The Biggest Taboo of all.....fat

[Kinky with Ink]

Do you ladies feel pressured to adhere to societies expectations of what a woman should look like now that you're "out and about?" I know I work extra hard at the gym these days just so I can keep the slim look. I know beauty is what's on the inside but personally I think I look that much sexier without the extra weight. I just feel more like a woman with a sexy physique.

What is everybody else's opinions on this matter?

[Phyliss]

Me being slim to look sexy, HA! at 65 THAT ain't gonna happen
Me being slim to look healthy, yeah, I can go with that and feel good about it.
Me being slim to wear the smaller cuter clothes, NOW we're talking.

I'm not a slave to skinny because the fashion mags say so. BUT, if I don't want to look like too much of a frump who should buy her clothes at the local tent maker, then I have to spend some time at the gym.

GYM, we think it was so terrible during the Spanish Inquisition with all the torture devices. Today we're enlightened, ... we pay money to use those same machines on ourself, ... willingly.

Progress, ... a wonderful thing

[Karren H]

Since I lost 50 pounds I exersize every day... Play ice hockey twice a week.. Step on th scale every morning so I know how I can eat that day and watch what I eat... Not because of pressure from society.. Yeah I look great in my size 10 LBD but I do it because its healthy!!

[Joni Marie Cruz]

When I decided I wasn't going to be stuck in the closet anymore, which was several years ago, I went from 250+ pounds down to 170 in the course of a year. Sadly, some of what was lost has been found again, but I do try to keep an eye on my weight, not only because I feel I look better but also because it's just better for my health overall. It sure ain't easy, though.

Hugs...Joni Mari

[KayleeDahl]

Its kinda funny, in guy mode, i don't worry one bit about my weight, but its my fem side that compels me to work on it. Granted all my clothes fit much better when i'm in better shape, and with a trim stomach (still working on getting back there.. eheh) i think its much easier to look femme.

Hugs
-Sera

[SweetCaroline]

I'm probably in a minority in that I'm actually relatively small for a man, both my height and my weight. I eat just about anything and I don't gain weight. I have a little bit of a man-gut but the corset takes care of that.

With that said, I have found myself lately, especially as I get closer to forty, watching what I eat, and exercising a little more. I eat a lot more salads than I used to, and I would take walks in the evening over the summer.
I am very physically active both on my job and in my social life, so I've never worked out the way many people do, but I am more and more conscious of taking care of myself. A lot of it's just staying in shape, but a lot of it does have to do with my femme presentation.

[PaulaJaneThomas]

Being fat is unhealthy regardless of your gender identity.

[Chloe Renee]

I have been trying to loose weight for both modes. Over the last couple years I had let myself go and I hit the 250 mark and have been clawing it down since. Now if I could only selectivly loose weight... Like loose the belly leave the thighs and chest.

[PretzelGirl]

I feel it is more about health. After retiring from the military, I packed some (hah!) pounds on. I have lost them all in the last couple of years and more. I am down to my high school weight. Still feel like I had a little more to lose, but this is okay.

Diet is the key. Exercise is very good, you can maintain without exercise but you will have a hard time maintaining without a diet (unless you are Caroline :tongueout :D).

[Sarah Michelle]

I'm trying to make the long journey from mid-life weight back dow to something healther, mostly so that the clothes "hang" better, just getting under 200lbs....

to quote my psych textbook; "weight discrimination is, in fact, notably greater than race or gender discrimination and occurs at every employment stage".....
do I need an APA citation, are you marking this?

[Angie G]

I' not doing to bad I'm 5'7'' @ 155 lbs A bit of a tummy. But I do like to eat. And most of it ain't good for me. :hugs:
Angie

[Fran Moore]

The population of this country are some of the fattest people in the world, just look around and you will see overweight people everywhere. Men, women, children, dogs, all packing those extra pounds, and creating some real health issues for themselves and our ailing health care system. Personally, because I'm transgendered, it drives me to stay in shape, watch what I eat, and only eat when I'm really hungry. I hate not being able to fit into my favorite dress! Not to mention that it just feels so much better to be in shape and not be self concious about being overweight.
No disrespect meant to those who are heavy and don't mind it.:battingeyelashes:

[docrobbysherry]

Staying at, or near, your "playing weight", let's U participate in a more active life! Which means it is more enjoyable, and probably longer!:)

I have a bad back. Every morning I do 600+ crunches. Or, suffer more pain. :doh:

Just a few lbs. extra, and my tite outfits won't fit me!:eek:

[Kimmy55]

I seem to be in Sweet Carolines catgory.Weight was 155 lbs my senior year of high school ( long time ago ) now at 140 lbs and eat anything I want,when I want.

