Ever catch a Guy's Heart?

[KateSpade83]

Ever catch a Guy's Heart when out in drag? I have, but I'm not into men! I'd brush them away with my guy voice if they made a move on me! But when I drag up and go shopping sometimes I'm so beautiful and passable enough to catch a man's heart!

Incidences -
Shopping at Galleria, in my white St John outfit. Guy stops and gives a good stare at me like he's speechless and in love with me... I turn around to watch his reaction, then turn away like I'm an expensive high class woman he can't afford... He starts walking away in his group.

I pass a big black man in my Apt complex going to my car. He says Hi to me so I say hi back in a low femme voice. But he keeps watching me as I go towards my car. I had to hide which car it was...

Downtown Chicago - I was wearing a skirt suit and looked like those pretty professional skirt suited women there. Two guys follow me into Ronnie's Steakhouse... but then they give a laugh when I talk in my guy voice to my mom!

But I will never cd and mess around with a guy. Those Craigslist cds give us a bad name!

[Samantha B L]

I found out years ago that a freind of mine who's kind of a redneck type had a thing for me that was sentimental and homosexual all at once. This was the sort of guy who works in a lumber yard or as a roto rooter guy and drinks Coors and Pabst to boot. He was a hopeless braggart and did a lot of sounding off about business deals he was going to get himself involved in and how he was going to have a few thousand bucks coming up real soon,etc. and so on. Somewhere along the line I told him that I dress and I told him that when he got his money maybe he could buy me a few hundred dollars worth of clothes and fem stuff. He slowly started to hit on me for sex and I did it because I considered this person to be unpredictable and his B.S. scared me a little bit. We did it five times and it was about as much fun as digging a drainage ditch or shingeling a roof. He was a semiliterate and I just couldn't get it explained to him that I'm not gay and that most CD's ain't gay. He finally moved to some other town and over time I let the contact drop off.

[Kathi Lake]

Kate, did you ever think that maybe the guy was speechless, but not necessarily due to the reason you thought?

Did you think that the guy at your apartment was watching you out of lust or curiosity?

Sorry sister, but I have to say it. Ummmmmm,wow. Thinking about it, I'm not really sure what to say. :)

Kathi

[kellycan27]

Kate.... You go girl! :lol2:

[MsJanessa]

Ive had lots of guys hit on Me---that sounds like what happened to you----did any "fall in love"? Maybe, I'm not really sure most I didn't have anything to do with except talk to them---a few went further---so maybe I'm a heartbreaker---lol who can tell?

[Miranda09]

Can't say I ever have had anyone hit on me or pay me much attention...but then again, I don't go out much. If that ever did happen, I have no clue as to how I would react. :idontknow:

[Princess Chantal]

In my opinion, it takes more than a brief moment to "catch a Guy's heart" especially with the very little interaction that you mention. All the incidents that you have mentioned were your own assumptions.
I've had interactions with guys that led to them asking about and looking for me, but I wouldn't say that i caught their heart. Maybe attracted some interest to have me on their mind??? But I don't know cause I'm not a mind reader.

Unless you look better then your avatar I think your getting hit on by guys that have a fetish for drag queens.
from what I have seen of Kate, she does not appear as a drag queen with her dressing style, hair style and make up. She is very far from the feminine exageration that drag queen present for the stage.... Hmmm I didn't know there were drag queen chasers, even

[Tamara Croft]

I have of course seen you avatar pic and please don't get offended with this but I don't think you can pass.That's just mean! :Angry3:


So I think your being stared at cuz you don't pass. Unless you look better then your avatar I think your getting hit on by guys that have a fetish for drag queens.And that's even more mean! :Angry3:


I would like to see other pics of you dressed to see better, but from the one pic I have to be honest you look like a guy in a dress.Why don't you try checking out her threads in the gallery? You base this on her avatar? how nasty is that? :Angry3:


Sorry if I have hurt your feelings , that's not what I wanted to do, but your post seemed to say I am so beautiful and passable that any guy could fall in love with me. I just don't see it hun I am sorry.I think you're just being nasty, Kate has every right to say whatever she likes, without you coming along and hurting her feelings like that. And even if she's not hurt, you still had NO right to say these horrible things to her, you're well out of line :Angry3: If Kate thinks she's beautiful to the whole world, so what? is she actually hurting anyone? NO!

