Holiday with family misc ramblings

[Rebecca Jayne]

I just have to put this down in words.

Cross Dressers we are the Red Headed step children of the world.

Over the holidays when you get together with family and friends and you sit around the table and everyone tells the news that's big in their life,

It just astonishes me what people can do and get away with and then it is no big deal later and all is forgiven.

Ex. Good Catholic family: this one cheated on his wife till the day she died, or 1 of his daughters had a illegitimate child during H S and put the baby up for adoption

OR how evil and deceptive family can be towards each other and later on all is forgiven and they are still tolerated by everyone.

Ex Oh you know he took the parents money and gambled it all away, She got pissed at mom, took her car, got drunk and totaled the car.

We talk politics and religion for a bit, soon that gets heated, we talked about the gay brother and what his son was up to and that was okay, then the wife who decided she was a lesbian and left the husband and took the kid and she's now on drugs and alcohol, fortunately her girlfriend is raising the son and he's in good hands with her, so and so is in jail again, this husband is abusive to the wife and children.........


The list went on and on and this was a good year for most of them.

Anyway I listen to all this crap and I think to myself, Cross Dressing, its so trivial in the grand scheme of things, but mention it to almost everyone and if you aren't the biggest diseased, corrupt, filthy, .......that ever lived

What I do doesn't hurt anyone, enhances my life, and those that I touch, yet I am not going to open that can of worms.
:doh:

[Frédérique]

And why is that? Is it because there isn’t a “grand scheme of things,” and everyone is adrift in a sea of despair, miles from the nearest satisfactory experience? In this world, Rebecca, you aren’t supposed to derive pleasure from anything outside of the parameters others have decided on. Apparently life is all about hurting people, especially those we love, in order to make it from one end to the other in one piece – it’s about winning the race without looking at the casualties, so the so-called rules are individually twisted to make things more “fair,” all with the ultimate result in mind. Some people have looked the other way for so long that they can’t remember the purpose (or promise) of existence…

I agree, crossdressing is small potatoes compared to other, less gentle patterns of behavior. I think people dump on our fun because they won’t face up to their own problems, hoping to deflect attention away from them and put the blame on society’s easy targets (i.e. us). That’s OK -- I know what’s going on, and I have a bunker-like closet to crawl into, so I’ll keep my mouth shut at family get-togethers…:shutup:

Ah, Thanksgiving -- you can't beat it...:doh:

[ReineD]

Anyway I listen to all this crap and I think to myself, Cross Dressing, its so trivial in the grand scheme of things, but mention it to almost everyone and if you aren't the biggest diseased, corrupt, filthy, .......that ever lived


Rebecca, if you come out to your family and 5 or 10 years from now you should be the subject of a Thanksgiving dinner conversation, your story would be told in much the same tone as everyone else's. I know this is no consolation, but your situation would not be disapproved of or laughed at more than the other issues. Also when the other situations were unfolding, it is likely the people involved did not take them so calmly as your relatives are able to discuss it now. There must have been great pain involved at the time. It is much easier to accept something once it has become a fait accompli.

If your family members are still on speaking terms and hold no grudges towards the gambler who ruined his mother, the hetero-turned-lesbian mother who is now an addict and abandoned her child, and the husband who abuses his wife and children, then they should take the CDing in stride quite well!

Don't underestimate them or yourself! :)

[linnea]

I was amazed at how easily my family accepted the fact that I crossdress. I don't think that it will make the top ten at anyone's holiday table conversation.