[shannonsilk]

I'm probably in a minority in that I'm actually relatively small for a man, both my height and my weight. I eat just about anything and I don't gain weight.
I am more and more conscious of taking care of myself. A lot of it's just staying in shape, but a lot of it does have to do with my femme presentation.

I'm in the same situation. Most of you weighed more when you were 12 or 14 than I do today.
I'm fortunate to not have any trouble finding clothes that fit.

[Joni Marie Cruz]

I have to agree with what Suzanne said, if it weren't for my desire to express my feminine side and do the best job that I could at it, I would probably still weigh 250 pounds, as my male self, I didn't much care, but as Joni I want to look as good as I can given what I have to work with.

Hugs...Joni Mari

[Persephone]

I have just two words for those who are out of shape -- Weight Watchers®.

In one year my spouse, our son, and I dropped a total of 190 pounds and we've kept them off. There was no real "diet," no suffering, we just learned to change how we view food and what we eat.

Both my spouse and I have gone from size 16-18 to size 6. We look better (way better!), we feel better, and we're loving our new more active lifestyle.

Can't recommend it enough.

[tuck n9ne]

when i decided i wanted to start going out i lost a bunch of weight i use to be 5'6 and 165 and now im 5'6 and 135, i just run, and watch what i eat!

[Kinky with Ink]

Yeah since dropping 38 lbs recently I've been in the process of buying a new wardrobe for both genders since I'm swimming in what I have now.

[AllieSummers]

I believe that you physical health and your mental health run hand-in-hand.

If you don't feel good about yourself then you will not feel good.

I don't think you have to be skinny. I have met a lot of tgirls and ggs that were a little on the heavier side but were still very, very sexy.

Personally, I think one of my greatest assets is my flat stomach. I know how hard it was to get it...I'm not going to let it go. :)

I do wish I could add some weight in my rear end but every time I do it ends up going to my love handles or tummy instead of my butt. Dang...I wish we could target where our fat goes. :)

Kisses,

Allie

[Bethany38]

I have noticed this about myself and my weight. When I was still in the closet, and just starting to deal with Bethany and all that comes with her. I had topped out with my heaviest weight ever. At 270 and only five foot eight I was quite hefty. Well over the past year I have started to drop weight. At first, it was not intentional. Then after a visit to the Dr. and seeing that I had lost some weight. I then started to be more conscious about what I ate and when. Now that I am seeing results and am fitting into smaller sizes, I am Active in trying to really reduce my weight. Being that I have always been a Very stocky man, and tend to be an very, very stocky woman, I feel I need to be as trim as I can be. I am now down to 220lbs., and am trying to reach lbs.. For as everyone else here I do wish to be as passable as I can be.

I once read on here in another thread where one person said(and I am paraphrasing) something to the affect that some of us should know better than trying to dress; like J. Edger Hoover. When I read that, I instantly thought of myself. However, now I can see improvement. I know I have a long way to go, but I am constantly trying to improve on all aspects of my dressing. My weight, make-up, hair, sense of style. I want it all. I know I may never be what I want, but I will keep working to get the best that I can be.

[Kathi Lake]

I feel it is more about health. After retiring from the military, I packed some (hah!) pounds on. I have lost them all in the last couple of years and more. I am down to my high school weight. Still feel like I had a little more to lose, but this is okay.

Diet is the key. Exercise is very good, you can maintain without exercise but you will have a hard time maintaining without a diet (unless you are Caroline :tongueout :D).Wow, high school weight. God job! I haven't seen high school weight since, . . . well, high school. Of course, then I weighed 109 pounds, but . . .

:)

Kathi

[Joy Carter]

HS was forty years ago for me, and at 170 and six one I was skinny. Today I've lost and inch in height and weigh out at 220. I should really loose wight, because it's apparent I have a slight guy gut in a dress. One reason why I don't ware dresses all that often. If I was a GG I'd love to have the curves some women have. Thin isn't it in to my eye. :D

[Kinky with Ink]

High school weight for me was 158 but at 5'10" thats skin and bones. I think maybe about 5 more lbs lost and thats where I would like to stay(around 165). I'm not doing it so much for society's expectations of how I should look but mainly because I feel healthier at this weight. And I have a bigger selection of clothes to choose from since I'm skinnier.

[PretzelGirl]

Wow, high school weight. God job! I haven't seen high school weight since, . . . well, high school. Of course, then I weighed 109 pounds, but . . .

:)

Kathi

C'Mon, you can do it. What would that make you? A size -2?

[JOJO44]

No, I will not tell all you heavy weights that in High School I was 6'7" weighed 185 pounds wore 28x36 jeans.:o
I just wished I could reach 220 now.:sad:

[Charla McBee]

I don't buy into any of it really, though I beleive I'm alright at around 6ft and 200lbs. I'd have to give up beer to lose the gut, I think, and that ain't happening any time soon. The idea never even hit my femme side until I recently had to opt for a "plus size" halloween costume, which it turns out can be anything from large on up.