Kate didn't ask for your nasty opinion, nor did she ask to be told she's a man in a dress... maybe you should keep your comments to yourself!

[April Renee]

I'm just not sure I want to post any type of reply here in fear of being muli quoted,.but at no time did it seem that any of the guys made any other type of advances even if you would have turned them away. A high class lady wouldn't have turned to see if the man was still looking, why hide what car you drive in an apt building you live in, and you said that the guy in the restaurant started laughing. So I'm just unsure what to think.

[kellycan27]

I'm just not sure I want to post any type of reply here in fear of being muli quoted,.but at no time did it seem that any of the guys made any other type of advances even if you would have turned them away. A high class lady wouldn't have turned to see if the man was still looking, why hide what car you drive in an apt building you live in, and you said that the guy in the restaurant started laughing. So I'm just unsure what to think.

You can put your fears to rest...I am not going to multi-quote you. Seems like the OP was telling us about some of her experiences, and asking....NOT for our opinion of her or the events mentioned,but rather asking... if any of us have ever similar experiences.......Men seemingly attracted to us.

[Barbara Dugan]

Ok Kate to catch a guy's heart is one of the reasons I dress.I won't get into details but I've been proposed of everything till marriage I really don't know how sincere were them but one can only dream:daydreaming: and by the way I think and believe you look better in person than your pics..good post Kate:thumbsup:

[Lisa Golightly]

I may have the occasional impact on the occasional chap but then I'm quite a flirty little thing... 0r 'rude' as Debbie refers to me. I used to be able to attract women as well... but I never quite knew what to do with them. :)

[Shelly Preston]

Kate I can't see me ever capturing a guys heart

I am not sure you got there hearts but you certainly got them interested

I am glad you did not get too many problems because of it

[Carrie R]

It's never happened to me while I've been out (which isn't much yet) but several times on the chat site I go to. Even had marraige mentioned a few times.
I told one guy I wasn't gay, and he told me I was odd because he said most CDs are gay. I told him that the opposite was true, but he thought I was full of crap.

[Chrissie P]

I had a torrid E mail session with a man who knew all about me. He was captivated by what I did. The E mails kept getting more and more intense, like 20 a day. Finally we met and........................................

Talk about feeling womanly ! :battingeyelashes:

[Shikyo]

I've had few guys trying to flirt with me in the public. Some of them tried it when I was actually walking with my wife.

The best was though when I was walking in Helsinki few days ago: A guy, stranger whom I've never met before, said hi to me. So far this is not that strange but the story goes on. After I replied to him with a little hesitation, he asked "Stockings and all?" which got me little confused. I was wearing stockings and garter belt so I answered, "Of course". Conversation did not end here. "Going to work?", he asked. The question made me totally confused and it took me a while to answer back that I wasn't going to work. "Are you selling yourself?", he asked this time. For a second I did not know how to answer. My answer, was of course, "No." Not everyday you get asked if you're selling yourself on the street in bright daylight. It wasn't even noon yet! He did not want to give up that easily and said "Not interesting in money?". All I said was, "No, I have to go now or I'll be late." which wasn't even a lie. Thus I started walking forward to the direction I was heading to. For a while he followed me and I was already thinking if I should call the police because he was creeping me out. When he was gone I could finally start laughing about the situation.

With this one, I only regret not asking how much I was worth to him.

The other incidents weren't nearly as enjoyable as the one I described. There have been also some events through internet but I don't really count those in because of the simple fact: We haven't met in real life yet.

[Faye56]

had some guy wolf whistle at me from his car , then again he was going very fast and it was very dark and...... well at least he whistled. :)

[Nadia-Maria]

If Kate thinks she's beautiful to the whole world, so what? is she actually hurting anyone? NO!

Of course if Kate just "thought she's beautiful to the whole world, so what?"
But the problem is she not only thinks it, she comes repeatedly on this forum to tell it loudly instead of keeping it for herself. And the repetition may become somewhat annoying, I mean.

