Crossdressing slowed or stopped

[Tamasina]

Hi all,
Wanted to know if others out there like me. I haven't been around for 3 months or so and up in till now had not wanted to or gotten changed to Tina. Even three weeks ago or so I tried to but it didn't feel right but, recently I have and so tonight after so much time away I am dressed again. So here is my question does this happen to anyone elas and could it be just my getting older? I don't know its strange since a month or so before I stopped I would dress when ever I got the chance. I find it strange even wondered if I was a CD for the past month since it all stopped for so long and not to insult anyone here since so many have helped me in the past but, for me if this CD part went away it would make my life so much easyer . Now as I am dressed and again I think or know this may never go away. Anyways has anyone else suddenly slowed own like this? Thanks to anyone taking the time to read this.
Tina1969

[sherri52]

At one time or another I'm sure we have all slowed down for some reason. Work, kids, family, activities, or neighbors. We dress because we like it and sometimes out of habit. The only time I can remember slowing down was after a fight with my wife over dressing. Didn't last long neither the fight nor my wanting to stay away from dressing. If you want to stay away from it and you can then normality will be yours. I prefer the way I am.:hugs:

[SabrinaDubh]

Sure. It happens to me all the time. I don't think much about it though since I do the same with most anything I do in my life... cycling, SCA, etc. It ebbs, it flows.

[Byllie]

Think, do GG's get all dressed up all the time? Absolutely not. In fact, your not dressing is more of sign, IMHO, of becoming comfortable with how CDing is a part of you.

[charlytuna]

even when I don't feel like dressing I still have panties & bra on.

[docrobbysherry]

I dress ALL THE WAY, or not at all.:straightface:

Sometimes, I'm just too lazy to spend the 3+ hours it takes for me to dress, then clean up after!:doh:

I think if I was a, "just throw on a bra and panties", dresser, I would dress much more often!:D

[busker]

Tina,
What has changed in your daily life? Perhaps you just don't need to cd anymore. I don't know your history,when or how you began, but I do belive there is a psychological componenet to dressing and so it may be that part of what drives you to dress has changed. It doesn't mean you are any less of a person, but the means of expression no longer require the outward display.
It can be like an AH HA moment. Things suddenly click and what has been a puzzle ceases to be. Has something become more clear to you in the past several weeks? Relationship change?
Mandrake out of water

[Sherry-Stephanie]

Since Labor Day I dressed twice and went out both times...other than those two times I haven't dressed...not from lack of desire, just real busy and both the wife and I in between jobs up to now going out socializing has been cut back significantly the past month and a half...but that's about to change now that she's gone back to work and I'm going to go back Jan 2nd...

But that being said this may be why....

When I first started dressing I'd dress ever time I could...any do so anywhere from 50% up to 100% but ti was all at home....Now that I've broken free and go out as I please I dress a whole less at home and more when I know I'm going out....

But I'm always in panties wearing woman's jeans and my toenails are painted 24/7 and I shave all over...so although I'm not dressed I'm still femmed...and these things I do religiously....

So no it's not a lack of desire I think it's more opportunity to or not to do the dressing....I expect to be doing more dressing to go out shopping for Christams etc....so we'll see....

JMHO...

[Frédérique]

I don't know its strange since a month or so before I stopped I would dress when ever I got the chance. Now as I am dressed and again I think or know this may never go away. Anyways has anyone else suddenly slowed own like this?

Yes, I’ve slowed down from time to time, but the feeling to dress never goes away. One reason why I’m here is to replenish the urge by talking to others – it’s inspiring to hear the stories of other crossdressers, if only to make a connection with kindred spirits and not feel alone (for a change). A few years ago I was on a similar forum, and just being there yanked me back into this curious reality of clandestine dressing and secretive feminine transformation. I had a great time, but I had to put dressing aside when I moved to Lindsborg a couple of years ago. As soon as I was settled I brought Freddy out of the box (again), and I must say I’m happy she (meaning me) is here. You are so correct, Tina – the feeling will never go away, so you might as well marry it…:sad::straightface::)

[CherylFlint]

No big deal. With me, I just got to be in the right mood, the right frame of mind in order to take the time and make the effort to dress. Everytime I dress I go out so there is a lot of time spent getting myself passable.
I dress when the urge to do so is so strong that I can't fight it, or ignor it. I only dress if I have to, so to speak. There is no schedule.

