SatinSarah
09-24-2009, 04:08 AM
I have just had the most wonderful week of my life and wanted to share it as a story of hope for those who struggle with their CDing with their SOs.
I told my wife about my dressing a couple of years into our marriage and greadually she helped me dress and would even buy me dresses and lingerie she thought I would like when she was out shopping. Sadly I took all this for granted and kept pushing for more and more until I upset her when she was trying her hardest for my 40th birthday 5 years ago - yet I wanted even more - to dress and go out together dressed. She wasn't ready and it meant she made me put Sarah back in the box and dressing was off the agenda.
Slowly I have worked within her rules and things have got better. I let her know how I feel and what my fantasies are and what I would love to wear. She has slowly allowed me to do more and more.
But this last week blew it away! She knows I love to go girly shopping with her. She gets new outfits and I like heloing her choose but always like to come home with somehting new too. I just wanted to go shopping with her both looking for new outfits - a girls day out together - although I was in drab. For various reasons dressing outside is not possible.
Well she took the whole thing on board and we spent the whole day girly shopping together. We tired everything as though we were girly best friends. She was brilliant - looking out for things I might like and encouraging me.
But the best moment cam when we were looking at evening ball gowns. We found some and I wnated her to try them on to see how they looked. We are different sizes but it all helps! Well the changing rooms were big enough & empty so the assistant encouraged me to go in to help my SO try them on. It was amazing - the next thing I knew she was telling me to try the ones I had selected on. We helped each other into our dresses in the changing rooms.
We spent the whole day and night as best girly friends. I bought three new dresses, some wet look leggings, and some of the most amazing 5" heels. I need to take a picture to show these off.
As the week went on I felt more and more relaxed as sarah (even in drab mode I was all a bit girly with her). She encouraged me to dress several times in the last week. The children were away so I got to dress and relax around the house.
|for so many of you this would be a normal weekly experience. For me it was such a special moment that I needed to shout out my thanks and joy from the rooftops - well on this forum at least.
So the words of encouragement are to stick with your SO, and understand how mad our dressing must seem to them. Work through their issues and be patient. It won't work for all of us and I had given up at times, but in the end it has come good. I just need to appreciate what I have just had and now not take that for granted but to cherish it!
Love
Sarah
I told my wife about my dressing a couple of years into our marriage and greadually she helped me dress and would even buy me dresses and lingerie she thought I would like when she was out shopping. Sadly I took all this for granted and kept pushing for more and more until I upset her when she was trying her hardest for my 40th birthday 5 years ago - yet I wanted even more - to dress and go out together dressed. She wasn't ready and it meant she made me put Sarah back in the box and dressing was off the agenda.
Slowly I have worked within her rules and things have got better. I let her know how I feel and what my fantasies are and what I would love to wear. She has slowly allowed me to do more and more.
But this last week blew it away! She knows I love to go girly shopping with her. She gets new outfits and I like heloing her choose but always like to come home with somehting new too. I just wanted to go shopping with her both looking for new outfits - a girls day out together - although I was in drab. For various reasons dressing outside is not possible.
Well she took the whole thing on board and we spent the whole day girly shopping together. We tired everything as though we were girly best friends. She was brilliant - looking out for things I might like and encouraging me.
But the best moment cam when we were looking at evening ball gowns. We found some and I wnated her to try them on to see how they looked. We are different sizes but it all helps! Well the changing rooms were big enough & empty so the assistant encouraged me to go in to help my SO try them on. It was amazing - the next thing I knew she was telling me to try the ones I had selected on. We helped each other into our dresses in the changing rooms.
We spent the whole day and night as best girly friends. I bought three new dresses, some wet look leggings, and some of the most amazing 5" heels. I need to take a picture to show these off.
As the week went on I felt more and more relaxed as sarah (even in drab mode I was all a bit girly with her). She encouraged me to dress several times in the last week. The children were away so I got to dress and relax around the house.
|for so many of you this would be a normal weekly experience. For me it was such a special moment that I needed to shout out my thanks and joy from the rooftops - well on this forum at least.
So the words of encouragement are to stick with your SO, and understand how mad our dressing must seem to them. Work through their issues and be patient. It won't work for all of us and I had given up at times, but in the end it has come good. I just need to appreciate what I have just had and now not take that for granted but to cherish it!
Love
Sarah