Nadia

[Tamara Croft]

Of course if Kate just "thought she's beautiful to the whole world, so what?"
But the problem is she not only thinks it, she comes repeatedly on this forum to tell it loudly instead of keeping it for herself. And the repetition may become somewhat annoying, I mean.

NadiaWell just what the bloody hell is this board for then? If you don't like her threads/posts, it's quite simple, DON'T READ THEM!!! You know how many times members post this :BS: and how many times it annoys the hell out of me? nuff said... move along to the panty threads if they suit you better :rolleyes:

[Joselle3]

[QUOTE=Christina W;1860346]I have of course seen you avatar pic and please don't get offended with this but I don't think you can pass. So I think your being stared at cuz you don't pass. Unless you look better then your avatar I think your getting hit on by guys that have a fetish for drag queens. I would like to see other pics of you dressed to see better, but from the one pic I have to be honest you look like a guy in a dress. Sorry if I have hurt your feelings , that's not what I wanted to do, but your post seemed to say I am so beautiful and passable that any guy could fall in love with me. I just don't see it hun I am sorry.]

Why do you insult a fellow sister?

You might try thinking about other peoples feelings for a change

[Roxy Reid]

I don't think christina was trying to insult anyone, in fact she says as much! She was simply being honest! and I happen to agree, based on Kate's avatar she doesn't pass. These guys who are staring at her are probably just staring because she is a crossdresser and they are curious. :2c:

[Joselle3]

Well I disagree You have to think about how your words affect other people..think before you speak

[victoriamwilliams1]

Ok, Ok, Ok!

I was going to be silent, however Kate is a cool person and I would not base anything on one avatar photo! If you wish to see her photos click on her name and the find the view threads started by Kate and then you will find some nice photos of her. In fact here are a few to save you the time:)

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=113080
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=110029
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=107205

IMAO I feel that we have the tendency to forget that women have all types of looks and sizes. Just to answer her question I will say yes! I have had and still have a few guys who have fallen for me and I have had one beg for a kiss which after intense begging I gave in and the guy in me hated it!!

At first when I started and before I began to think of myself as a woman when dressed which in its self is a controversy with some! Before then I would have problems when a man would look at me because I did not feel confident in my look or in myself! Now I have no problems because I know that it is in the mans nature to look at a woman who catches his eye.

So Kate all it means is that you are confident in yourself and it is in the nature of a man to look at a woman. On major caveat for you is this, Never drop to a male voice in a situation with a group of guys or a guy unless you are with a group! You can open yourself up to other problems. Remember that once you put on your fem-self you put on all the issues that come with it.

You be safe:)

[MsJanessa]

Can't say I ever have had anyone hit on me or pay me much attention...but then again, I don't go out much. If that ever did happen, I have no clue as to how I would react. :idontknow:

I can't believe that you've never been hit on---are the admirerors in chigago nearsighted?

[TxKimberly]

Nope, but then to be honest, I've never had one thrown at me either. :D

[LilSissyStevie]

I don't go out dressed but I doubt it would happen if I did. Passing is neither possible nor important to me. However, I use to get ogled and hit upon by gay guys all the time when I was younger and lived near Palm Springs. I have to admit it's pretty creepy to have some guy stand there and look you up and down like you're a piece of meat. Now I'm old and flabby so at least I don't have to worry about that any more.

[Misty is Kindafem]

Well, I've been working very hard over the last few months to make myself passable and I still have a ways to go.

...but it's very important to me.

Having said that and after looking at some of Kate's other pics I believe she could pass in broad daylight, and I respect that.

If her look doesn't appeal to you then keep it amongst your circle of friends lest you get publicly called out by others for your own failings.

Also I think girls without the courage to at least have an avatar pic should refrain from commenting on another girls looks just out of common decency.

Kate has an interesting way with words but she's out there in public and she advances our cause everyday. Please show her the respect she deserves for being a strong, proud Tgirl.

-Misty

[SirTrey]

I don't recall Kate asking in this thread if people think she can pass...Why the insults? This is a support forum....when a person brings up a specific question, why can't people stick to answering that? Is it really that hard to stay on topic? She asked if you have ever captured someone's heart...not whether you think SHE can or has....so....have YOU? The right way to answer that is a simple yes or no and maybe a story to go with it....When people say, "do I pass", they are asking that question...Then, by all means, comment on it....If they ask a DIFFERENT question, answer THAT....Obviously a lot of you do not get what Tamara was saying at all. Geez. Be nice, for gods sake. :Angry3:

[Misty is Kindafem]

Geez. Be nice, for gods sake. :Angry3:

My hero! :battingeyelashes:

-Misty

[vivianann]

I hope I never catch a guys heart, I dont like men anyway. from the neck up I do not pass anyway, that helps to keep the guys away.
I do hope to catch a GG's heart some day. :battingeyelashes:

[Nicole Erin]

Men have hearts? Kate, men want something but trust me, they don't think of romance and buying flowers when checking out a lady. Your neighbor is probably wanting to roll you in the hay. :D

I once did catch a man's heart and I ended up crying... here is the story -

I ws walking around in a hospital, see, one of my friends is a surgeon. Anyways he was performing a heart transplant and I happen to walk by the operating room and he says "Hey Erin, go deep for a pass!" He just throws this bloody human heart and my knee-jerk reaction was to run and catch it. Well I had to jump up a bit but when I landed, I landed on my foot at a bad angle and sprained it so bad it hurt and I was laying there crying.

[Speck]

Ok, Ok, Ok!

I was going to be silent, however Kate is a cool person and I would not base anything on one avatar photo! If you wish to see her photos click on her name and the find the view threads started by Kate and then you will find some nice photos of her. In fact here are a few to save you the time:)

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=113080
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=110029
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=107205

IMAO I feel that we have the tendency to forget that women have all types of looks and sizes. Just to answer her question I will say yes! I have had and still have a few guys who have fallen for me and I have had one beg for a kiss which after intense begging I gave in and the guy in me hated it!!

At first when I started and before I began to think of myself as a woman when dressed which in its self is a controversy with some! Before then I would have problems when a man would look at me because I did not feel confident in my look or in myself! Now I have no problems because I know that it is in the mans nature to look at a woman who catches his eye.

So Kate all it means is that you are confident in yourself and it is in the nature of a man to look at a woman. On major caveat for you is this, Never drop to a male voice in a situation with a group of guys or a guy unless you are with a group! You can open yourself up to other problems. Remember that once you put on your fem-self you put on all the issues that come with it.

You be safe:)


There's a lot to learn from your post:

-be nice
-don't judge a book by its cover
-the importance of confidence
-the need to be careful

I think it speaks volumes about what a wonderful person you are.

[TxKimberly]

OMG - I'm stunned! If your wife, daughter, or grand daughter told you she thought that she was beautiful, would you even briefly consider telling her "Sorry darling your mistaken. You are actually ugly as hell." I'm pretty sure that none of us would do that to any girl or woman that we cared anything about. For that matter, I'm pretty sure that none of us would be so cold as to say that to ANY woman, even if we didn't know her, care for her, or even actively disliked her. It's a mean thing, it's a cruel thing.

What on God's green Earth makes so many of you think it was appropriate or acceptable for you to do that here to Kate??!! If you felt that way, why couldn't you be polite and kind and keep it to yourself? Why would you willingly hurt her feelings and try and destroy her confidence??

I'm just stunned . . .

You know, I'm not an advocate for sensorship, but I think maybe the mods should consider deleting those posts before Kate reads them and spends a night with tears in her eyes.

[Tamara Croft]

I doubt Kate will spend the night in tears, she'll probably brush it off like she normally does. I'd rather leave the posts up and let her see just how nasty people are. But anymore posts off topic ARE going to be removed. Either answer Kates question, or don't reply. You've been warned.

[gracee]

A guy almost caught mine once. We had been talking, strangers to each other, and I was feeling comfortable in his non-judgemental presence. Suddenly he said, "Here's what I think you need," and he wrapped his arms around me. I surprised myself by surrendering. Damn near cried!

He swayed me around for maybe fifteen seconds, then we unclinched. I'm sure I was blushing under the makeup. He said, "Was that OK?"

I said yes but please don't do it again. He winked at me, and that was that. I felt no sexual urge, but I still think about it occasionally. He was a good man.

