A special evening

[Paige.]

What kind of a date would make you feel loved, totally happy and feeling like a special woman?

What is your concept of a memorable day or evening as a CD? Assuming complete acceptance and if anything were possible, would you prefer to go to dinner, dancing, clubbing, hotel, private party, shopping, etc? Where would you like to go (not specific place names) and what would you like to do?

As a woman, would you prefer to be picked up at home by your date and escorted out or would you meet somewhere? Would you be on the arm of a man or a GG, with your wife or SO, or with another CD?

[Ugly Michele]

Would be to be picked up, flowers in his hand. Escorted to his car, arm in arm, then having the car door opened for me waiting for me to get in, closing the door for me. Opening the door for me when we arrive at a nice resturant walking arm in arm to the door. Then helping me with my chair when sitting. Then an evening of ballroom dancing. Then escorting me to the door, giving me a deep pasionate kiss squeezing me in that special way.

As far as my outfit would be a pair of nylon undies, slip, a flowing skirt, bra that gives me a rather full chest, satin top. This outfit would make me feel special as the way I would like to be treated.

[Kathi Lake]

If my date were to be totally supportive, I would take that at face value and let her support me. I would be perfectly willing to let her wear the pants in the relationship, as long as I could wear the dress.

First, we would go shopping (yeah, I know. Me. Shopping. Hard to believe I'd do that, right? :)). Part of me would like to instead meet her somewhere already dressed and surprise her. I would want to look so pretty for her that I would take her breath away. However, I find that you can really have some great bonding time while shopping. It would be fun to go to places like bebe and try on sexy clothes together and laugh and smile at the outfits. After shopping, I would go home to prepare - shaving, plucking, maybe a nail appointment. I would then get dressed in my male clothes and head out.

She would then meet me at a public place and make sure that we were seen together. She would then escort me to her place where the transformation would begin.

The outfit would be selected by her because for this night, she would indeed be in charge. She would help with the hair and makeup as well - not necessarily as the expert in the role, but more as a gesture of yielding some of her femininity. Although the atmosphere would be sensual, it wouldn't necessarily be sexual. Finally, when they were both ready, they would go back to the place where they started and wait for the recognition to begin. The women would be in awe of the femininity that was created/enhanced by the both of you, and the men (the ones that were honest with themselves, anyway) would wish that they were in my very pretty shoes. Why? Because they could tell that it wasn't about a fetish. It wasn't about anything more than a mutual yielding to the gentler side by both of them.

Afterwards, they would go to a wonderful dinner at a restaurant where the couple could be seen by all to be a normal couple in the midst of a good time. Oh, there's so much more that I could write, given the time. This should be enough for now. Basically, I think it should be a time for them to not only grow closer together, but use that closeness to influence the world that what we do is special, normal, right. Yeah, I know - a date with an agenda - not as fun, perhaps.

Kathi

[Fran Moore]

Thanks Paige for starting such a wonderful thread! This sounds like a dream come true for most of us!

Assuming total acceptance, I would want to spend the day with my wife, first and foremost, next a good friend,either GG or CD/TS. Transportation would not matter, just as long as we go together. Shopping would be high on the list, and a whole day of pampering for both of us. Facials, manicures, makeover, hair, the works! Now that we are both looking our very best, off to a high class resturaunt for a wonderful dinner, and then back home to change into something fun for a night of clubbing/dancing and all around entertainment and fun. It would truly be a day and night to remember, and thanks again for asking!

Suzanne:daydreaming:

[windycissy]

I'm one of the lucky ones who has gotten to live out this fantasy, and being with the right guy who treats you like a lady is more important than where you go. My first "date" was to an Outback, and it was such a thrill...I've enjoyed putting on an apron, setting a lovely table and trying to be the perfect hostess...just a night out to the movies is fun with the right guy. I guess my "dream date" would be to put on my little black dress and be taken out to a romantic dinner and dancing, someday maybe!

[Susan.]

You put several loaded questions to us.

I would prefer to be picked up at home. I would prefer a private party and we would end up at a hotel.

At a private party you can get in some good conversations. Just talking to other women about things that women talk about would be great. I don't think it would be 'special' unless I interacted with men, assuming they knew me as as woman. I think dancing as a woman would be fantastic (assuming I can handle it in heels).

