Dressed away from home

[Cindy K]

I’m very discreet in my neighbourhood, and I can understand any one not wanting friends and neighbours to know they cross dress. But when we are away from home where no one knows us, is it still a problem.

[Cindy K]

I don’t mind as long as I am treated with respect.

[Wendy me]

I don’t mind as long as I am treated with respect.that's the way i voted ...no trouble is a good outing...

[Deidra Cowen]

I hate being read.

[Fallen Angel]

it realy does nt bother me at all as long as im not bothered xxxxxx

[Tiffy]

I could get read by a blind man.

April

[Toyah]

I could get read by a blind man.

April

I could get read by his dog, ow get of my leg mutt.

[Tristen Cox]

I wouldn't make it out of the yard, but out somewhere I guess I wouldn't pay attention unless someone made a stink.

[Krystal Lee]

I would like to think I can pass but realistically, think most folks just don't notice, and that works for me.
Hugs Krystal.

[Olivia]

I agree Krystal. Most folks don't really notice the people around them. We probably "over notice" ya know? But, even then, I find that I don't really closely inspect most of the women I see out and about. Many of them could be men but I just didn't look that close. I am much more inclined to try going out when I'm away from home tho'. You know, anonymity lessens the inhibitions quite a lot. Olivia

[windycissy]

Getting read sucks, but it happens to the best of us every now and then, so I don't let the fear of gettng read keep me cooped up. Crossdressing is like everything else: the more you do it, the better you get at it, and the more you practice interacting with other people, the more comfortable and confident you become. I am lucky to live in a big city like Chicago, where there are a million places to go and you can preserve your anonymity. When I lived in a small town, I could only dream about the things I do now.Ask Windy (http://snurl.com/askwindy)

[JoAnnDallas]

Today, I went out and got a newspaper at a local self serve newstand. Got seen up close at least 5 times. No one paid any attention to me or they didn't stare. Got up to the stop sign where the newstand is and a GG across from me waved me to go ahead. I put my blinker on to show that I was turning into the newstand. she waved, and then turned the corner. Made my day. Two other cars came up to the stop sign on my side, Causally looked at me and went on their way.

[Stephenie]

I think we all would be read by a blind man, since he sees with his hands :eek: .

I was once about 3000 miles from home and about 1000 mile from anybody that knew me. Well I thought I was. I walked around a corner and face to face with my Aunt. She was there with My Uncle and niece and two nephews. I was in drab but, still to think that at anytime, anyplace I could run into some one who knows me is something I do think about.

[Carla_CD]

I've only been in my back yard, and I both love it and am scared to death.
But I do feel as tho I belong out!!!!

Don't know if It pass, and would be scared to be seen.

[jessie]

I do wered sandles out in my yard no body put attencion wat Ido

[Cindy K]

I would like to think I can pass but realistically, think most folks just don't notice, and that works for me.
Hugs Krystal.
Your right Krisal, I’m 6 foot tall and occasionally I wear 4 inch heels, I think I paint up fairly reasonable, but for me to actually pass! ( not a chance.) Although I go out in public and 95% of people seem to be oblivious to my presence. It’s got to be one of three reasons, either folk are to busy to notice, don’t care, or I pass.

I don’t think it’s the latter. :)

[Teddie]

The closest to home that I've been out dressed, is just 5 miles away. A little too close, but it did what my wife wanted it to. Get me out of a major funk. The only other time was on vacation to the Lake Erie island, and that was great fun.