[DemonicDaughter]

First off...

Being a drag queen, and apparently a rather "passable" one :heehee:, I've actually had several gay men ask me out until they realize I'm a GG. I think a lot of men (both straight and gay) have a fetish for individuals with a lot of style (flamboyant or not).

Secondly...

...I just couldn't get it explained to him that I'm not gay...

Unfortunately, when you are male and you sleep with a male, they are going to assume you are either bisexual or gay. Especially if it has been more than once.

I'm sorry but its statements like that why many in the gay community find cding so difficult to accept.

Thirdly...

I don't think christina was trying to insult anyone, in fact she says as much!

When you have to include the words "please don't take offense" or "no offense but..." assume that what is being said will be offensive and possibly shouldn't be expressed unless specifically asked for.


Nope, but then to be honest, I've never had one thrown at me either. :D

I was going to say something like that!

[kellycan27]

Unfortunately, when you are male and you sleep with a male, they are going to assume you are either bisexual or gay. Especially if it has been more than once.

I don't know what would be unfortunate about it, but if you are a male and you sleep with males.......wouldn't the assumption that you were either bi,or gay be correct? :heehee:

[Sherlyn]

Hmmm ..I dunno Kate ..if some have then I am not aware of it..(maybe they were shy :D)...betcha it would make for a awkward situation ...no doubt..I do have a few male friends as Sher ..but that's just what they are ....friends

[kellycan27]

Sorry love,but I got a bit carried away and forgot to answer your question....
Yes! I got a lot of attention from men, and I love every second of it!
:hugs:
Kelly

[Lisa Golightly]

Sorry love,but I got a bit carried away and forgot to answer your question....
Yes! I got a lot of attention from men, and I love every second of it!
:hugs:
Kelly

What do I read in your signature? Hmmmmmmm? :heehee:

[April Renee]

Kate,
Yes I have, before I decided to take a different path in life by getting married I dressed fully and hit the clubs. There were many guys that would come to the table where myself and other cd / ts girls would gather and hit on us, gay strait and bi. We met them all..there wasn't a night out that I didn't have my drinks paid for and my cover charge comp-ed at the door. I will say that I do miss those times and the fun I had. I wish I had my old comp that had all my old pics of me and my old friends but the ol Dell got used and abused and now I just post via blackberry without the ability to post any pics..

Peace... ....

April

[DemonicDaughter]

I don't know what would be unfortunate about it, but if you are a male and you sleep with males.......wouldn't the assumption that you were either bi,or gay be correct? :heehee:

Oh I definitely don't think there is a single thing unfortunate about being gay/bi. Especially since I identify as such. :D

I just think its unfortunate that the person making the original statement I quoted doesn't quite seem to grasp the concept of "gay". lol

[JiveTurkeyOnRye]

Unfortunately, when you are male and you sleep with a male, they are going to assume you are either bisexual or gay. Especially if it has been more than once.

I'm glad you said it, I was considering replying with something similar but was unsure if I should due to the already flaring tempers in this thread. But yeah, I found it odd too that she said she had sex with this man five times, and yet mocked his intelligence when he doesn't get that she's not into men?

As to the actual topic of discussion here, I had a poor boy try to "dance up on me" on thursday when I went out, and it was sort of creepy cause he was dancing behind me and I kept trying to move away from him and he kept following with me, till I finally turned to look at him and I think he figured out I was a guy and took off.

Recently a male friend of mine who I am out to was talking to me about the crossdressing and he said something to the effect of "Well I guess I just don't see the appeal personally, I mean I could understand it if you were gay," so I asked him, why would me being gay make it make sense for him, and he was like "well, I mean maybe then you'd be doing it to be attractive to men," and I said "but don't gay men like other men?" His father is actually gay so it isn't like he sees gay men as this entirely foreign concept, but it is just funny how many people tend to lump CD's in with homosexuals when, if you really follow it to it's logical conclusion, it seems like the two usually directly conflict.

[pattyv]

Kate-you are pretty. Pay no heed to such negative remarks.Lets all chill out, and just be kind to each other.