And at the hotel... well all I can say is off like a prom dress... :o

[Miranda09]

Hmmmm...an interesting question Paige. I could make an entire day with something like this, with the day starting out shopping together, enfemme of course with a GG, and looking for some special outfit for the evening. But that's a whole other scenario. Well, I think I would love to have a special evening out with a GG where she would pick me up. I would be dressed in a very sexy LBD, with a handkerchief hemline, maybe a wraparound style with sleeves that taper out from the shoulder and ending with a wide angle cut just below the elbow. The earings would be long and dangly with a matching necklace (both silver with a splash of tourquoise), and a nice sexy pair of 3 inch black pumps maybe accented with a nice ankle strap. Together, we would likely go out for a nice dinner at a romantic, dimly lit, cosy Italian restaurant in downtown Chicago somewhere, followed by some clubbing and dancing at a place with energetic, progressive dance music, then maybe back to her place (or mine) for a nightcap where we could dance a bit in a more intimate setting with some soft music in the background to set the mood, capping off a most memorable romantic evening. In a perfect world where anything goes, this would be my idea of a perfect evening out enfemme! :)

[Kate Simmons]

In the real world my date and I would be on equal footing and enjoy spending time together doing whatever. In dream mode it would go something like this though:

My Prince charming would pick me up at home and wisk me off to a romantic dinner. After dinner we would go dancing all night and enjoy each other's company. When he brings me home, I would invite him in for "coffee". The rest as they say is "history".:)

[Connie D50]

I would love to be part of a ladies day out (4 or 5 ladies)

Shopping and maybe more shopping :)
At the end of the day make overs at the make up counters
Go home get dressed for a nice dinner
Then go to a nice club for dancing and drinking

(ladies friendship is soooo much nicer then guys)

Connie :)

[felicity84]

For me, i would love to be the girl all out on a traditional date. she would pick me up bring me flowers or chocolate, preferably chocolate so i could share. we would both be dressed to the nines go to a nice place to eat and go to a formal event. i've always wanted to wear a formal gown to a formal event. after that we would go bowling cause i want to do that in a formal gown too. then we would wind up at her place and if the sky is clear stare at the stars or cuddle on the couch in front of a fireplace. of course flirting the entire time. what happens from there is my business:)

[SherriePall]

I think that an afternoon of shopping (for clothes!) with my wife and I trying on different dresses and shoes together! Then, we would go to a nice quiet restaurant to enjoy the food and conversation. Well, I can dream, can't I?

[MaryAnn40c]

My perfect outting would start with a light breakfast,pourring a hot bath with bubbles,shaving totally smooth,picking out the right outfit for the night. I would go out to have my nails done, come home do my makeup for the night,get dressed and wait for my date. We would havea drink before going to candle light dinner,we would go for a walk down by the river and sit by shoreline watching the sun go down. We would drive back to my place for the night.
This would ....oh wait that did happen,,,hehehhe :D

[sherri52]

I would want to be picked up by a gg, go to have a pedi/mani and then to have a makeover. Next a great dinner and on to dancing. When the night is almost over a stop at Duncan Donuts for a quick cup of coffee. I want the day to stretch out indefinitly as I haven't had an SO that understands.

[Shelby]

Since I don't see myself going on a date with another man I would prefer to go shopping with a gg or 2. Dress up in some nice casual clothes or a cute summer dress and go to the mall. We would do some window shopping, try things on and perhaps buy a few items. Go someplace like Olive Garden for lunch. Then go perhaps hit a hotspot for a drink and social hour.

I did have a fantasy about going on a date with a man on a dare. Like most women, I would want to be picked up at the door, he would do all the gentleman things like opening doors for me. We would go out to some nice restuarant and then perhaps for a nice stroll someplace, maybe even go see a theater production. I would of course be all dressed up to the nines. Now as I said, I would never do this since I am not interested in men, so it won't happen, but the first scenerio would be fun to do.

I know Paige that you are an inquisitive gal by nature, but can I ask what motivated you to ask this particular question? Since you are willing to understand us, I'm sure that I am not alone in wanting to understand you. Oh and what is your idea of a Special Evening out?

[Karren H]

I'd want to go to the Stanley Cup Finals.... and I don't care how he/she/they pick me up as long as a corporate jet is involed..... Ok maybe a Bugatti Veyron would be fun....

[AmberLynn]

Well since Im married it would be with my gg wife. flower's and candy for her. I nice casual matching skirt/blouse combo so we look like twin's. a soft day of shopping followed by a nice sit down dinner near a fire place "i used to know a place" followed by a tear jerker movie and a walk under the star's holding each other's hand's. that would be heavenly

[Lara Smith]

Mostly, I'd just want to spend an evening at home (her home) with a GG that loved girls and loved me dressesd. I would spend the evening with her listening to great music, touching and cuddling, drinking champagne and kissing and holding one another. She would slowly seduce me and I would surrender and we would make soft, sweet, sensual and girly love. We would fall asleep in one another's arms and wake to share breakfast together. There is nothing more perfect than this to me.

[joannemarie barker]

I would like to be picked up from home and be taken to a romantic resaurant then a walk along a seaside village before coming home for cuddles :) as for who with I don't mind,be it a gg a man or a cd as long as they are good company :)

[AmiFL]

Mostly, I'd just want to spend an evening at home (her home) with a GG that loved girls and loved me dressesd. I would spend the evening with her listening to great music, touching and cuddling, drinking champagne and kissing and holding one another. She would slowly seduce me and I would surrender and we would make soft, sweet, sensual and girly love. We would fall asleep in one another's arms and wake to share breakfast together. There is nothing more perfect than this to me.

Lara and I are on the same wavelength on this one..... and OMG my teen son walked in while i was typing this...............

ouch

Ami

[docrobbysherry]

I've NEVER had a fantasy along those lines!:sad:

I guess SOME THINGS r just TOO IMPOSSIBLE to even imagine!:brolleyes:

Altho, I HAVE had fantasies that included Bugattis!

[jenniferj]

I have already written about my last night at the opera; it was absolutely wonderful! I really don't know how to make an evening more special!

DearSweetWife and I have done three of our Chicks' Culture Weekends in the past year and a half - I can't wait for the next one. They just get better and better.

Actually there might be a way; one of you has suggested that she and her wife meet DSW and me in NYC for a broadway show or something...A double date would be awesome!

-jj

[Paige.]

I know Paige that you are an inquisitive gal by nature, but can I ask what motivated you to ask this particular question? Since you are willing to understand us, I'm sure that I am not alone in wanting to understand you. Oh and what is your idea of a Special Evening out?

Fair is fair.
Actually the topic, or motivation as you put it, came up from a visit and conversations I had with a CD friend two or three weeks ago. Sydney (his fem name) had come to town for a two day business meeting. She didn't have a car so I picked her up at the hotel and we went out for dinner and for a few drinks afterwards. She didn't dress that night.

We hadn't seen each other for a couple of years so we did the "do you remember" and "what happened to so and so" thing. We got all caught up with personal stuff and also talked about her Cd’ing. She is a closet dresser and doesn’t get to go out publicly although she would like to. She doesn’t have the nerve yet. Like you, she isn’t interested in going out with, or dating other men.

She had brought a change of clothes with her so the next night I was her “date”. I picked her up and we came here to my place. She changed in my bedroom (by herself), and after ordering in we spent a quiet relaxing evening at home. I give no details but I know she enjoyed being with me for the evening dressed as a woman talking girl talk but afterwards I got to wondering what would be an ideal night out for a CD. So I'm asking.

You are a pretty inquisitive gal yourself Shelby.

[docrobbysherry]

U R a special member here! And, apparently, a special human being, too!:love:

[DaphneGrey]

I think I would like to be taken on private tour of an old winery during the day when the grapes were close to harvest. I appreciate the respectful attention of a gentleman (nothing makes me feel more feminine than having a door held open or being offered an arm) A picnic lunch in the sunshine and quiet conversation.

As always being respectful of my wife and her feelings we would just be two friends enjoying each others company. Perhaps he is even a close family friend.

Its a fantasy about validation more than it is about romance.

This was a fun post It brought a smile to my face and sort of carried me away for a couple of minutes:)

Thanks Paige:love:

[AmandaM]

What kind of a date would make you feel loved, totally happy and feeling like a special woman?

What is your concept of a memorable day or evening as a CD? Assuming complete acceptance and if anything were possible, would you prefer to go to dinner, dancing, clubbing, hotel, private party, shopping, etc? Where would you like to go (not specific place names) and what would you like to do?

As a woman, would you prefer to be picked up at home by your date and escorted out or would you meet somewhere? Would you be on the arm of a man or a GG, with your wife or SO, or with another CD?

Assuming I was a single CDer, I'd like to get dressed up, to the nines of course, be picked up at my door. Probably a GG, and she would take the lead. Then be escorted to dinner arm in arm. After dinner, maybe some dancing or a private party. She would hold my hands, or me, a lot, as a man would hold a woman. Then a walk on the beach/park/about town. Then maybe we could have a nightcap.

[DaisyG]

A year ago my special date would have been with my late wife, the love of my life. Getting ready, we do our makeup until it's just right, and put on elegant dresses, very much a pair of classy ladies. We would have gone to a concert, theater or opera. Before or after, dining at a good restaurant. The finale? Home, soft music, a bit of wine, and a good romp in the hay. :)

When or if I find another GG SO, let's go for a repeat performance, thank you.:daydreaming:

Daisy

[Paige.]

I've NEVER had a fantasy along those lines!:sad:

I guess SOME THINGS r just TOO IMPOSSIBLE to even imagine!:brolleyes:

Altho, I HAVE had fantasies that included Bugattis!

Sherry,
Nothing is impossible, even owning a Bugatti. You have expensive taste girl.

I had never heard of a Bugatti until recently. I would have thought it was a hard crust Italian bread roll until I saw the news recently where a guy went off the road and drove his Bugatti into the salt water. Up for auction I think. Cheap now.

[sherri]

Several types of dates really appeal to me, and I could do them with a GG or a guy, but I guess my preference would be with a GG if for no other reason than I have yet to experience that. But with a GG, an important ingredient (I mean, as long as we're daydreaming here) is that she sort of take control in a subtle, gentle but firm sort of way, if that makes any sense. With a guy it's a given that he's in charge, in the traditional and obvious ways.

I guess one of my fav daydreams is a day-long affair, a Saturday spent together that begins with morning coffee and comfy casual and list-making, then a leisurely trip to the farmer's market and stores for food and flowers and everything needed to have some friends over for dinner that night. We lunch somewhere while we're out, lingering over wine, talking and watching people, maybe buy some new candles and magazines or something, then head home. We put some music on, open the windows, prep for dinner in the kitchen, set the flowers and the table, chill the wine, take a break. Late afternoon I hit the bedroom to shower and dress, then return to the kitchen to bring dinner together while you get ready. Before the guests arrive you put the shrimp on the grill and light the candles. Dinner is long and relaxed, the wine flowing, a soft breeze coming through the open patio doors, Van Morrison crooning in the background, laughter and gossip and dessert. Later, after the dishes have been stacked and the friends are gone, I turn my attention to what's been on my mind all day ... how beautiful you are inside and out, how nice you made me feel today, and how much I want you.

[azcdinhose]

Paige, the evening you described with your friend Sydney sounded awesome and it was so wonderful of you to open up your home to her. That would definately be a great date. I'll be right over!!!

If it were me it would need to be with a GG or TG, not into men, sorry. It would be great to go out for dinner at a place that was accepting. Not so much for my sake, but since we're in the town where you live I wouldn't want to go someplace and run into a co-worker or put you in a position to "have to explain". Afterwards I'd like to go to a quiet club or piano bar where we could have a few drinks and enjoy each others company. Maybe take a walk together and take it from there.

Hugs.

Bobbie

[Carly D.]

I think just going out dressed up and not having anyone notice me.. or more to the point not have anyone say anything like "look at that guy in that clothing, he doesn't belong in that, what's he thinking?".. I think most guys who dress don't think of themselves as passing, not really.. I was just thinking about this very thing and when I look at my pictures I see my male self in well over most of them if not all of them.. and I think even if I really looked like a woman I still would see my male self staring back at me.. I know I look at the pictures here at crossdressers.com and see gurls (you know?) and can't imagine that these people might feel the same as me.. maybe.. that's why for me anyway I'd love the chance to go somewhere and just be there.. nothing special, just dressed as I want to be seen..

[Barbara Dugan]

my perfect date would be meet a nice guy at a park, making wait for me a few minutes I just love the expresion on a guy's face when they see you all dolled up. I would love to walk holding hands for a few minutes then go to a small club something very discrete and laid back my dream is dance a slow tango by candlelights or by the moonlight. I feel the most fem when I cuddle against a strong masculine man to me is the ultimate experience:hugs: