hormones and intimancy

[Ames]

I was wondering where to place this I hope this is the right spotr this question

My husband will be going on hormones shortly, We both agree and I support his decision. We plan on staying together through this. My question is what should I expect short and long terms with regards to sex and intimancy between us? I know hormones will effect him in this area, but was wondering what were the changes and how soon?

Ames

[Karen7cd]

I am not on Hormones, but with age I'm not the same as I was in my 20's.
That said, been with my SO for 20 years and many children. Her "pleasure"
has become more intense and longer lasting. I did some reading and studying.
If you private mail me I will explain.

[CharleneT]

Hello and welcome !

That is a common question, but hard to answer. Both because the same HRT regime may affect people differently and because it matters which hormones we're talking about.

Some combinations can reduce or eliminate erections, this of course doesn't mean loss of intimacy though. It does mean it changes the how of it. As well some may reduce his desires - again the amount varies by drug and person. Sorry for a mushy answer, unfortunately there is a lot of variation. From personal experience I can tell you that all is well for me, although my libido is now different, it works just fine.

You should talk to his doctor about the particular drugs and what she/he expects wrst intimacy.

It is wonderful to hear of another supportive spouse !

Charlene

[Stephenie S]

Hormone therapy doesn't have to interfere with intimacy at ALL. Hormone therapy may interfere with your sweetie's ability to have vanilla sex. It might very well effect his ability to get and keep an erection.

But thrust and bang sex is not the only way to pleasure each other. Intimacy can be achieved in many other ways that do not include an erection. Women loving women do not have a penis between them, for instance. Use your imagination and your love for each other to figure this out.

Lovies,
Stephenie

[AllieSF]

I agree with Stephenie. As a result of my prostate removal due to cancer I joined several Yahoo support groups. One of those is an intimacy forum where many men become impotent aa a result of the cancer treatment and they and their SO's and spouses discuss how they dealt with the issue mentally, emotionally and physically. For those that are completely impotent where pills, pumps and self injections do not work, the overwhelming recommendation is to introduce variatiuon, imagination and toys into the intimate moments. It is not always easy, but most woman (there are almost as many woman there as men) find that they can be very satisfied by their spouses during those imtimate moments. Some even say that their climaxes are better. Then again, there are some wives that say that it is still not the same as before. So, what I am saying is that the intimacy activities may change a some, but the enjoyment can still be there. Don't give up yet.

I also want to congratulate you on being so concerned and supportive of your SO. Good luck and thanks for being open and asking for our varied opinions.

[Scotty]

Any known issues of passing hormones through semen?

[Shikyo]

The biggest change, which might take a while, is the missing of erections. It doesn't meant there will be no sex or anything but it will be different from before. Even without the erection there will be more than enough options you could try out for your pleasure. Losing erections should have any effect on your sex life unless you let it. I mean it's not about having an erection but giving pleasure to your partner which can very well be done without an erection.

[Jennifer in CO]

This may sound a bit crude but here goes.... Having been there - on hormones with t blocker for almost two years and continuing the t blocker for another year after - we got creative in the bedroom (and living room and kitchen and... :) ). Our intimacy if anything improved over the course of those 3 years. It took close to a year before it affected THAT type of intimacy which just changed how we pleasured each other. When she wanted penetration (can I say that here?) we tried several strap-ons but finally found a hollow one that I could put my thing into then put the rest of it in her without causing me displeasure. She enjoyed the fact that it was still me under over or next to her taking care of her needs. During that time I learned a lot from her about what she wanted in both intimacy and company. Both of which still today 30 years later are more important to both of us than the actual act of intercourse which due to a medical condition she can no longer have so its good we learned to take care of each other at an early age.

Sum it up, if you love each other that is what you will have. Everything else will be fruits of that love.

Jenn

[Stephenie S]

Any known issues of passing hormones through semen?

WHAT?

[Ames]

thank you all for your answers to my questions, as I read this I guess I felt sort of foolish putting intimancy and sex together, as the two can be two totally different things all together, but this is new for chapter in our relationship for me and I wanted to see others have dealt with it on both sides

[Hope]

Any known issues of passing hormones through semen?

WHAT?

It's a reasonable question. We are talking about the exchange of bodily fluids, and what those fluids might contain. Considering that women are advised to not even touch some T blockers for fear of birth defects, having a table spoon of a substance that may or may not contain that same drug deposited in their bodies seems like a reasonable concern to me. All sorts of things can be found in semen. Considering that estrogen can cause hypothyroidism, adding an unknown quantity of estrogen to a woman who has already high estrogen levels might be bothersome.

I don't know what the possible effects are, but exploring the risks seems prudent to me.

Of course an easy solution might be to not not make an internal deposit at all... but I will leave that to your imagination, or Googling ability.

[helenr]

good comments and I confess I never considered that meds could conceivably be shared via seminal discharge-I rather doubt this,but I am no MD nor do I play one on TV.
I think the loss of libido would be a significant surprise and change for women expecting dependable intimacy. Both performance ability and coital desire do wane with meds. There are so many wonderful toys out there, I honestly think that if used with one to one intimacy-different from a masturbatory exercise- a woman could be satisfied to ectasy-how many of us-before meds-could boast of porn star 'dimensions'? Adam and Even website should have anything conceivable to please a woman-even have frank (?) comments from buyers.
you are a wonderful woman to be OK with the meds and inevitable changes for the higher goal of a happy partner.

[Eriee]

The little swimming seamen will all drown shortly. Such is the nature of T-blockers.