Orientation is a Little Unclear, Opinions?

[Myojine]

a little question...About my Oreintation.
um if i Realy detest men, then why do i always day dream being with one?
my orientation is unsure, i am MtF, and i realy dont like men, i have a very strong attraction to women but i dont want a relationship with women. i just want to have women as friends or for sex. but men, i dont know why but i Realy want a guy in my life.
For example, House,(from the TV show) IS like sooooooo sexy and i would totally marry him...
but for some reason i cant look away when i see a Realy sexy girl, in that cute skirt, i just wanna flip it up so i can see.(omg i love panties, on her, soooo sexy.)
But guys i dont see them as well, i dont wanna just have sex with a guy, and just say "k thanks bye!" I takes me a While for me to like a guy. he has to have the right personility, he looks right... it just happens and i end up liking him.
Confusion.

[Sharon]

....Confusion.

Ehh..., you may simply be more open-minded then you think you are. :)

[GypsyKaren]

You might want to watch the skirt flipping, good way to lose a hand.

Karen :g1:

[Myojine]

You might want to watch the skirt flipping, good way to lose a hand.

Karen :g1:

XD i never said i did it, just said i wanted to. dont touch just imagine :daydreaming:
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your a post op? omg i has questions...

[Andy66]

Take a deep breath. It's okay if you admire different qualities in males and females, or if you don't really know what you want yet. Maybe you're just bisexual... like me! :bs:

If there's one rule about sexuality and gender, it's that there are no rules. Everyone is different and likes different things. I say go with the flow and don't worry about labels so much.

[RedGG]

Take a deep breath. It's okay if you admire different qualities in males and females, or if you don't really know what you want yet. Maybe you're just bisexual... like me! :bs:

If there's one rule about sexuality and gender, it's that there are no rules. Everyone is different and likes different things. I say go with the flow and don't worry about labels so much.
I totally agree! When something comes along that feels right and you feel ready to take it to the next level, you'll know it. I say for now, just go with the flow.

[Miranda09]

I agree with what has been said here....just take your time. Explore new aspects of your sexuality if that's what you'd like to do. It's your life...live it as you see fit and have fun with it. After all, it's just sex, and sometimes stronger emotions can emerge. But approach it when you are ready...there's no rush. :)

[Heatherx75]

With a lot of the transpeople I know, myself included, sexual orientation tends to be all over the place. You never know, especially before transition. I was just like you. Always gawking at the ladies in the hot clothes. Couldn't be in a sexual relationship with a girl, but I always had to look. Was not at all into men, except maybe once in a blue moon. Now that I'm on hormones and my sex drive is decreased, I find that I'm still looking at girls in hot clothes. What I found out was that straight men don't look at women the way I ever did. I have always looked for like cool patterned tights, crazy shoes, a cool dress- stragiht boys just like exposed flesh. I never cared about that. Why would anybody care about that? Lol.

[joanlynn28]

Let's just say I will take all of the above mentioned comments in consideration. Sorting it all out.

[kellycan27]

Personally I like men. Big,strong,handsome, str8, MEN! :heehee:
As others have said, take it slow experiment. Ya never know.

[MJ]

i like both, just take your time sis :hugs:

[Steph2003]

I like both men and women - I would love to have a man caress me and then "have his way with me":), but I alos love the company of women. I love to have a "girls night out" and discuss the things that most women are not comfortable discussing with men,

[Terri Andrews]

It always depends on what mode I am in .
when out as Terri I always enjoy the attention of men.
When drab ,am just your normal guy .
I don`t always understand it ,I just enjoy the attention I get as Terri ,with no guilt .

[joanlynn28]

If you really want a honest reply from me about this may I suggest this thread be moved to the Safe Haven forum. I'll share about it with my sisters but I don't feel comfortable about it in the general forum where anyone can see.

[Barbara Dugan]

I used to think I liked both but recently I 'V been experienced a better chemistry when have a relationship with a man is an unexplained driving force that even the idea of transition and long steady relationships have crossed my mind recently

[kellycan27]

If you really want a honest reply from me about this may I suggest this thread be moved to the Safe Haven forum. I'll share about it with my sisters but I don't feel comfortable about it in the general forum where anyone can see.

Gosh! The suspence is killin me! :heehee:

[Lisa Golightly]

If you really want a honest reply from me about this may I suggest this thread be moved to the Safe Haven forum. I'll share about it with my sisters but I don't feel comfortable about it in the general forum where anyone can see.

The OP is not a member of the Safe Haven so moving the thread would not exactly help them.

For myself... well... up until hormones I was screwed... Liked boys, but couldn't go there... liked girls but didn't have the ability to function with them. Now with added hormones I like boys and feel the need though I much prefer CD's to vanilla types. As for girls... what would I do with one of them?

[joanlynn28]

Okay, I'll reveal it later got to go out right now.

[Myojine]

The OP is not a member of the Safe Haven so moving the thread would not exactly help them.

For myself... well... up until hormones I was screwed... Liked boys, but couldn't go there... liked girls but didn't have the ability to function with them. Now with added hormones I like boys and feel the need though I much prefer CD's to vanilla types. As for girls... what would I do with one of them?

o.o safe haven? how do i get to that? can i even go there? i mean im DEAD SET on my transitioning. im not going to turn back like i have so many times...

[sherri52]

My mother told me not to look at girls that way because every time I do they get pg. Look at me now eight children later, at least they are all with my ex wives.

[CharleneT]

Sounds like you might want to talk to a therapist about several issues. Sexual orientation confusion is common among TG people in general. To me, you are saying you are bi, but not really... so, be patient and see where your heart is ;-)

C.