Long story short, there are plently of "fat" women out there who are still very attractive. You just need to find flattering clothes and put some effort into your appearance. I'm in love with my new outfit in spite of the "plus" label it wants to place on me. It just looks good!

[weekend woman]

High school, 40 years ago, then 250lbs 5'10" now 200lbs and dropping but only 5'9".

[Rachel Morley]

Do you ladies feel pressured to adhere to societies expectations of what a woman should look like now that you're "out and about?"
Yes I do. I feel pressured to always try to look my best. I have become much more self critical of my overall appearance than I ever was before I was going out en femme. I am especially bothered if I start to put on weight (it always goes straight to my belly) and I also think I have way, way, too many wrinkles (that look even worse with make up on) :sad:

[Kiera79]

Its kinda funny, in guy mode, i don't worry one bit about my weight, but its my fem side that compels me to work on it. Granted all my clothes fit much better when i'm in better shape, and with a trim stomach (still working on getting back there.. eheh) i think its much easier to look femme.

Hugs
-Sera


Sera I must say your legs are beautiful. May I ask how you keep them so smooth and shiny looking?

[StarrOfDelite]

part of the thrill for me is looking great in my own opinion, and part is having my opinion confirmed by the delicious knowledge that men want me sexually, and are willing to do all of the little tricks they'd try on a g-girl to get me. don't know if i'm right or wrong, since we all know how easy it is to get a man excited, http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/images/smilies/happy.gif, but i have a strong inner feeling that staying lean, shapely and toned is very sexy.

it's s lot easier to stay thin if you never get really overweight. i'm about 6'0", and a loooong time ago i played h.s football at 165 and in college at 185. then i joined the military during the vietnam mess, and got down to 155 where i've pretty much stayed. my psyche has never recovered from the trauma of having a lee ermey clone screaming in my ear, so i still do pullups/pushups/situps/lift weights, and go on long hikes 2-3-4 times a week. as long as i keep my waistline under 30" i can wear size 12 and the occasional 10, and i'm happy.

[JiveTurkeyOnRye]

I lost a lot of weight this year, down right now from 230 in march to currently being between 180 and 185 depending on if I'm good or bad in a particular week, I haven't yet hit 180 which is sort of a goal of mine, but I have significantly dropped in body size.

I do think my confidence in my own dressing definitely increased when I lost the weight, I like the way I looked in clothes a lot more than I did at this time last year. I have no doubt that my coming out as a crossdresser was directly related to that newfound confidence. Even in drab clothes I have found myself being more daring and trying more fitted and slim fit clothing rather than baggy stuff like I used to.

Someone mentioned high school weight, I actually weigh less now than I did in high school. I had an old suit from my senior year of HS in my closet and just out of curiosity I tried it on and it was sooo big on me I looked like a little kid trying on his father's suit.

How'd I do it? No trick, just counting calories. It was easier for me because I have an app on my iphone that helps me count them but that's all it does, budget my calories. It's basically the same system as following weight watcher points, it just cuts out the middle man (or replaces the middle man)

[5150 Girl]

Well,, I have an eye for BBW's... Pardon me a "guy moment" but my motto is "The bigger the cushin, the better the push'n"!!!

My SO, (a GG) weighs almost 300lbs. :D
She once asked me, if I like big girls so much, why am I not big myself? Well,, my best anser is, I am what I am. I do nothing specail in my diet. It's just how the Lord made me, and I just roll with it.
However, lately, I do pay a bit of attention to it, becaise she likes me thinner, so I can be her trophy wife, and life size Barbi Doll... She likes to dress me in "those cute things that don't come in her size"

[Kristen Kelly]

Yes it's all about the look, well I'll never be a size 2, but I have lost 50lbs over the years and yes it is because of wanting to look better out dressed. When your best friends are size 2 and 4 even a size 8 looks big, and the pictures prove that. When I first started dressing wore a size 16 jeans, nowdays if I give up breathing can squeeze into a size 8 jeans. At 5' 11" and big boned I would love to get down to 165, but I am much happier and proud of how I look now.

[sherri52]

I think being open about cd'ing makes you want to fit into a smaller size and then another and another.

[lusciouslisalips]

i have managed to go from 138 lbs. in high school all of the way up to 168 and now all of the way back to my high school weight once again. I have never been happier since i took the time to lose those 30 lbs. and now the fabrics in my clothes drape so much better, they sway with every move that i make and the feeling is awesome.......i may even drop to 135, but no less than that...............enjoy effeminate experiences darling.............lisa

[Jocelyn Quivers]

It's not so much societies expectations as it is my own. For my motivation I look at my pictures when I was in the 200 pound plus club in which I look like a fat blubbery ugly duckling blob. Those pictures always put the fear of God in me to exercise and eat well every day.

