Oh Crap - The Finale

[Kathi Lake]

You may remember the post (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=117371) I made when my son inadvertently found out about Kathi. It was definitely a time of ups and downs - mostly downs. However, I am the kind of person who sincerely believes that all things will eventually work out fine.

It seems that his initial reaction was one of confusion and misunderstanding. I believe that my e-mails removed most of the confusion and I definitely set him straight on who and what I am - and am not. At first, when I had asked to talk, he left a note on my computer desk saying, "I need more time." I respected that, and gave him the time, but not too much time as I wanted to be sure that he was thinking about me using the right information.

Since that time, we have had a few phone calls, some Facebook chats, and two in-person meetings. One, a short one a few weeks ago with the whole family there, and one today with just him and I. Today's meeting went great. we had a chance to chat, and I asked him if he had any questions. He said that I had pretty much answered all of the questions he had in my e-mails, and that he was doing all right with it for now. We hugged and he went back to school after stopping off at home to grab some stuff.

Today, on my computer desk, there was another note (below). I'd say that he seems to be doing better.

Kathi

[Holly]

All's well that ends well, Kathi. Well done.

[Brenda456]

Sounds promising. I hope it all works out.

[sherri52]

That would make me feel better.

[Miranda09]

Aww...I'm so glad to hear everything's turning out so well Kathi. Good for you and your son.:hugs:

[Stephanie Miller]

It so hard to think of our "little ones" growing up isn't it. But I guess most of us realize sooner or later our kids are a product of their upbringing. You must have been doing something right Kathi. Sounds like he grew up well. Congrats.:clap:

[Rebecca Jayne]

Great news for you and your family Kathi.
I'm sure it has been extremely stressful for all , but it seems the the rough seas are smoothing out.

I just love his note, is it now up on the fridge ?

[Lorileah]

There isn't much that would be better than that note. I ma happy it seems that everything is working out well

[Kari Lynn Franks]

im so glad everything is working out sometimes it just takes time

[trannie T]

Sounds like you have a good kid and your kid has a good parent.

[Tora]

Bravo, Lots of CD's with FC (fingers Crossed) You rasied him with a open mind.

[giuseppina]

Glad to hear things turned out for the best.

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

Yay! for positive stuff!
*hugs*

Zarabeth

[Daphne Renee]

I am glad everything is worked out. Well as much as it can be I suppose.

[Racheal Ann]

Kathi:
I feel very happy for you. You have a wonderful and loving family.
Racheal Ann

[Persephone]

Looks good, Kathi! I know that you'll always keep the lines of communication open. You're a great person and a terrific parent.

Hugs,
Persephone.

[JOJO44]

I am glad that all seems to have turned out OK, :thumbsup:
but if no one objects, I will continue to keep my kids (gone and married) in the dark.
Love and hugs to you and your family,

Jo

[Charlena]

Give yourself a big hug you deserve it.

Peace to you and all you love, Charlena

[Teri Jean]

Kathi you and your son are special and I'm happy you are at this point. My girls had a simular reaction when I came out to them but time and understanding helps a lot. You both have a great weekend and be safe.

Teri

[Tina B.]

Glad things are working out so well!!!!
Tina

[LisaM]

Kathi,

Congrats! What a positive reflection on both your son and you!

[Nicole Marie]

Hate to use a cliche' but it does fit: "You reap what you sow"!

[melissacd]

Sometimes we do not give our kids enough credit that they can and will continue to love and accept us after they find this out. It takes a bit of processing but eventually, most will come around because they love you, not what you wear.

All the best
Melissa

[Christina Horton]

I'm going to say it but , I told ya so. Your a wonderfull person and you could not help but raise good kids. Shows your even better when your kids turn out so good. Good luck and god speed to you and your family. :kiss::hugs::love:

[KayC]

Kathi,
That's great! I rejoice with you! I'm sure your attitude plays a big part in his understanding.

[Laura_Stephens]

Very happy for you. Over the years, it shows that you have been a great parent.

[karen68]

Hi Kathy
Glad things are working out with you and your son and that he is coming to terms with yourself I know it must have been a trumatic time for the both of you.

Karen:hugs:

[Melissa Anne]

Kathi,

So good to hear that everything is ok. You have a great kid there!

[brmacea]

Great news, great note. Keep the communication between the two of you going. Good luck.

[Sarah Doepner]

Good work and I think it was good to give your son time, but not let it go to long. Timing isn't everything, but it's a big part of everything and it looks like your sense of timing worked out.

Best of luck to you and your son in the future.

[PhillyGuy2Girl]

Kathi,

Thats great to hear things are working with you and your son. I'm the same way,I always believe things will eventually work out.



Felicity :)

[MissyW]

Seems like all went well ! i am glad for you!

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

It usually just takes time with family and with your son it will be better as time goes on. Kimberly :battingeyelashes:

[TxKimberly]

Kathi,

I am so glad that things are turning out so well for you! :)

[paulaN]

It sounds like things are really turning out positive for you. Now you have to hope that your son can put that same positive spin on his dad. I hole cd thing can be so difficult for people. Especially family members. I hope it all turns out well. So far so good that's for sure. Consider yourself lucky so far. My daughter and I did not turn out nearly as good as you and your son. We are still on shaky ground, after a year. Be well, be safe, be happy my friend. And good luck.