[borbiusle]

I've slowed down considerably. After finding this site and reading the psychology behind it, CD'ing kind of lost its mysterious/taboo appeal for me.

[Sally2005]

Could be a change in sun spots and megnetic influence on the earth...

It happens. I'm in that kind of low right now and I have dressed up a couple times, but don't feel the pink fog (I feel like a guy in a dress)... for me, since I have accepted it and incorporated it in to my self there is no highs and lows about how I feel about dressing. So I'm guessing the feeling femine part is less when I am feeling good as a male?...don't know. CDing has been an escape for me in the past. I still dress sometimes hoping the buzz will return. I feel a loss in a way, I'm sure it will return though.

[Tamasina]

Hi all,
I wasn't sure and thought people here mite just look over my thread and not reply so thanks to all of you. All of you have given more to think about and now I know I am not crazy or going that way. I wish I had time to respond to each one of you but, right now no time. Thanks again
Tina1969

[AlisonRenee]

I've reached the point of not being satisfied just dressing in private. Once I actually went out en femme, I've wanted more, so I don't dress as much. I really need to venture out again. Anticipating a road trip, and I think I'll schedule a stop along the way - researching TG-friendly venues beforehand so that I can have a destination in mind. If I figure out exactly where early enough I may post an invitation to the ladies in that town. I'd love to be with a group of like-minded ladies for drinks and people-watching!

[kateyliz]

Life has cycles. They are not neccessarily regular or predictable so just hold on and try to enjoy the ride. Hugs, Kathy.

[Jessica Who]

Yea, lots of things can get in the way. After all, crossdressing isn't usually our #1 priority and emotions can go up and down like a roller coaster

[aleshiabaum]

I seem to enjoy planning my outfits and looks more than getting into them. It is an enormous amount of trouble. A month ago I nair'ed and bodygroomed myself to no hair anywhere but on my head. This made attaching my breast forms possible, of course, and then I was able to have fun trying all my new things out.

Then I realized how much colder I am without hair! (I know there was a thread about this very phenomenon recently.) Without a special occasion to continue shaving for, I let it grow back, which means my forms shouldn't be attached, blah blah blah.

I do enjoy slipping into something silky at bedtime, but the bottom line is - I've spent several hundred dollars on clothes this month and have only dressed once. As someone pointed out, it's a lot of trouble and very time consuming.
I wouldn't worry about it. Do what you wanna.

[JoAnne Wheeler]

I used to have that, BUT for the last three years, I can not get enough of

dressing and expressing my feminity. I think I am trying to make up for lost

time - and the older I get, I see time running out.

JoAnne Wheeler

[Lauren1973]

I have also had drop offs in my dressing. I always under dress but sometimes when I am depressed or its busy I slack off. I think though as I get older the pink fog IS getting stronger ....I just express it differently sometimes.

[suchacutie]

Tina (I'm a Tina as well!) was able to finally arrive back on the sceen on Wed. and will be here tonight as well. It's just been a busy fall, my wife and I had a lot of things we needed to do together and they just weren't Tina things. Now with the holidays approaching we made a list of tasks and some of them were labled T for Tina!

It was interesting transforming to Tina after a bit of a layoff. The great part of it was rediscovering clothes and shoes I had forgotten about! It took about 10 min and a G&T but she was back in gear after that!

:)

tina

[Carly D.]

It happens.. I have had this happen any number of times and am in a bit of a lull right now.. I wear shoes regularly and keep my legs shaved all the time for that eventual gush of explosion that will be me in tights and skirt and.. well you know.. my longest time away from dressing at all, and I mean no clothing at all would be maybe three months.. but that was quite a while ago because I can't remember when it was..

