dressing in her clothes

[briefing0007]

my girlfiriend is quite tall and i am lucky enough that i can wear most of her clothes (although she doesn't know). is this okay or should i have my own clothes. i wear her panties, bras, pantyhose, pants, skirts.

[PretzelGirl]

I recommend getting your own clothes. First, using someone else's clothes is a recipe for disaster as something will go wrong. Second, it is a breach of trust IMO. It isn't your belongings, so you shouldn't be using it without asking. Get your own. You will feel better and can express your own styles.

[Deborah Jane]

That fact that you're are asking makes this obvious!!
You should try and buy your own as soon as you can!! :)

[Sheila]

hun, buy your own ......... and this is from a GG ............ if you were mine and I discovered you were using my clothes without permission I would hit the damned roof & if your girlfriend does not already know and finds out this way you really are asking for trouble ........... it is an invasion of her trust and privacy and I am sure the CDERs themselves will tell you that to a body :)

[celeste26]

Dont even think about using her clothes, girl get your own. The ONLY time when it is good is when she invites you to use them and there is a clear honest offer. Every GG would notice their clothes missing or torn or even moved, and secrecy is never a good option in the first place.

Communicate, no matter how painful it might be, and the benefits will come and if there is that offer and they fit both of you then you'll have a wonderful opportunity to enjoy each other in ways that only a few of us can.

But the danger to the relationship is great when there is no offer and a CD secretly uses their wife's clothes. Only a matter of time before there is a blow up which will always be worse than any benefit gained.

Just dont do it and if you've already started, then stop

[Miranda09]

I agree with everyone here...get your own clothes as your gf may start to notice things and become suspicious. Also, you may start to consider coming out to her. It's better to do it sooner than later. :)

[briefing0007]

does anyone else feel this way. by belonging to my girlfriend, they seem more genuinely feminine.

[Sheila]

does anyone else feel this way. by belonging to my girlfriend, they seem more genuinely feminine.

Why ? why ask the damn question if you are gonna ignore our replies :confused:

[TGMarla]

No question, you should either have your own clothing, or gain her permission to wear hers. No two ways about it. We've all (mostly) been guilty of raiding the SO's closet, but over time, we all must learn that it's not right, and to one and/or the other.

[vivianann]

Like everybody has said you need to buy your own clothes, by wearing her clothes you are invading her privacy, and you are decieving her by doing it behind her back.
You also need to come out to her about your crossdressing soon, like others have suggested.
MOST OF ALL STAY OUT OF HER CLOTHES:straightface:

[Lainie]

By all means get your own clothes!

If she wants to borrow them, be generous.

[briefing0007]

gives me somthing to really consider.

[Holly]

To be blunt, borrowing something without asking the owner's permission is called theft. And if you are caught, you deserve whatever you get.
...by belonging to my girlfriend, they seem more genuinely feminine.They are not anymore feminine, sweetie. Just forbidden because they belong to someone else. Do both of you a favor and get your own things. And talk to you GF. If you are serious about her, she deserves to know this about you.

[Samantha Kelsey]

Hi there,

I'm sure that lots of crossdressers do or have at sometimes borrowed clothes from a close one, in fact I would hazard a guess that most of us on this site have done so at some time. That doesn't make it right though does it? Imagine if they borrowed something of yours, your Ipod say or a laptop or whatever and didn't ask your permission. I bet you would really be angry. But you may ask, how can I ask to borrow her clothes without "outing" myself to her. Of course the simple answer is that you can't. So take the easy way out and buy your own. Then work up the courage to tell her and just may be she'll be okay with it and let you borrow her more feminine clothes.

[Joselle3]

Dressing in a womans clothes without her permission is a serious no no
Buy your own

[Tania D]

my girlfiriend is quite tall and i am lucky enough that i can wear most of her clothes (although she doesn't know). is this okay or should i have my own clothes. i wear her panties, bras, pantyhose, pants, skirts.
You should only wear her clothes if she suggests it, as others have said it is an invasion of privacy and may turn her against the idea of being supportive when she finds out. Although I have quite a big wardrobe of my own I will sometime try on some of my partners clothes but only when she offers.

[Ze]

I'm a transman and even I know the answer to this question! :eek:

Get your own clothes. Period.