[kellycan27]

What do I read in your signature? Hmmmmmmm? :heehee:

Well my love. You know me perhaps better than anyone else here, so I am sure I don't have to clarify what I said for your benefit. But for the edification of those who you may now have wondering... Enjoying the attention is one thing,acting on it something completely different.:battingeyelashes:
Kel

[MelanieCA]

I once did catch a man's heart and I ended up crying... here is the story -


Hah hah, now that made me laugh. :eek:

[ashcrimson]

A stare can mean a lot of things, too many possibilities to single it out, them falling in love is just one of them. It is not an impossibility though Sometimes its harder if the person just gave a stare, you need followup actions like words, gestures to tell what is on these peoples minds, their actual eyes and face. Even a smile has many variaties with different thoughts behind them.

[dilane]

In terms of being asked out, that has happened to me a number of times. I go mainly to straight venues. I never act on it, beyond casual socializing and dancing. I just want to have a couple of drinks at the clubs, dance and make friends.

I don't consider a single flattering remark or the usual male size-up stare to be in that category.

I've documented a number of these events in my various out and about postings here. I've been asked out many times, a majority of times by guys who don't know I'm trans. On occasion I've rattled them when I've disclosed my status. Once, when I felt a guy was getting smitten, I disclosed, and the guy paused, and said, "You know, I think that could be ok." On another occasion, another guy was really taken aback.

The other way I deal with it is to say that I have a BF, a long distance relationship, and I'm just out tonight to dance a little and hang with my friends.

-- Diane

[danielle_from_cal]

I have caught the eye of a couple of men when I was out dressed. They never really came on to me but, although they were speaking Spanish (welcome to California) I could understand everything they said. It was kind of flattering!

As far as "catching a guy's heart", that happened kind of accidentally. I had a boyfriend several years ago and I put on some makeup and lingerie one time. From then on he could not get enough of "Danielle". OMG that was fun!

[KateSpade83]

I don't cry or get dissappointed if there are skeptics here who don't believe I'm passable and beautiful enough to catch the heart of a man... Actually, I'm one of the successful rare few of you cd's here who shops in full drag and gets treated like a beautiful lady... I admit there are times I got read and laughed at, because maybe my makeup, wig, or tuck was off or maybe sometimes some people have such great GAYDAR! But I'm not photogenic so some of you might think I'm ugly when I'm really pretty in real life! Sometimes my photos look nice and sometimes they look ugly... like in distance shots.

But I wasn't imagining or reading things wrong that men were attracted to me! Even lesbians have flirted with me and women have called me pretty or said hi to me as another pretty girl to another...

[victoriamwilliams1]

I don't cry or get dissappointed if there are skeptics here who don't believe I'm passable and beautiful enough to catch the heart of a man... Actually, I'm one of the successful rare few of you cd's here who shops in full drag and gets treated like a beautiful lady... I admit there are times I got read and laughed at, because maybe my makeup, wig, or tuck was off or maybe sometimes some people have such great GAYDAR! But I'm not photogenic so some of you might think I'm ugly when I'm really pretty in real life! Sometimes my photos look nice and sometimes they look ugly... like in distance shots.

But I wasn't imagining or reading things wrong that men were attracted to me! Even lesbians have flirted with me and women have called me pretty or said hi to me as another pretty girl to another...

:thumbsup: Well said! :thumbsup::thumbsup: :hugs:

[Adelaide]

I will never mess around with a guy.... I love women too much!

However, I get a real kick when being approached by men! It happened on a busy street in daylight this spring. I was coming out of a Mac store where I had my eyes done. I was wearing tight jeans, heels, long french nails and my wig (long natural hair to lower back). Two guys followed me to the parking lot and finally started talking to me. Since my voice is not as feminine as I would like, they realize that I was a CD....but however complemented me on my looks.

I felt like a million bucks.

A.

[Cheshire Gummi]

It's pretty hard to catch something you don't go fishing for.

I like boys and all that, but I tend to make it pretty clear that I'm flying a Jolly Roger, even if my vessel looks like it belongs in the Spanish armada. If I didn't, that'd be dishonest.

To put it another way, if someone sails into dock looking for a little lobster tail, I got what they need, but if they're looking specifically for Maine lobster, I'm going to tell them that they've hit the wrong port.

