busker
11-06-2009, 07:53 PM
I spotted that phrase on one of threads and it stayed in my memory for its negative connotations. We labeled ourselves as soon as we signed up on this forum and there is no doubt that some have left the forum with a tag on their toe, unable to deal with the harsh realities of our world. One poster said there was a dictionary difference between cross dresser and transvestite, the latter indentifying with women, the former just wearing female clothing but the word transvestite has Latin roots meaning cross (trans) clothing (vestite) or cross dresser. It must be the guys in suits that make some specialized distinction, but they are labels nonetheless .
I'm sure we'd all like to see just red tag sale on our favority item of lingerie labeled pure something or other. Period , end of story. That's not the real world though. There isn't an explorer , adventurer, scientist or creator who hasn't at some point been labelled madman. We could consider ourselves gender issue explorers, let the labels fly and soon enough society at large will get the point. We've all had co-workers that we didn't think much of and perhaps said they were incompetent. Labels can be shorthand for a more detailed description--lack of knowledge, lack of abitilty. They can be useful to us in many ways. I don't want to drink from a bottle labelled poison.
We are in many ways jars or containers: of millions of years of genetic code, family histories, social histories, but also human traits that define us as individuals. The label on our container could also read, son, husband, father, artist, musician, actor, brother, logical, loyal, panties, skirts, blouses, stillettos, bras and a host of other things all arranged by how much they are part of the whole, as in a real label.
As humans we are responsible for what is listed on that label--the order of the content by it's weight in our lives. Some people might just list cd 24/7. Some might list a hundred things that go on their label indicating that they are more complex in their nature and that some things matter more to them. Being a parent to your child is certainly more important (in my view) than dressing to the nines. Cd could represent just a small fraction or it could be the whole ball of wax, in which case the label might read WOMAN. We don't like the labels given by other people because they can be offensive from lack of understanding and knowledge--fag, queer, lesbo, weirdo, --so it is up to us to ensure that there is truth in labeling by listing the content of our own jar--and that does take some thought about who we are and why we are . Then ,when others read our labels, we can hope that they have kinder words for their fellow humans who just happen to be a little different from them.
I'm sure we'd all like to see just red tag sale on our favority item of lingerie labeled pure something or other. Period , end of story. That's not the real world though. There isn't an explorer , adventurer, scientist or creator who hasn't at some point been labelled madman. We could consider ourselves gender issue explorers, let the labels fly and soon enough society at large will get the point. We've all had co-workers that we didn't think much of and perhaps said they were incompetent. Labels can be shorthand for a more detailed description--lack of knowledge, lack of abitilty. They can be useful to us in many ways. I don't want to drink from a bottle labelled poison.
We are in many ways jars or containers: of millions of years of genetic code, family histories, social histories, but also human traits that define us as individuals. The label on our container could also read, son, husband, father, artist, musician, actor, brother, logical, loyal, panties, skirts, blouses, stillettos, bras and a host of other things all arranged by how much they are part of the whole, as in a real label.
As humans we are responsible for what is listed on that label--the order of the content by it's weight in our lives. Some people might just list cd 24/7. Some might list a hundred things that go on their label indicating that they are more complex in their nature and that some things matter more to them. Being a parent to your child is certainly more important (in my view) than dressing to the nines. Cd could represent just a small fraction or it could be the whole ball of wax, in which case the label might read WOMAN. We don't like the labels given by other people because they can be offensive from lack of understanding and knowledge--fag, queer, lesbo, weirdo, --so it is up to us to ensure that there is truth in labeling by listing the content of our own jar--and that does take some thought about who we are and why we are . Then ,when others read our labels, we can hope that they have kinder words for their fellow humans who just happen to be a little different from them.