Otherwise, it's incredibly unhygienic and a breach of both her privacy and her trust. Whether you realize it or not, it's showing her a huge amount of disrespect by doing this. And it concerns me that, due to all of this, you find it more fun to wear her clothes than have your own.

[jenna_woods]

buy your own cloths hun you are heading tword real problems, and its so un buying nice things to wear

[Jenniferpl]

She is probably wondering why things are not fitting like they were. If she does not know or approve of what you are doing, you are big trouble.

[StaceyJane]

I started out dressing in my mom's clothes and later I moved on to dressing in my wife's clothes. But the most fun has been buying and wearing my own clothes. I'm still in the closet and I keep everythng hidden but I have lots of time to myself and it's great to put on my own own outfit plus it fits me better.
Some people prefer to wear other people's clothes and if you do that's okay with me. I understand.

[joandher]

You have lit the fuse and when yes when she finds out the bomb will explode in your face

J-JAY

[Stitch]

Now if I was your girlfriend or a GG in that situation I'd be absolutely livid if I caught or found out my partner was wearing my clothes. Not only is it terribly disrispectful but also a breach of trust. Not to mention the hygiene issues. Whats MINE is MINE, I bought it. I wear it.

If I found out my partner was a CDer through finding my clothes all ruined, and they had kept me in the dark about something that is a huge part of who they are I doubt I'd be nearly as understanding as I am. :straightface: Lies are deceit are the worst thing you can bring to a relastionship.

[Jonianne]

.......they seem more genuinely feminine.

It's not good enough to find femininity in someone else or their cloths, if you are transgender, you have to find your femininity within your own person.

Like old Pappy used to say, "Son, if you are going to wear women's cloths, at least be man enough to buy your own!"

[Jocelyn Quivers]

As everyone else has said, do not wear her clothes without her permission period, no exceptions with this rule.

One other thing to ponder and that is what her reaction would be should you rip one of her dresses, hose, bras etc.

One last thought on this is take "pride" in developing your own unique "feminine" dressing style that is yours involving your own clothes and not your girlfriends.

[Tanya.Rebekah]

As already mentioned by the nice ladies above, you should start getting your own threads.. Aside from being able to express and show your own fashion taste, you also get to feel the excitement and fun of collecting nice, sexy clothes.. Mwaaah ~

[Ze]

As already mentioned by the nice ladies above

And gentleman. Don't forget the gentleman. :D

[erickka]

I agree with everyone else... Leave her stuff alone!!! Get your own stuff ASAP.

[brits love]

Oh, what a subject, coming from a wife, My husband recently borrowed without permission my favorite skort when I saw this I really became jealous it looked better on him than me, not good, I read somewhere some rules to follow and I believe one was always ask first, this works both ways!

[Jillt]

Yes as everyone else has said buy your own clothes shopping is lots of fun

[deja true]

... and if the idea that the clothes have been previously worn by your lady (or any lady for that matter) is really what's so appealing to you ... then the best place to shop for you will be resale shops. Unless you find 'em on the rack stil with their store tags on, you can be almost guarenteed that they've been worn by another woman. (Unless they've been purged by one of us ... LOL!)

I kinda like the idea, too, actually, but I'd never wear my gf's clothes. But I take care of that little kink by buying on ebay! ... and if you wanna be sure that the woman who wore those clothes previously was an attractive one, try the "Entertainment Memorabilia" category, wardrobe section...:D (I visit there often, and am pretty sure that many of the bidders for female wardrobe items from movies and tv shows are guys!)

;)

[Ze]

... and if the idea that the clothes have been previously worn by your lady (or any lady for that matter) is really what's so appealing to you ... then the best place to shop for you will be resale shops.

Ooooh, excellent point! :thumbsup:

[Chrissie P]

Buy your own clothes. You will get caught sooner or later. Women know exactly where and how they left things. It's an inborn sense that they have.

If you need "the feminine feeling" buy from a consignment shop where they have (hopefully) been worn by a woman.

LOL ! I consigned some stuff that I bought new, so some women are walking around wearing my old clothes. hmmm...........................

It's more fun to have your own stuff anyway.

[mskanuchi]

I was talking to my wife this weekend, and neither of us will wear the same undies. She did go through her closet and give me some dresses she wanted to part with, some were never worn. Luckily we're the same size. I agree that it's a trust issue you are crossing, but be honest with her, you both just might ending up really doubling your wardrobes.