[Jenniferpl]

It seems to come and go and have given up trying to firgure out why. I just now accept Jennifer is a daily part of my life. All I know is is that it is not going away. the urge has has its pecks and valleys but it is never very far from my mind and it drives me crazy at times.

[Jonianne]

Tina, you would be amazed at the threads here saying the same thing from even the most longtimers here. For many of us, it does tend to go in cycles. My favorite hobby, amateur radio, also goes in cycles. I have been "hamming" since childhood and there are times my desire to tinker with my radios completely disappears. Sometimes I have to fight the temptation to purge some of my radio equipment! Because, I know if I do, I will regret it later! Been there, done that.

[Rachel05]

Yes I have slowed down before but funnily enough for me as I get older, I like to embrace my passion even more - I have never stopped fully though even in the "slow" days

[DeniseNY]

Sometimes you are more into it than other times. There have been times when I have stopped completely. There are other times when I would get more into CDing. It depends on how you feel, pressures from the wife or children or the job, a bunch of things. I wouldn't worry about it.

[jaimecdww]

I dress ALL THE WAY, or not at all.:straightface:

Sometimes, I'm just too lazy to spend the 3+ hours it takes for me to dress, then clean up after!:doh:

I think if I was a, "just throw on a bra and panties", dresser, I would dress much more often!:D

I am in the same camp these days. All out or not at all. unfortunately, that leaves me with 2-3 times a year max, yikes!!!

[Marjory]

Welcome to the wonderful world of crossdressing.

[TrekGirl1701]

I think you're overthinking it.

Just do what I did and stop treating CDing as if you have to fulfill a weekly dressing quota. If you feel like dressing, then dress. If not, don't. Just go with the flow. You'll end up pulling your hair out if you think about it too much.

I purged many times because I thought I had to either be a crossdresser or not a crossdresser. I never thought about just being myself. When I realized that I stopped worrying about everything and just enjoyed life. :)

[joanne anderson]

Hi Tina.
Like you I have gone through similar periods of not dressing. Often I wake and think ( o.k I will dress today " then I'll open my wardrobe and feel it's too much hard work for nothing as the only one who sees me, is myself.
Thoughts of purging sets in but I never get round to doing it.
Age HAS crossed my mind as the cause of this malaise ( I'm no longer a spring chicken any more )
Then last week there was a crossdressing group meeting, so I thought going would perk me up. I had a friend do my make up, then got dressed, finally putting on my wig ( some of us have too ) then suddenly the transforrmation was complete and I realised, yes there may be times I seem to loose interest but know that it is a part of who I am and will never leave me.
That night as I removed my make up and went to take off my lovely green nail polish, I decided to leave it until the morning
On rising the next day as I sat there on the bed realising I was going to have to get dressed in my male garb, I suddenly looked at my hands and the nail polish on the fingers, I thought, how much I wished that I could just dress as Joanne every day and feel the joy, the pleasure and the calm that transforming into Joanne brings to my life.
I know as time progresses, I will inevitably have to forgo Joanne because of aging but until then slowing may just be part of my life with Joanne.

Love Joanne

[jenna_woods]

I am sure we all have doen it I know I have even through every thing away then had to buy new now there is no stoping,

[txrobinm]

i'm very seasonal. if the high temp is more than 75, there is VERY LITTLE chance of me wanting to CD. Then, the first cool nights hit, when it's 75 at about 8:00PM, and I start wanting to and thinking about getting an outfit together. I few weeks later and I'm full in it again, until I reach kind of an equilibrium of him and her, until the weather warms up.

And I've met my counterpart, too, who doesn't do cold. She's a spring-summer-fall gal, and I'm fall-winter-spring.

Could be you're something like that, only perhaps with something other than seasons...

[Jason+]

I think you're overthinking it.

Just do what I did and stop treating CDing as if you have to fulfill a weekly dressing quota. If you feel like dressing, then dress. If not, don't. Just go with the flow. You'll end up pulling your hair out if you think about it too much.

I purged many times because I thought I had to either be a crossdresser or not a crossdresser. I never thought about just being myself. When I realized that I stopped worrying about everything and just enjoyed life. :)

I think TrekGirl is onto something here Tina. Because of the compromise with my wife some days the only motivation to dress is that I'll lose the day if I don't. (I couldn't sell her on roll over days :D )

Since I don't wear wigs or form or more makeup than lipstick and nail polish I've been back and forth about whether I am a "true" CD or not myself. I've decided that if on a day I'm happy in a mens t-shirt and a skirt great and if I want my semi formal dress with heels and as made up as I get that's okay too.

[Wallflower]

Since my time to CD is limited I take the opportunity when provided. There are times that I CDed and my heart was not fully into it but I knew that if I didn't I may form that Pink haze (new term for me thanks to a recent thread).

[Girdlewoman]

Hi Ladies,
My feelings about dressing wax and wane as well. However, I know it will never leave me so I don't purge or anything. I do remained clean shaven and always wear panties, and I know this sounds real girly, but sometimes I don't feel like doing the hair or nails and putting on make up. I know I'm a t-gurl and always will be. Peace, Charlene

[bridget jones]

I have gone from days,weeks,months and years without dressing but I always dress again.I don't know what it is but I do know what it feels like and how I feel when dressing.Dressing I believe will be with me till I leave this world.

[Sallee]

It happens to me too sometimes it seems like I just have to cd but then after I have spent some time cding and getting comfortable as Salle I just have to stop It losses its thrill I use to thinkit was me but I guess I am not alone That is a good thing
Dowhat feels right

[Diane Smith]

Sometimes, for days or weeks at a time, I won't especially feel like dressing up. In fact, I've been in that mode for the last three or four weeks now. However, I have standing appointments for hair, nails, eyebrow waxing, and a pretty much monthly trip to the tattoo/piercing place that I always keep enfemme, no matter how I'm actually feeling about it at the time. Therefore, I have to dress up once or twice a week just to satisfy the others who have never seen me any other way. This keeps me from completely losing touch or letting my body get too fat and hairy, and I think it's good to help maintain a more even keel. When the urge comes back, it's not uncontrollable, and I don't do silly or risky things in the fog.

- Diane

[NikkiW1971]

I would say I'm the same way. Times when I dress ALOT, and spend hours, and sometimes go weeks without. Where I'm at right now, I'm free to dress up all the way whenever I want. As it happens, I've only dressed a few times in the past month. mostly because it DOES take a long time getting into all the foundation garments, makeup, etc. and so it seems like too much trouble. Also, I've just sort of been there and done that so many times. It seems I've outgrown this stage of CD'ing. What excites me now is the prospect of going somewhere out in public.

[Lisia]

Hi all,
Wanted to know if others out there like me. I haven't been around for 3 months or so and up in till now had not wanted to or gotten changed to Tina. Even three weeks ago or so I tried to but it didn't feel right but, recently I have and so tonight after so much time away I am dressed again. So here is my question does this happen to anyone elas and could it be just my getting older? I don't know its strange since a month or so before I stopped I would dress when ever I got the chance. I find it strange even wondered if I was a CD for the past month since it all stopped for so long and not to insult anyone here since so many have helped me in the past but, for me if this CD part went away it would make my life so much easyer . Now as I am dressed and again I think or know this may never go away. Anyways has anyone else suddenly slowed own like this? Thanks to anyone taking the time to read this.
Tina1969

First of all, I am a newbie CD of about 30 years, so great to finally be learning something, and about myself!

I have found over the years, that the times when I slow down or stop for however long always coincide with an especially bad feeling of guilt over what I was doing, for lack of better terminology. I'm sure many more here have experienced something similar, but before finding this site, I did not understand at all why I was compelled to do the things I do(still don't fully, but I am cool with that), and thought I must be some sort of deranged lunatic. That's exactly how I was raised in an old-school, southern baptist Texas household. (Nothing against religion, but in my case it certainly didn't help.) I was taught that any male who liked dressing in female clothes was most assuredly gay, and I knew that I was not, so this did not help. Oh also, apparently, god said that gay people don't get into heaven. Such a wonderful nurturing environment of openness and understanding! :doh:


I have noticed lately since lurking on here for months and reading reading reading, then finally joining recently, that I no longer feel these feelings of guilt and confusion(ok, still some confusion, but now about all NEW things!). Consequently I have probably saved myself from at least 2 purges, and who knows what else. I am so very thankful to have found all of you unbelievably supportive people!

Just my :2c:, oh and like you, every time I dressed again after taking an unintentional break, I knew it would never go away, which has made me :o:sad::battingeyelashes::doh::daydreaming::eek:, basically.

:D

[Elsa von Spielburg]

Oh yeah, for sure. My entire CD-ing life has been up and down missing months at a time, even to this very day (have not dressed for at least a month). But then, with me, I'm just getting into it and still trying to find the right pieces/places/times.

[Susieboots]

Yes I feel the same, in fact I'm just coming out of one now.
I was really looking forward to dressing but suddenly when I had the chance I couldn't be bothered.
I put it down to the fact I wasn't feeling too good for a period of about 2 months, a cold I think but I couldn't shake it off and it really dragged me down. Then we hit the xmas hols and my family are home for their break so it been a long stretch and now I can't wait for them to go back so I can have some "me" time, abit selfish I know but I'm looking forward to it now.
So your not alone, I expect these are the times when alot of us "purge" or feel guilty though to be honest I don't anymore, I just ride it through as I know I'll feel "the urge" sooner or later.

hugs

Sue xx

[Cassia-Marie]

i'm very seasonal. if the high temp is more than 75, there is VERY LITTLE chance of me wanting to CD. Then, the first cool nights hit, when it's 75 at about 8:00PM, and I start wanting to and thinking about getting an outfit together. I few weeks later and I'm full in it again, until I reach kind of an equilibrium of him and her, until the weather warms up.

I'm not sure if it's the temperature or just that I'm much more active with hobbies and whatnot in the summer and I get distracted. It seems like every time the weather gets cold, though, the Pink Fog settles in.
I completely agree with what the others have said: don't over-think it; just enjoy it. In the grand scheme of things, you could have much worse compulsions than the need/desire to dress up en femme from time-to-time.

[tricia_uktv]

Three months is nothing and there will be much more to come.

I was watching the film Bll Durham yesterday. A baseball pitcher has to have arrogance but be scared also. I think we need to work with that!

[jenna_woods]

I agree we all have gone through that, I know I have, once I even got rid of everything, and a monuth latter I wes out buying it all over again, and even now I have times wen I don't want to dress but it does not last long now as I ress most often now,

[CamilleLeon]

I've done the same...I went a year without dressing up, hell I didn't even really think about it. Then the urge came back and I've dove into it...I'm sure the feelings come and go, just do what you want, when you want.

[bridget jones]

I have slowed and stopped plenty of times but it always comes back.I'm still in the closet so to speak(a few people in the past seen me as Bridget,I told is no more).I continue to think about it and find new ways to aqquire the things I need to bring her out.I've always considered this a curse and I'm still not sure why it never goes away.On the other hand I enjoy it and treasure the moments I'm Bridget.

[Jamie Burton]

I stopped for 2-3 years, and back again to en femme. This time, I went flying en femme, instead of shopping en femme :p

The same thing happened to me - stopping for a few years. I made the mistake in thinking that I'd somehow "gotten over" crossdressing and spent another five years fighting the urge that had (of course) come back. Thankfully I came to a greater sense of self-acceptance and have been becoming much more comfortable with my Jamie side than in the past.

Relax, don't make a big deal about it. Just don't think you've stopped forever or get rid of anything! You'll regret that sometime down the road.