My wife's progress with acceptance...

[JamieG]

I don't know if there are official stages of acceptance for wives, but I think that being able to make light-hearted jokes about their crossdressing husbands should be one of them...

Today, my wife and I were talking about how in the "good ole' days" parents seemed to worry a lot less about their kids safety, and yet things usually worked out okay. She mentioned how my parents had shown her a video of me as a 9 month baby, being placed on a rickety aluminum slide by the neighborhood kids, and being pushed down the slide. She commented: "And you turned out perfectly normal," then added with a smile, "However, maybe that's why you wear women's clothes? I think I saw a moment where you head snapped back, and then suddenly you were FABULOUS!"

We both got a good laugh over this. Unfortunately, I don't think the "slide whiplash" theory for crossdressing is going to get much traction in the community... :D

[Teri Jean]

No Jamie whiplash from a slide is a slippery slope. LOL I do think she may be coming to grips with CDing and the fact she is using humor could her way of dealing with a somewhat uncomfortable moment. The reason I say that is when I find a stressful or uncomfortable situation I resort to humor. Go slow and when your wife is least expecting it take her out or get something special to show how much you care for her.

Teri

[Kathi Lake]

Sounds familiar. Just tonight, my wife found an old sweater of my Grandma's that she gave me s padding for some things I was moving. When I told her where it was from, she said, "Good. I hope you're not wearing stuff like this!" I said, "Nope. My stuff is much nicer."

:)

Kathi

[Shikyo]

I'd say it seems like a good sign. From my own experience and the what I've observed from my wife. She was in the beginning not taking this totally seriously thinking it was just a phase. After a while she started making jokes about the whole matter(she still does) and she's taking the whole matter much more loosely. So I'd definitely say it's a good sign if she starts to make "jokes" about the matter.

[LisaM]

My wife and I are also at the phase where we have lots of laughs about my 'interests'. I think it is a good stage and I don't know if she will want to go any further than this.

[KrazyKat]

JamieG, I find it more interesting that your spouse started with, "You turned out perfectly normal.":D

That seems to say a lot more as to how she is thinking, that you are still the normal, wonderful person she fell for a while back?!:hugs:

Probably too much thinking, lol!! Glad the 2 of you can have some jokes about it, much better than the "white elephant" in the room kind of thingy!!:love:

[RachelZ]

Whiplash is the source of crossedressing??!?!?!?!?!:eek: I'll remember that next time I pull muscles in my neck banging my head. Well that answers alot of my questions anyway. :)

[DaphneGrey]

It is good sign. My wife has done the same.

[abigailf]

So, what was the stage prior to the "make jokes stage"?

[JamieG]

Thanks everyone for the comments. I'm glad to see that some of you are in a similar boat.


So, what was the stage prior to the "make jokes stage"?

Oh, I suppose that was the "pretend that it doesn't exist" stage.


Whiplash is the source of crossedressing??!?!?!?!?!:eek: I'll remember that next time I pull muscles in my neck banging my head. Well that answers alot of my questions anyway. :)

In the interest of full disclosure, my wife is neither an MD nor a psychologist, so the "whiplash theory" should be taken with a grain of salt :D . Still imagine if it caught on. You could go out en femme, and instead of getting weird looks and hushed whispers behind your back, people would come up and say, "Oh you poor dear, were you in a car accident?" :devil: Or the next time someone rear ends your car, you could charge their insurance company for new wardrobe expenses!