[womanatheart]

My girlfriends,
Everyone is exactly right!
God didnt give us give us a fine feminie nose, shapley high wide hips, narrow torso, hairless face, small backs, long narrow arms and fingers and beautiful breasts.
My best to those very few sisters who can pass with ease. :) For the rest of us - being "read" is very real. I say that to make the point - enjoy your CDing - what ever your level/frequency/read level is.
Don't begrudge or envy anyone. Our core looks are out of our hands.
Enjoy the companionship here at cd.com because CDing is a very personal and really is single/lonely walk in life. Capture the moments of feminie pleasure when you can.
Somehow CDing is in us all. Why? I don't know? I have learned to accept it. It doesnt pay to deny it. I am going to enjoy it - somehow.
My responsibility to those I love is to find a balance. Everyone has there own needs.
Way to serious!
Love,
Stephanie

[Laurie Ann]

I agree with what has been said dressing is an intensely personal matter if I do go out being read is the last thing on my mind. How to walk properly in 4" heels is first on my mind. At 6'1" I would also be read by stevie wonder, ray charles or any other blind person and their guide dog as long as they leave me alone I do not care. I have only been out dressed once and a group of teenage boys saw right thru me snickered a little bit but said nothing.

[JenniferPaul]

Sometimes you pass, and sometimes you don't. Oh well. I have been out frequently en femme in public in all kinds of places. I find that if you act and have the attitude that all is ok and normal people will treat you with respect. Use the scripts as a female that people are familar with, and they will generally keep to the script.

Jennifer

[geegee2]

I’m very discreet in my neighbourhood, and I can understand any one not wanting friends and neighbours to know they cross dress. But when we are away from home where no one knows us, is it still a problem.
I am always considering the things other people say about us girls, remember that if they dont understand it they want to destroy it, I just go be myself and damn what they say, as long as I get respect they get the same in return
you know the saying,damn the torpedoes full speed ahead : haha have a great day girls all my love hugs,kisses,luv GEEGEE2

[Clare]

I will never have a 'natural' female look, however i try to ensure that i appear as femme as possible when out and about.

So yes, passing is very important to me - even if i don't have a perfect look.

Christine

[Melissa Ryan]

I really do agree with you Christine. However the more I go out (and I do get read) the less I'm bothered by it. I think it is just like driving a car, nervous at first, but after a while your probatoinary licence kicks in and its only when the cops turn up that you care!!!!!LOL
.....Melissa.........

[FionaAlexis]

I do tend to go out in my own neighbourhood and I have no problems with that. I'm don't think my attitude changes whether I'm out and about in my own suburb or dressed further from home. I have no fear about being recognised - I'm quite OK even proud of my appearance now. And I'm not a pillar of the community or male role model type so I doubt it would be earth shattering news. But the chances of me being recognised are quite remote - and I test that theory several times each week.

I have voted for the first option not because I fear being read - I'm sure that happens - but, nevertheless, my intent is to pass as a woman so I'm not neutral about being read. I just want to continue to get better and interacting with people.

As I said in an earlier thread confidence is a fragile thing - and I'm not sure that going out dressed is like driving a car or riding a bike. Certainly if I have a few weeks off, for whatever reason, it takes a little positive self talk and 'sticking the toe in the water' to get back out there.

Fiona xx

[Melissa Ryan]

Yes Fiona , You are quite right. My reference though to driving a car went along the lines of a "p" plater after geting his or her licence and owning the road. It was meant not as an easy thing to do, but more as a tic "i'm sick of the society type {rules}thing" I have found a lot more confidence, even in my every day life since I started to watch this forum. But my Melissa has made the most from all of you here. I do not feel the same fear that I used to feel out on yours and my own street. I am getting further along via help from others (some I know & a lot of you I dont) the last thing on my mind is undermining the thrill of dressing or to make other peoples fears seem trivial. I do also have fears even with this subject, however they are not related to this thread and I want to be in a good mood!!!!!!!

[LindaTS]

I checked the "I don't mind" box but in all reality, I think that those of us who are either full time or trying to do so have a need to pass all the time. I do get read on ocassion but it's usually by a female. It's usually accompanied with a smile which I just return and we both go our own way. I've never had a serious problem and I truely hope it stays that way. I think a group of guys could be major trouble. Lets all hope for the best.