Suffice it to say, my trade routes are not limited and I'll anchor up for new opportunities anywhere that looks redeeming, fun, and honest.

Now, I don't think any more nautical non-sequiturs can fit here.

[PrettyFlowingGown]

I've had guys hit on me, but a few have been drunk, unshaven, smelly and persistant so I've said no, or not interested. However, I've said yes to 1 or 2 who've been very gentleman-like. Why not if they treat you like a lady?

[Lisa Golightly]

Well my love. You know me perhaps better than anyone else here, so I am sure I don't have to clarify what I said for your benefit.

:) Yes I have the honour to know you very well indeed... In a strictly platonic way of course :) x

Kate,

You wrote a nice defence but there was no need. You're out there living it... kudos :) x

[Suzy Harrison]

But I'm not photogenic, so some of you might think I'm ugly when I'm really pretty in real life! Sometimes my photos look nice and sometimes they look ugly...





Well Kate that's true of all of us. I promise you I only ever put the best of the best photos of myself on this site - Some of my pics are really awful and I delete them as soon as I can !
:hugs: Suzy

[Sally2005]

That pink fog can be a real killer! Unless the people you interact with actually tell you what they are thinking...and remember, most of them will lie about it, you will never know for sure. It is okay to beleive in yourself...if you didn't on some level, none of us would be able to step outside in heels.

From my limited experience, a jaw drop means something major is probably out of place because the only other women that would get that reaction is a super model who is wearing something revealing (many of us can look good, but not that good!). The other reactions mentioned also tend to indicate there might be a problem. This doesn't mean it can't happen occasionally, but no...I think 'catching a guys heart' is not a reality for me.

My goal is to blend. Oh...I also wear a wedding ring that keeps most of the guys away...so maybe that's skewing my observations.

[windycissy]

Um hmm.....

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[Rhonda Jean]

His heart??? Hardly. I try to avoid men when I'm dressed. The scarriest thing that ever happened to me while dressed was in the middle of the day, downtown. I was walking across the patio area of a high-rise office building when this short, muscle-bound looking guy came out. He was about 50 feet away, and looked me over in a way that made me very uncomfortable. I was already feeling a little over exposed, as it was one of the rare times I was wearing a miniskirt. He was walking the same direction I was, and turned around twice to check me out. I pretended to have a phone call, and paused for a few minutes to let him get ahead of me. He disappeared around the corner, and after a while I continued. When I rounded the corner, there he was! I don't know if he'd stepped back into the building to wait on me or what. He asked me if I wanted a ride. I declined, of course. He persisted. I crossed the street in the middle of the block, hoping to get away. He crossed with me. I was still a block from my car. He then said, "Can I ask you a question?". I stoped and said yes. When I turned around, he looked me up and down and said, "Are you a dude?" I said, yes. He said, "Well, still, do you want a ride?" Again I said no. He said, "Are you a cop?" I said no, and said I'm really not interested, and I really need to go. After several steps I turned around to see if he was following me. I have no idea where he went. I got in my car and circled the block to make sure he wasn't following me. He wasn't. I think he thought I WAS a cop! I was so glad he was gone. He really scared me!

I don't think that had anything to do with his heart!

[Nicole Erin]

Kate, whether or not we are into men is one thing but the attention is still nice.
I get different responses myself - Like one day I was out walking, some creep leaned out his car window and started barking, like some real creeps do when they think a woman is ugly. So later that same morning on my trip, some guy was smiling at me When he thought I was out of earshot I hear him say "Look at that behind" in a way like he enjoyed seeing it. That pretty much calmed the "Wanting to kick someone's ass" feeling that Mr Barking creep gave me.

[BeckiB]

Once I had a guy at a bar grab me by the hand and said "come on you are going home with me!". He had bought me a drink earlier and I had thanked but told him I was not interested. He kept up his shenanigans for the next couple hours. When he grabbed my hand I had had enough. Thats is when I pulled him in a little closer with my free hand and lectured him on the finer points of humanity.

I am not sure why he thought this was ok in the first place, or why me! I always figured it was the dim lights, dark atmosphere, way too much too much to drink, and closing time was nearing. The SO thought is was funny!!!