[tamarav]

I am very sensitive to my consumption and have it under control. I lost over 100 pounds a few years ago and appreciate every calorie I don't eat. Many of the ladies I work with bring donuts or masses of fast food to work and look as if they merely duct taped Snickers to their entire bodies.

I have never felt more energetic or happier, being able to move and to wear what I want. I find that most people that do lose those unwanted pounds find the same thing.

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[Kathi Lake]

C'Mon, you can do it. What would that make you? A size -2?Well, since the last pair of pants I bought was a 00 (stretch pants, so they needed to be a little small), mathematically, if 0 is the middle point, I guess they would be a size -2. :)

Kathi

[Kinky with Ink]

Yeah I went nuts in the gym when I was in Iraq since there was nothing else to do except work and work out. I put on about 15 lbs of muscle not realizing if you don't work to keep it, it all turns to fat.

Knowing that now I dropped all the weight I gained plus some more and I am happy keeping a toned, slim appearance. Not only do I not have sore knee's all the time from running, but I personally think I look way better.

I think most of us get to a point where we look at ourselves and are not happy about how much we have let ourselves slide and work very hard to burn it off and keep it off from then on.

[IngeInCO]

I like most put on a few pounds, then re-discovered exercise. Lost almost 20 and am feeling great. Boy and Girl clothes fit much better and it's fun to buy new things. The most important thing is to be healthy, both mind and body. It makes life awesome!

Inge

[TxKimberly]

One word - DUH!

[Celeste]

I started the diet 2 years ago at 5'8" and 179.My goal was somewhere around my high school weight which was 135.I made it to 145 and kept pushing ,eating less and working out,then I began to feel very depleted with no energy all the time,so I had take a practical viewpoint from that understanding and be happy with the 145.Many doctors will tell you it's perfectly natural to gain as you age,so I think we should accept that but nevertheless keep an eye out for excessive gain.

[Hali]

Yeah i lost weight to look more femme even though am not that fat/big but i hav broad shoulders that many women liked and complemented as a guy :) (hope am not blowing my own trumpet). At that time before losing the weight i use to add some padding on ma butt/hips but after slimming my shoulders i realize that i dont need any padding to show proportionality, i can easily wear anything with my natural figure, that was awesome on my confidence boost.

[Megan70]

Since I lost 50 pounds I exersize every day... Yeah I look great in my size 10 LBD but I do it because its healthy!!

I hate you with this size 10 business Karren,:D an here I've been floating between a 14 and 16 for 15 years. :straightface:BYe the way how much DO you really weigh sweet thing. Im 171 at 5'10''
C'mon fess up girl.:tongueout

Megan

[JaytoJillian]

I do wish I could add some weight in my rear end but every time I do it ends up going to my love handles or tummy instead of my butt. Dang...I wish we could target where our fat goes. :)

Kisses,

Allie

True, one can't target where their fat gets deposited, but we can definitely choose where muscle gets built. I focus on adding strength and size to my legs and butt to get more balance between my upper and lower body. It is hard work, but I totally dig the results.

Cheers,


Jill

[JoAnne Wheeler]

I wish that I was a lot thinner, but if I was, then none of my extensive wardrobe would fit

Girls come in all sizes - I am content to be a big Girl

JoAnne Wheeler

[Kristen Kelly]

Yes it's all about the look, well I'll never be a size 2, but I have lost 50lbs over the years and yes it is because of wanting to look better out dressed. When your best friends are size 2 and 4 even a size 8 looks big, and the pictures prove that. When I first started dressing wore a size 16 jeans, nowdays if I give up breathing can squeeze into a size 8 jeans. At 5' 11" and big boned I would love to get down to 165, but I am much happier and proud of how I look now.

Update lost 6 lbs and those size 8 jeans looked great with my boots strutting all over NYC last night.
Yes I'm going to have to find a pair of size 6 that I can't squeeze into to give me incentive

[Laura_Stephens]

High school weight of 145 and currently at 146. Not too much gain over the years. I credit it to working way too many hours and not having time to eat.

I would still like to drop 10-15 pounds because the cutest things always come in very small sizes.

[Shananigans]

My CD lover has the perfect body...tall and lean...looks better in thigh highs than I do :daydreaming: Haha. But, I think that girls are definitely at a point where there is this pressure to have the "ideal body." Exercising and eating healthy are just a part of life, but I think it is wrong to push yourself into something that is unhealthy. A healthy body is SO much more beautiful than a starving, unhealthy body.