several other sites and have meet several Cders locally that I will eventually meet up with plus I'm looking to join the local Tri Ess Chapter here as well to expand my Cding contacts and experiences...

Have talked to the wife and she's missing me more thna she expected....she was reduced to tears the day I left and we decided that saying good bye was something neather of us wanted to experience...so we simply left it as "see you again sometime"....where we go from here we don't know. It will be more than likely "out of site out of mind" or "absence makes the ehart grow fonder"...we've talked and I've told her where I need to be with her and she with me...so she needs to find where she wants to go....sooo well see where this road leads us....I might get the paper to sign to divorce or she might want to re-commit...I don't know what will happen and I don't think she knows either at this point...time will tell and I am moving on with my life and see where my "path" will take me....

So all at the moment it's a mjor shift in my life and it's all new and hopefully in time I'll get back to my "comfort zone" which I am not anywhere near at the moment....

Soooooooooo if nothing else it sure ain't going to be boring though....

Steph....

[Cindi]

All the VERY BEST Stephanie.
I truly hope you find real happiness again one way or another.
Please keep in touch here. We still love to hear from you

[tricia_uktv]

Hi Steph, you need us now more than ever, and you know we'll help,

Hugs and good luck,

[boardpuppy]

Steph, update us on what's happening every day or so....I'm interested in your day to day goings on...

Hugs,
Alice

[Sherry-Stephanie]

You all are going to think I'm making this stuff all up or crazy or both....and I won't blame you one bit if you do....

But the proverbal "you know what" hit the fan today back home with the wife...she got called in and told she no longer had a job...

So she called me in tears to let me know and she was really in bad shape emotionally...and she then said she can't sleep her stomach is hurting because she's lost the best thing she ever had in her life...she's lost the most important thing she ever had and that was me...and then she said she loved me more than anything else in this world and ask me to come home...so we talked a bit and I'm heading back to TN.

Why??? Simply because she is my heart and soul and the love of my life and I love here unconditionally no matter what...simple as that...

She is #1 to me and she will always be that way with me....for me there can be no other way....

Sure there are issues to be worked on between us....but we both know we can't be without each other....I know I won't find anyone better for me...sure she put me through alot the past few months and most would have wakled away and said good riddence...but when you love someone heart and soul and unconditionally you can't do that....you simply forgive and contiue to love with all your heart and soul....and that's what I'm doing...

Call me crazy call me stupid but I'm totally committed to my wife....

So tomorrow or Friday I'll pack up and head back to be with her again and then we'll go from there and see where this crazy road we're on goes....

Hey at least it's not boring right????

Best to all....

Steph

NOTE:....I've only been here in Ft. Myers six days....and I've met a few people and had a few nice heart warming contacts....I think all in all I would have settled in very nice being back down in Florida...I got to be on the gulf and enjoyed the evening breezes overlooking the water....it's a little bit of heaven here and I'm sad that I'll be leaving it....I think it would have worked out for me in the long run....but again, my wife is #1...and I think she and I deserve a second chance at our realtionship...but down here will be special to me...

[JennaByNight]

What an astounding journey you have been on over the last month! I just read this thread start- to- finish, and it was riveting. I am so happy for you, because from what I've read, you're both extraordinarily mature, and truly in love. Sometimes things cloud our vision and seem bigger than our love, and sometimes we go through things like this, and it makes the love clearer and restores perspective. You may be on a path to have more freedom to be who you are, and have a stronger, deeper, more intense relationship as well. I wish you indescribable happiness, and I thank you for sharing these deeply personal experiences with us.

Jenna

[mklinden2010]

Well, I hope that works out.

"A friend in need is a friend indeed."

[JulieC]

Steph, this is amazing, fantastic, fabulous news. My heart goes out to you and your wife in happiness. I know there will be challenges ahead, but this is wonderful.

[AmiFL]

I miss you for a few days and wow what a change. Do what is best for all of you. Good luck and keep in touch. BTW, I miss our chats..........

Ami

[giuseppina]

A licensed counselor is a good idea if you two get stuck with your issues. Just don't let the counselors personal biases get in the way. His/her job is not to judge. They're supposed to explain and find common ground between you.

Best of luck :hugs:
Giuseppina

[Sherry-Stephanie]

Take it one step at a time girls that's all we can do....

One thing...life sure ain't boring....

LOL

[Tomara]

Hi Steph
Wow what a roller coaster you have been on , I hope that you and your wife can work things out and have a happy life together.
I am not sure if you have tried it but therapy has been a huge help in my life and I would highly recommend it if you can find someone you both are comfortable with.
I wish you both all of the best , and have a safe trip home.

:hugs: Tomara

[Sherry-Stephanie]

I'm home...13 hours and 825 miles....got in around midnite....

Glad to be home with the wife and all BUT not happy at all that I had to leave Florida....it's simply where I prefer to be...but that being said my wife and marriage is more important....with that being the case, I guess we'll ahve to make due.

Now the mail thing other than working on the marriage and all now we both need jobs....so starting now our job is to find jobs ASAP...

I got home and yesterday we started unpacking...and wife started enforcing some "rules"....first off, all girl clothes go in the girl "clothes closet" which is in the main bedroom so all of Steph's clothes went in there and she put them up on hangers all my other girl stuff go in the spare bedroom...along with make up etc on and in the dresser...I have both my own dresser and chest for all of my underwear male and female stuff etc....

She also want to be able to build something to hang all of our combined jewelry so it will hang everything there...necklaces and earrings...so we'll see what we can come up with....

So all in all so far so good

[Tracy_Victoria]

So she called me in tears to let me know and she was really in bad shape emotionally...and she then said she can't sleep her stomach is hurting because she's lost the best thing she ever had in her life...she's lost the most important thing she ever had and that was me...and then she said she loved me more than anything else in this world and ask me to come home...so we talked a bit and I'm heading back to TN.

Why??? Simply because she is my heart and soul and the love of my life and I love here unconditionally no matter what...simple as that...



Thats very much the best reason, for both of you, maybe the separation will bring you closer together, and give you both a goal to aim for.

I really hope it works out for both of you.

[Bobbie Bee]

Be strong Steph and don't show any weakness! If she loves you, she will be back.......I guess I should have read page two: Glad you're back home and I hope everything works out.

[Sheila]

Stephanie, glad to hear you are back home & that you are both having another go at making your marriage work ............. nice rules she has imposed on you I think :D am sure you can live within them :D

:hugs: to you both :)

[flaman07]

Hi Stephanie and welcome to Fla...how u like the heat wave we're having so far...:)

[Deedee Dupree]

Oh, for crying out loud.... following your story for the last 6 months or so has not been easy. I have had my doubts... I hope this time both of you have it figured right.

Most of the new arrangement sounds OK, except for the jewelry idea. Maybe she wants to have free access to your stuff? Charge her a rental fee.

All kidding aside, I hope this works out for both of you.

[angpai30]

It's always a sad moment when a couple decides to go seperate ways. In a way I can understand what you are going through because of how my marriage was a year and a half ago. My marriage was kind of rocky because of some issues that me and my wife had. My crossdressing wasn't an issue then, but our marriage has doubled in strength since. The more that I am honest with her and let her know how things are going and the direction I am taking the more she understands and loves me for who I am and what I want to become. I'm heart broken that you two decided to split and I'm almost reduced to tears, but I will be strong for you and I hope that you and your SO will reconsider your seperation. I am not very good with words so I will end on the high note.

Hannah~~

[angpai30]

Just like everyone else I should have read the second page, lol. I am happy to hear you are back at home with your wife and it sounds like she is making things work for the both of you and is really trying to make you feel more comfortable and at home while dressed. I hope things go well from this point on!!

Hannah~~

[Miranda09]

Sherry, you sure are having a roller coaster ride, but aren't all relationships like that, and isn't that what makes them interesting. Actually, I'm glad to see you and your wife are going to try to work things out. Florida isn't going anywhere, well, at least not for a couple hundred million years!!! :)

[Sherry-Stephanie]

LOL this is normal for me...trust me on that!!!!! Reality is far stranger to us than fiction could ever be....

[TxKimberly]

Good luck :)

[Karen564]

Call me crazy call me stupid but I'm totally committed to my wife....



Nope, you wont hear it from me!!, your Not crazy, your just in love..:love:

Although sometimes it's very hard to distinguish the difference between the two..LOL

But seriously, I think that is so admirable of you to do that!!!!, and wish both of you the very best of luck...

Sometimes it take drastic measures for each other to see what holds true in their hearts..

I just love happy endings & new beginnings like this.:love:


:hugs:

[Jennifer_Cross]

I know what your going through regards to the split but... one thing I learnt was NEVER look back, only forward.

Regrets yes! Would I change anything? NO!

You WILL find your happiness and maybe later look back and wish you had moved sooner.... Been there doine it!

I wish you all the very best in your quest.

Jenny