[Kayla Shadows]

Yep...and one I know of that I'm pretty sure cried unfortunately.Words were exchanged for a bit but,he finally started to get that there was no changing my mind.He said,"...but you were everything I ever wanted"..then got upset and had to walk away.Nothing I can do about it.I want nothing to do with being in a relationship with a guy.

[KandisTX]

Kate,

I have a few questions regarding your OP. Please see below;


Ever catch a Guy's Heart when out in drag? I have, but I'm not into men! I'd brush them away with my guy voice if they made a move on me! But when I drag up and go shopping sometimes I'm so beautiful and passable enough to catch a man's heart!

Incidences -
Shopping at Galleria, in my white St John outfit. Guy stops and gives a good stare at me like he's speechless and in love with me... I turn around to watch his reaction, then turn away like I'm an expensive high class woman he can't afford... He starts walking away in his group.

What exactly does a "like he's speechless and in love with me" expression look like? I really would like to know as I have had men stop and have expressions on their faces which range from "You've been read", to "Wow, nice butt and legs". I just want to know for when/if it happens.


I pass a big black man in my Apt complex going to my car. He says Hi to me so I say hi back in a low femme voice. But he keeps watching me as I go towards my car. I had to hide which car it was...

Odds are with this one that you have been read and he is just not sure how to react, so opts to simply say "Hi" and leave it at that.


Downtown Chicago - I was wearing a skirt suit and looked like those pretty professional skirt suited women there. Two guys follow me into Ronnie's Steakhouse... but then they give a laugh when I talk in my guy voice to my mom!

I'd be real careful in this type of situation, there were 2 of them and only 1 of you. This could have turned out real nasty for you.



But I will never cd and mess around with a guy. Those Craigslist cds give us a bad name!

Then why post something like this? Numerous times you have come here and posted how you have "Quit Crossdressing", or even under your avatar is says EX CD? So, honestly Kate, which is it? Have you quit crossdressing but just haven't told yourself yet?

Kandis:love::rose2:

[MsJanessa]

Kate it occurs to me you don't hang around in bars too often when dressed--I have and I'll say that lots of men and some women have hit on me---did they lose their hearts?---I'm pretty sure that it was another part of their anotomy which was controlling their actions

[milliek]

I was kissed by a man once in a bar.. it was the most awesome day of my life.

[Miranda09]

Once I had a guy at a bar grab me by the hand and said "come on you are going home with me!". He had bought me a drink earlier and I had thanked but told him I was not interested. He kept up his shenanigans for the next couple hours. When he grabbed my hand I had had enough. Thats is when I pulled him in a little closer with my free hand and lectured him on the finer points of humanity.

I am not sure why he thought this was ok in the first place, or why me! I always figured it was the dim lights, dark atmosphere, way too much too much to drink, and closing time was nearing. The SO thought is was funny!!!

Guess you got a dose of what many GG's go thru in a bar!! Glad everything turned out OK. You handled it well. :)

[BeckiB]

Miranda I think that is why my SO was laughing! I have never treated a woman like that and maybe that is why I found it so disturbing or maybe just because it was. It is kind of funny..I am not into guys at all but that thought never crossed my mind at the time.... I was too pissed about the rude behavior. Happily it only happened once and like I said I think there was a lot of drink involved.

[JulieK1980]

I don't cry or get dissappointed if there are skeptics here who don't believe I'm passable and beautiful enough to catch the heart of a man... Actually, I'm one of the successful rare few of you cd's here who shops in full drag and gets treated like a beautiful lady... I admit there are times I got read and laughed at, because maybe my makeup, wig, or tuck was off or maybe sometimes some people have such great GAYDAR! But I'm not photogenic so some of you might think I'm ugly when I'm really pretty in real life! Sometimes my photos look nice and sometimes they look ugly... like in distance shots.

But I wasn't imagining or reading things wrong that men were attracted to me! Even lesbians have flirted with me and women have called me pretty or said hi to me as another pretty girl to another...

And confident! good for you!! :hugs:

I don't know if I ever captured any hearts, but I sure had a lot of fun with a few of them....:daydreaming: