How do I get to be like you girls ?

[Scaredsis]

Hi,

I am in awe of you ladies, you just get out there and go for it. I could use some pointers on how to aquire this talent. Any help will be heart felt.

Thanks,
Betty

P.S. You can see how long it took just to post this thread, am I hopless or what.

[eleventhdr]

Yes alright how can we help? Short can be nice!.

[Summer]

Questions would be the best way to start. Like, do you want to be able to go out in public, or tips on dressing or make up? This would be the best way to start.

We are here to help you in any way you want. We have all been there!

Summer

[Jennifer_Ph]

I am starting to sound like a broken record, but here goes. :) Look for a professional CD salon in your area and get a makeover. It's amazing what they can do. You'll have the confidence to go out - and usually these salons have get togethers on some weekends so you can schedule your makeover for that and hang out publicly with some other CD's and have fun. I know that if I hadn't had my first makeover I never would have stepped out of the closet. Now that I have, I'm never going back in there, there's too many shoes on the floor now!

If that's not your style, look for a local support group and join. Face to face support is immesurable and completely beneficial.

[windycissy]

Some of us are too shy or intimidated to go the CD salon route. In my case, it took years of trial and error to perfect my female personna. I've tried to share some of the lessons I've learned through my online advice column, Ask Windy Cissy (http://snurl.com/askwindy) You'll find tips on how to assemble a wardrobe, shave your legs, put on makeup, buy the right wig, and talk like a girl. If you have any specific questions, ask them here and we'll chime right in! Or send an email to me at [email protected] and I'll do my best to help you. Ask Windy (http://snurl.com/askwindy)

[Scaredsis]

Thanks ladies, I have found out a great deal today. The different sites were really helpful.


Thanks Again,
Betty

P.S. I will let you all know how I am doing. :o

[Priss]

Coming out of the closet, is one of the scariest things you can do. Atleast it seems that way while you're still in the closet... I recommend the same things that I've seen others recommend here before.

Baby steps.

Find others and or support groups in your community.

Going for a makeover is an excellent idea. It shows you what all you can be...

You have to ask the questions. What do you want out of all this? Are you willing to be someone like this?

As you start to take those baby steps out of the closet, you will soon become more comfortable with it. If for some reason you get scared back into it again, just start over with the baby steps. At some point, you may find that there's just no way you'd ever want to go back into the closet again. ;)

[Darby]

I agree, first thing I did the first time I came out was, during my drive home one night, I looked in the windows of other cars... you really cannot see the people, just the shape. I made sure my car had gas, got dressed and was determined to go for a drive that night. The moment I stepped out the door, into the cool night air to go to my car, I relaxed! The hardest part is getting out the door sweety. Just go for a late night drive but drive doing the speed limit +_ 5mph... Baby steps. In the meantime, keep practicing with your presentation/makeup and outfits.

[Amelie]

First thing is do you want to go out or just dress around the house. If you dress just at home then wear anything you want. If you want to venture outside, buy women's fashion magazines to see styles women are wearing, you probably already know what you want to look like. There's a good book on make-up called "Making Faces" by Kevyn Aucoin, good tips for doing make-up. For now it's best just to look like a woman don't worry about the manly voice or walking like a runway model. If your going out try gay bars if they are in your area. While gays are not ussually attracted to CDs they are tolerant and will leave you alone. You might get some even get some good pointers on what you are doing wrong. There will always and I mean always be nasty people where ever you go. I met some of the nastiest people in drag queen clubs. It's like learning to swim you have to jump in the deep end and go for it. If you have a desire to do something you like don't let these neanderthals out there stop you. Good luck, Like crossdressing once you've gone out you won't be able to stop.