[GypsyKaren]

o.o safe haven? how do i get to that? can i even go there? i mean im DEAD SET on my transitioning. im not going to turn back like i have so many times...

You'll find the information here (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/faq.php?faq=pf#faq_safe_haven), submit an application and we'll check you out.

Karen :g1:

[Lisa Golightly]

o.o safe haven? how do i get to that? can i even go there? i mean im DEAD SET on my transitioning. im not going to turn back like i have so many times...

Just because you don't want to tansition doesn't mean that you're not transsexual and for many of us how we feel, and what we do is all a question of time. Life as it progresses changes our attitude to who we are many times.

It sounds perfectly ludicrous to say i'm not the person I was at 16, or 20, or 30, but the truth of the matter is I was always a girl at these ages... just not ready to be that girl.

It is an odd and an eventful journey being made the way we are. Hopefully places like the Safe Haven will help you come to terms with what you are... but always remember who you are. The values you live by can never be swayed by others and if they are it is at a detrimental cost.

Whenever I needed to make those decisions in life that fundamentally changed my life... I did them alone because in the end we are alone, and who we are is all we are.

End of philosophy 101.

If you get in I hope grow and become aware of all that you are and that helps you grow.

Lisa x

[joanlynn28]

Okay, okay the truth is that I feel that I am bisexual and here is why. I have always been attracted towards women and I still am. But I find myself also somewhat attracted towards men too. Problem is that I was living with my sister and her family eg wife and teenage son. Now it had nothing to do with my feelings but my sister was sexually molested as a young boy and has very strong feelings against men in general and gay men specifically. Her feelings and my need to find my sexuallity has caused somewhat of a rift in our relationship.

That is the main reason that we had to go and live apart from each other after spending over three years living together. Yes the living situation became unfair to everyone involved, me not being able to be open about myself and my sister worried about the effect my actions might have on her son. My sister is very protective of her son and you cannot blame her being that way considering what she went through emotionally growing up. And I couldn't be truthful with her knowing how she felt for fear of losing my best and only friend. And we both have made a lot of personal sacrifices during our friendship but have also gained more than we will ever know. For one if we had never met my sister would most likely not be alive today and there could have been a chance that I may have met the same fate.

But both of us had a long over do talk the past weekend and my sister told me that no matter what path I choose she will still love me and respect me for who I am. That I need to follow my heart and not live the way others might think that I should. And she is right,I need to find myself and there is only one way and one person that can make that possible, me. My sister also at least acknowledged that she knows that I have been fearful about being truthful to her knowing that I had a fear that to do so I would lose her as a friend.

And I know that it is painful for us to live apart, I saw it in her eyes yesterday when everyone came to pick up their things at the apartment. She was almost in tears, I'm starting to tear up myself as I write this. But this situation had to happen, it seems unfair at the moment but for everyone involved to be able to grow and move forward it is the best solution.

Unfortunately there was also a lot of information withheld from my sister from her wife and I that I should have just went and told my sister about. Being a pawn to my sister's wife to protect her only damaged my relationship with my sister and that is what really hurts me. I was used and I should have held my ground and said no. It tore me up inside not telling my sister the true about what was going on and that was not fair to myself or her.

The truth is when my sister always comfronted me about my sexuallity I always told her that I was lesbian and still feel that I still am. But my sister and her wife always questioned me about it because they found me looking at men like the way any other women look at men. There should be no problem with that I am a woman after all. Of course in my sister's opinion she thinks that makes me a gay man, I'm not I am a gay woman. But since being post-op I find myself becoming more attracted to men sexually and if a nice guy asked me out I would probably do so. Nothing wrong with that I am a woman after all and I have my needs. But I also know in my heart that the kind of long term relationship that I want and the kind of love that I need can only come from another woman. Thats the situation that I find myself in so yes I am a least what some would call a lipstick lesbian but I also am probably bi-curious too. But to add from my sister talking with me she also knows that I need another woman in my life also, because she told me that the way I responsed towards other woman she knows that I am attracted to women still and that is where I need to go. But there is only one way for me to figure out where I am at and that is to just go out with both and find out what I really need, then I'll know where my sexuallity lies.

[Hope]

a little question...About my Oreintation.
um if i Realy detest men, then why do i always day dream being with one?

I takes me a While for me to like a guy. he has to have the right personility, he looks right... it just happens and i end up liking him.
Confusion.

Bill Shakespeare in the voice of Polonius said it best "This above all, to thine own self be true"

[Jessinthesprings]

As a man I was never attracted to men in any shape or form but as a woman i really get excited by a sexy man... hmm yah Huge Laurie. Perhaps you feel the same way.

You may try a date or two and see if that clears things up, and you may find that you are only held back by your fear of being labled "gay". I do urge you to be careful with who you choose and what you do.

[Sophie_Serendipity]

I am able to admire the appearance of some men, and I'd be a liar if I didn't admit to having the occasional daydream, but socially, men and their macho crap just piss me off completely. I very much prefer the company of women, and pretty much all of my best friends have been female...even from my first friend in primary school. My relationship history has been pretty tragic, and my experience of sex has been equally traumatic. SO. When I see beautiful women, I just have to stop and admire, while trying very hard not to look like a pervert...but I've never been comfortable with what I was "supposed" to do (according to other guys) of thinking of all the things I could "do to her"...If anything, I am usually thinking, wow, I'd love to look like that...or 'how does she do her hair like that?'

I love my girlfriend, and I think she's beautiful. It's more than that though, it's the emotional connection with her that I've never had with anyone else that makes it so special.

best wishes,
Sophie