Went to my first Therapist Appointment

[Katelyn]

Last year, I would've never have believed of ever coming this far. Right now, I don't want to stop and I definately do not want to go back to the way I used to be.

Two weeks ago, I scheduled an appointment with a Gender Therapist. Last Tuesday was my first appointment where I got to meet her. She was really wonderful and I think we had a good session. The only problem I had was with one of the first questions she had. It was "How long have you known you were a female?" I could've gave the generic answer "All My Life." But I didn't. I froze because I wanted to be as honest as I could. I don't know if I do feel female inside. That's why I'm so confused right now. I wanted to follow my answer up with how I know I don't feel like a guy, but I went blank. I'm hoping the rest of the session about my past experiences are enough to either minimize or hopefully eliminate any doubts she may have of my initial answer. I plan on clarifying it when I go back. For the ones who saw a Therapist, did you get hanged up on a question like this?

All answers will be appreciated.

[Karen564]

Hi Clarissa,

Congrats on your 1st Appointment!!!!!

I wouldn't worry about anything you said, it's just your 1st meeting, and you were probably nervous, and the 1st is usually geared towards just getting all your contact info & a brief on why your there or whats going on in your life, so you can talk to her more about it next time, when your not so nervous, it becomes much more relaxing the more you go..

So lets see, did I get hung up on any questions, No , not really, except for which telephone #'s (3) & addresses to give her(2) LOL...


PS, dont forget to ask her some questions too, just like giving a job interview, like her education/training & her years of experience with TG/TS's are, Insurance covering the cost?? out of pocket expenses, among anything else you feel that is most important to you at the moment..
Of course unless you already covered that with her..

Good luck with the 2nd visit!!

[Katelyn]

Thank You. My next visit is Tuesday, October 16.

[Jenny Chen]

Last year, I would've never have believed of ever coming this far. Right now, I don't want to stop and I definately do not want to go back to the way I used to be.

Two weeks ago, I scheduled an appointment with a Gender Therapist. Last Tuesday was my first appointment where I got to meet her. She was really wonderful and I think we had a good session. The only problem I had was with one of the first questions she had. It was "How long have you known you were a female?" I could've gave the generic answer "All My Life." But I didn't. I froze because I wanted to be as honest as I could. I don't know if I do feel female inside. That's why I'm so confused right now. I wanted to follow my answer up with how I know I don't feel like a guy, but I went blank. I'm hoping the rest of the session about my past experiences are enough to either minimize or hopefully eliminate any doubts she may have of my initial answer. I plan on clarifying it when I go back. For the ones who saw a Therapist, did you get hanged up on a question like this?

All answers will be appreciated.

Hey don't worry about it, I did the same thing your did and all it took was 2 sessions and now I am not on HRT.

Also I froze up on more than a dozen questions, like you I was not sure where I stand on this transition thing, and many times I consider backing out due to fear of coming out to friends and family. But in the end after some time thinking it through between the first and second session, and also coming out to my best friend, I made up my mind.

So in the end take your time, if your not sure than take the time thinking it through, do on your own terms and not rush it. You got time so be as honest as you can and show your therapist who you really are and not who your trying to be. (if that make any sense at all :straightface:)

[Sheila]

Congrats on getting to the 1st appointment stage ........... Debs did her 1st appointment with the team on O~ct 1st and she nearly walked out halway through, she just felt they were concentrating on the anger thing to much and making light of her gender status :sigh:, but we managed to get through it and she has her 2nd appointment on the 26 th ........... It will get easier the more comfortable you become with your therapist ........ one hting don't lie to them, if they ask you a question and you are not sure what they are asking/meaning ask them to clarify what they mean

Good luck with the 2nd and subsequent appointments:)