Is 'beautification' so important?

[helenr]

These are only my views, so I hope I don't offend. I so admire the individuals on these forums who have mastered makeup efforts, dress smartly, are able to pass reasonable well-and post lovely images. It must take a lot of work and you deserve the kudos.
For others of us seeking some reasonable mental 'homeostasis' (sp?) I think it isn't necessary to spend hours fussing with eyebrows, eye makeup, etc,etc. Even if you spend $10,000. on facial hair electrolysis, you are unlikely to have a peaches and cream complexion. so what? aren't we OK as we are?
For me hormones are a conservative way to try to get my 'mojo' in order and not cause me mental stress. I underneath crossdress as that is a (non arousal) need I have to cope, but I don't have the time, skill, or energy to try to beautify myself-'I yam what I yam',as Popeye would say.
How do others feel about this?

[GypsyKaren]

The only thing that's necessary is to do whatever makes you happy.

Karen :g1:

[pamela_a]

I live full time as a woman so if you're asking do I wear make up daily and do what I can to look as nice as I can the answer is a definite yes.

If you're asking is that right for you then my answer is; only you know. IMO being happy and comfortable with yourself is the goal.

-Pam-

[tamarav]

We are all individuals that determine what our own levels of satisfaction should be and how to reach that level. Of all the CDs I have met over the years, I doubt that few have had exactly what I view as goals, and many have changed so often that there is no reason to even try to keep up.

As long as you are happy with yourself, then there is no need to go beyond current level.

I work on women everyday and every one of them has a different interpretation of what beautification should entail.

Tami

[Karen564]

It's totally up to the individual to do what makes them feel content or at ease with themselves inside, so as long as your content & your looks dont bother you, then that's perfectly fine & OK with who you are then.. I just wish I could feel that way, but I cant...

As to how I feel, I guess a little differently..

I cant help but feel much better when I'm looking good, which is rare (like ha, if that's even possible), but when I get dirty or ragged looking, it really stresses me out & do get very depressed about it ....but also aware I can only do so much with what I have..

I dont primp myself on a daily basis, it just doesn't make sense for me to get dolled up to do construction work, so I dont use makeup on every day at the moment unless I only have a good reason to use it, like going out somewhere special, but taking an 1/2 hr to get ready no big deal either, my brows are easy, just takes a minute once a month to tidy up, & dont need to worry about body hair anymore (none) except for keeping the pits & groin shaved, and shave my face once a week(cant wait to completely eliminate shaving), so I'm a pretty low maintenance girl at the moment thanks to my genetics & HRT, but when that day comes I change careers, all this low maintenance will go away too, I do think I will feel better about myself & look younger too when I can take the time to primp to the max..just like all high maintenance girls do..LOL

So what's my point???
It's up to the person you are inside as to whether you really feel the need to spend the time to maintain or beautify yourself in order to blend into your surroundings, whether it be going to the store or working in an office environment or professional job..
Heck, my Mom is 82 years old, and she still wont leave the house without doing her makeup & hair..Lol..

But regardless, everyone is different..

[MJ]

To each there own. i'm not as good with makeup as i want to be but i get by. for me it's how i feel not how i look most of the time.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

..and you feel fabulous!!!:heehee:

[Miranda09]

For me it's important that I look as good as I feel, which means when I look in the mirror I want to see a woman looking back. For me that includes fashion, makeup and hair along with all the other accessories that go along with it...but that's just me. Again, it's whatever makes you happy and are comfortable with. :)

[Anna the Dub]

To be honest, I can't be bothered about getting all dolled up. It's nice on the rare occasion, but I find it hard to motivate myself to do it. I do do my eyebrows on a regular basis, and I am having electrolysis (finally making progress!!) and try to keep myself defurred as much as possible, but putting on loads of slap is just not me (doesn't help that my make up skills are not great and I just feel that it doesn't sit on my face all that well).

[Sharon]

More days than not I will apply color to my lips, but that's usually about it. That takes all of one minute. I simply feel better with it on.

[morgan pure]

"Is beautification important?" Yup.

Do I have the energy? No. But I'm not accepting responsibility. My girl frindes have to take almost an hour to get ready for the day. Why should we be excluded? You want to be a girl? Accept the parameters. I've said this before. We need a third sex. Boys with breast buds in the city. Theme is androgyne. I'll fit in perfectly even though I'm bringing 3 gg's. Don't know what to wear. Maybe a dress. Should I?

[kellycan27]

Don't always have the time or energy to get all dolled up. I have to wear make-up to work everyday so on my off time (unless I am going out) I just do the minimum...a little lip gloss,pull my hair back into a ponytail or pile it on top of my head. I rarely wear make up on the weekends. What you see is what you get.:battingeyelashes:
Kelly

[helenr]

good info. thanks for commenting. hugs to all of you.

[Hope]

Of course beautification is important.

Do you ANY girl who does not want to be beautiful, and if not beautiful, at least more pretty than she is? I certainly don't. I know some girls who don't know HOW to make themselves more attractive, and I know some girls who don't bother to make themselves any more attractive, but I don't know any who don't want to be more attractive.

Invariably, whenever one of these threads gets started, there is a chorus of girls who insist that being beautiful, passing, looking more fem, or whatever else, isn't important - they insist that what is important is "attitude" and "confidence" and "believing in oneself." Which is all good and well... But if that is all it took - the fashion industry would be dead, the cosmetics industry would be non existent, and none of us would be here.

Is it important to be comfortable wit who you are? Absolutely! But it is equally important to want to reach, and strive, and grow.

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

some of the time we like to be lazy and do the minimum or even nothing. It all depends on how you feel. For me being pretty makes me feel good. Kimberly :battingeyelashes:

[melissaK]

The only thing that's necessary is to do whatever makes you happy. Karen :g1:

Insightful with few words, as always. And I definitely agree.

Of course I am not happy when my wife ROFL when she sees my makeup efforts . . . I can do a decent clothes ensemble, but 'glamour' make-up eludes me . . . ;^)

hugs,
'lissa

[Teri Jean]

Looking good is in the eye of the beholder and the one's self image. I personally try to look as well as I can including lipstick. A number of women at work have commented on this and some have resorted to wearing theirs a little more. By doing this I set my bar at the level I think is appropriate for my employment and if that means others re-evaluate theirs so be it.

Teri

[Melissa A.]

I'm trying to present and be percieved as female. Now, I don't care at all if that means I'm looked at as a GG or a transsexual, I really don't. However, in order to do that, currently, at least, I have to wear some makeup. But If you look at my piccie, I think you can tell right off that it's not something I spend tons of time on. If I'm going out on a Saturday night, I put in more time and effort. if it's just running afternoon errands, I do far less. 10 minutes or so. But I always do something, and right now, I never leave the house with a bare face, or without spending at least a few seconds on my hair. My dress varies, as it does with most women, but is just as often as not jeans and a t-shirt, albeit a decidedly female t-shirt. We all do what we have to do in order to be who we are. I guess I am admitting that I didn't start all of this-hormones, coming out, etc. just to be vague about who I am, when out in the world. If I could shower, dress, and just walk out the door comfortabley without any primping, I would. But I know that to even have a chance to be percieved as her intead of him, I need to do this, so I do. And ya know what? It may be a pain in the rear end sometimes, but a little beautification can be a fun pastime.

Hugs,

Melissa:)