Really bad issues...

[ToxicAvenger095]

Okay, I know what I do sometimes is really bad, or I know that I should not do it but sometimes I do, and I wish I could resist temptation a bit more but I can't always. Am I the only one?

So sometimes when you have a friend who is a girl, or even know a girl, sometimes I like to dress up and pretend to be them...it is twisted and I know I shouldn't do it, but I just do sometimes. I will get clothes that I think this person would wear and I wear them and stuff. Is it wrong? Is it normal? Has anyone else done it? I think the whole point is I need to stop trying to be these girls and try to be myself, but it is hard.

Suggestions?

I've done it for as long as I can remember, I'd see a pretty girl and pretend to be them. I used to do it more, now i don't do it as often but I just did and I just feel like I shouldn't.

[PaulaJaneThomas]

Why don't you just be yourself?

[ToxicAvenger095]

I am not sure, I suppose I don't accept myself for who I really am, therefore I have to pretend to be others or something? I really don't know, I usually can be myself but sometimes it just happens.

[kayesimone]

i know i have watched plenty of girls to help figure out how to dress, walk, sit,act...
then with practice i slowly became me...
maybe that's what you are doing...but not sure how to feel about it or guilty even...of course only you know for sure...
hang in there...

[sterling12]

Toxie, are you putting us on? If I read this correctly, you feel guilty because you have fantasies?

You and 100% of the rest of The People in The World have fantasies. It's one of the hallmarks that is supposed to separate you from lower-order critters like insects, and phone solicitors.

If you want to "not-think," and you want to try and suppress your own nature, join a cult! Maybe, that will work.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Jayne Wordan]

[QUOTE=kayesimone;1875978]i know i have watched plenty of girls to help figure out how to dress, walk, sit,act...
then with practice i slowly became me...

This what i have done for a long time too. how else do we learn ? When i do finally find me perhaps i will venture out the front door :)

[carrie-ann]

If thats what you like go for it. Whats wrong with it. Sooner or later you will be you.

[Shari]

You're over thinking it.
There's nothing wrong with what you do at all.
Don't worry about it and simply enjoy one of your life's pleasures.

[Engendered]

I think on some level, that's what real girls do when growing up, and trying to find out who they are. They look at their friends/sisters and pick up cues on how to dress/act, and eventually find their own style/personality that they're most comfortable with. So I think it's part of a natural process.

[Nicole Brown]

There is an old saying, "imitation is the greatest form of flattery". If you take this saying literary, then you are not doing anything abnormal or wrong, you are actually paying the person whom you are copying a complement. For years I have looked at woman and admired their appearance, clothing and style. I have also very often tried to copy what I found most attractive about them. Isn't it really just human nature to want to look our best and isn't it also human nature to use attractive, stylish people as our role models??

Nicole

[Karren H]

I've worn lots of different peoples clothing but never pretended to be them.. I was always me... Just prettier! :)

[Samantha43]

Toxie, are you putting us on? If I read this correctly, you feel guilty because you have fantasies?

You and 100% of the rest of The People in The World have fantasies. It's one of the hallmarks that is supposed to separate you from lower-order critters like insects, and phone solicitors.

If you want to "not-think," and you want to try and suppress your own nature, join a cult! Maybe, that will work.

Peace and Love, Joanie

:yt: I agree with Joanie.

Just remember who you are and you will eventually find yourself.

[Kate Simmons]

Well we all have fantasies. It really depends on how far we go with them. Simply wanting to look like someone is not harmful but if a person wants to actually get into someone else's "skin" so to speak or attempts to actually become them or steal their identity, then that's kinda creepy.

[Amyy]

I also observe girl's about my age or with a dress sense i admire. Sometimes i will find myself staring at their outfit and then think that to everyone else it probably looks like I am checking her out. If only they knew it was the outfit not the girl I was looking at.:)

[ToxicAvenger095]

Thanks, you all make me feel better. I suppose everyone does it, I don't know why I feel bad about it. Fantasies never hurt anyone right?

[Rachel Morley]

So sometimes when you have a friend who is a girl, or even know a girl, sometimes I like to dress up and pretend to be them ...... Is it wrong? Is it normal?

Imitation is the highest form of flattery :D