Ms Kanuchi

[KellyV GG]

Stop it immediately! This is how I figured it out...things not where I left them, hung wrong, 2 of my favorite silk jumpers pulled totally out of shape, buttons popped off of a skirt...all kinds of funky things...i could go on. It was a very creepy way to find/figure this all out.

First of all..if she doesn't know, she needs to. Secondly...like some of the previous posters said...it's going to backfire and make it more difficult. My BF claimed that he needed to feel closer to me and more feminine like me...hence stealing my really nice clothes...and knickers...and stockings. That just added a layer of deceit and weirdness to an already hard to understand situation. But now that he/she has his/her own wardrobe he doesn't seem interested in mine anymore.

[AliceSandra]

Just my :2c:. Isn't it more fun to shop your own clothes together with her? Girls do like to shop and discuss clothes all the times. As matter of fact, I found it was very intriguing sometimes.

[silkyness]

My girlfriend made it specific that I ASK before wearing her clothes. I have a bunch of my own though.

[Paula Siemen]

Hell... darlin!!!!

Half of the fun of crossdressing is buying the clothes. Pull up your gonads (tapem if you need), and tuck up your ol pal and go out an buy some panties and bras. If you're a REAL gurl, you'll try'em on at the store. Shiiiiiiiiiiiit.

What kind of self respect'n CD are you?

Get your own stuff!!!

[jolanda_trav]

I agree with all of the gils above. Get your own stuff. I never never any more borrow my wife's clothes. When I told my wife about my CD'ing year ago she asked if I wore her clothes. At that time I had to admit I did (only on occasion because at that time I had already my own). And that realy set her up.

So get your own.

It's also lot of fun to shop and interact with the sales women who realy are (most of the time) very helpful and interested.

[Ze]

I agree with all of the gils above.

But you don't agree with me? :sad: I don't get it; my response was just like what the ladies here posted...

[Lindahexi]

Wearing yout partners clothes is in my opinion one of the worst things you can do, unless she knows about it and has given permission. Women can tell if their clothes have been moved however carefully you fold them up; imagine if she caught you out. To see your man dressed as a woman is a shock but if he's wearing YOUR undies and/ or dresses etc might be just too much to take.

Go and buy yourself some clothes that you really like and enjoy the experience, lots of shops accept CD's these days and will probably let you use the dressing room to try them on, sometimes by appointment or at certain tmes of the day.

Good luck hon,

Linda.

[TJ Tresa]

Well I have to agree with everyone else. If they aren't yours and you don't have permission by all means stay out. If you persist in wearing her clothes without her permission and yuo get caught then you give every CDer a bad name form that day forward. Now I am lucky in the fact that my wife and I share her clothes, and I still ask if I can any item that I am interseted in wearing. There is no excuse for not getting your own.

[Annaliese]

Get your own clothes, it is the right thing to do, it is so much nicer to step in to your own clothes.

[Rebecca Jayne]

Lets reverse the situation:
How would you feel if she was wearing your boy clothes on the sly? Violated, deceived, loss of trust.

You must have your own wardrobe.

If you are truly a cross dresser, one of your great joys will be shopping and once you start its addicting. Shop till you drop.

[giuseppina]

my girlfiriend is quite tall and i am lucky enough that i can wear most of her clothes (although she doesn't know). is this okay or should i have my own clothes. i wear her panties, bras, pantyhose, pants, skirts.

This isn't going to help your relationship ...

Get your own stuff and stop wearing hers.

Cheers
Giuseppina

[Miranda09]

I'm a transman and even I know the answer to this question! :eek:

Get your own clothes. Period.

Otherwise, it's incredibly unhygienic and a breach of both her privacy and her trust. Whether you realize it or not, it's showing her a huge amount of disrespect by doing this. And it concerns me that, due to all of this, you find it more fun to wear her clothes than have your own.


I definitely agree Ze. :)

[Ze]

I definitely agree Ze. :)

Awwww, you're such a dear, Miranda. :hugs: :heehee:

[Stormgirl]

I think you should go purchase your own clothes and tell her that you're a CD'er too. I'd be pissed if my girl was wearing my clothes w/o telling me.

[Jennifer Marie P.]

Get your own clothes its not too cool to wear someone elses clothes. Put together your own line of clothing.