Fighting with the Girl Within

[Dana]

I've fought her!

I'vr denined her!

But yet each morning?

There she is on my front porch?

[noeleena]

Hi. Dana..

Why. oh why . have you . fought ..denined .. her when she is your best friend .
As you sit out there what do you see .

when the sun is shining she is beatifull . when it s wet & cold . so is she .

so look after her . because she is ...
.
you..
.........................................

...noeleena...

[DiannaRose]

Dana, don't you ralize that you can never win a fight against a girl? :)

Accept her. Embrace her. Love her. Because if you don't, who will?

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Dana I know what you are going through. The inner girl will always be there, it will survive anything and everything and come back only stronger with each attempt to fight her. As others have said embrace and accept her.

[Karren H]

Resistance is Futile..... You will be assimilated.....

Que the Star Trek music.....

[Teri Jean]

Somebody asked me awhile back why I wanted to transition, don't you want a girlfriend or wife? I said to myself yes but I have a love for the girl I am and for now it is enough. Love her and take care of her for she will be there long after others have fled.

Teri

[Marcie R.]

I love the girl within and at times I love the male that I am. However I could never give up the female inside me. I feel as time goes on she becomes more dominant and wants to be out more often. You can't fight it. It will always be there.:love:

[TJ Tresa]

I see no need, absolutely no need to fight the girl within. Subdue her never, Let her live always. If she wants to come around embrace her, (as long as it doesn't harm your family,) Always be careful and loving of her. She is you and you are her the two of you are one.

[AlanaBCD]

I guess it is "natural" for males and females to battle. I battle, but then it is better when the battle is over, because with that comes a balance. Alana, comes out and plays, then the male side feels better.

With me, it is ironic, when I am female for awhile, it makes me feel more male when Alana is put away. The feminine strengthens the masculine.

[sterling12]

This is what we keep telling them! You can "abstain," you can "deny." But, she's still right there in Your Head...right there on The Front Porch, knocking to get in.

It's a lot better if you let her through The Door and make friends. Think we have your problem solved. Now, how about all the other folks?

Peace and Love, Joanie

[docrobbysherry]

Somebody asked me awhile back why I wanted to transition, don't you want a girlfriend or wife? I said to myself yes but I have a love for the girl I am and for now it is enough. Love her and take care of her for she will be there long after others have fled.
Teri

That is SO BEAUTIFUL!:)

And, unfortunately in most cases, SO TRU!:brolleyes:

[Sally2005]

Open the door and invite her in, appologize and make up.

[Frédérique]

But yet each morning? There she is on my front porch?

What’s she doing out on the front porch? Invite her inside for a cup of tea…:battingeyelashes:

Better yet, take her by the hand and lead her to your bedroom, where you can get a handle on the situation. :heehee: Be gentle, now. Later, when the smoke clears, you can waltz through the closet singing, “I feel pretty!” Don’t deny yourself, ever…

Are we talking about the same thing?

[SuzanneBender]

Let that gal in. She sounds like a keeper.

I always see my girl in the mirror every morning when I shave. Kind of ironic isn't it?

[Persephone]

Last night I saw upon the stair,

A little girl who wasn't there,

She wasn't there again today,

Oh! How I wish she'd go away!

Is that what you're feeling? I suspect that we've all gone through that at one time or another. Wishing that she would go away. But, she is a strong willed woman and she has no intention of doing so, so eventually you'll find that letting her be herself will lead to a much more pleasant relationship.

She is a magic lady who will lead you to worlds of enchantment whose doors will not open for merely one-dimensional men.

[Dana]

Such lovely and beautiful thoughts from all of you! (That's hard said from someone who's been culturally and socialize to conform to masculinity in a most masculine (Spartan) Way?

That is to say, I was literally beaten to be a male! Mentally, psychologically, physically to comforn to "being right

[sherri52]

Stop fighting with her. Didn't you know that the girl inside of you is smarter the the man outside. Let the girl out so others can see how smart you are.

[DiannaRose]

That's hard said from someone who's been culturally and socialize to conform to masculinity in a most masculine (Spartan) Way

This was one of the weirdest feelings I ever had...when I joined up here and realized I could not only express myself more freely, but felt encouraged to do so. Never in my life before would I ever have called someone "dear" or "sweetie", but here it just started coming naturally--and it wasn't out of place. Some of that is the anonymity factor, but most of it is because if it fits the situation I don't feel ashamed to think and "say" it. I don't know if I'm stating myself clearly, but I think people know what I mean anyway. :)

I would also, in a million years, never have said something like "Oh, my heavens, those shoes are SO cute!". I used to think it all the time, but never once said it out loud. Can you imagine the look on my wife's face if I had? :)

On the other hand...maybe it would have set the stage a little sooner for my coming out. Oh yes...set it, lit it, filled the auditorium and cued up the musicians, I think. :D

[Rogina B]

Like Terri Jean said....she will be there long after the others have fled! And I believe it is that idea that alters so many of our relationships.We want to be ourselves and realize that others may flee yet you will always have her...Ignoring her won't work...ask any of the purgers on here if it ever did!:2c:

[MissKara]

I had faught with the inner me Karla for two years when I was with my (Now Ex) Girlfriend. I found that even if I surpressed her as much as possible, all it did was make her stronger until finally I couldnt keep it in, and here I am :P

Lots of Love :hugs:
Miss Karla

[TabbyJames]

Hi Dana,

Don't fight it, its futile. Even if you purge and promise to never do this again, Dana will not go away, she is part of you, part of your soul, part of your being. Perhaps you could succed in sheding the outer clothing but you will not succed in putting her to rest.

My feminine traits have always shown through my male skin, I love to arrange flowers, make jewelry, tie huge beautiful bows on gifts, etc... and have done these things openly my whole life. I take great comfort in knowing she is there and great excietment when she can come out and play.

Its hard being us, our SO's love these female traits and want to embrase them, its only the physical expression side of it they seem to have a hard time with.

[sarah378619]

Dana,
I had a division between sarah and me for years. Until I realized that I needed her too. Sarah is a part of me now and it has been so amazing. In accepting her I could enjoy the feelings and desires that were always there.I love and accept her and you should accept Dana you will be so much happier, because Dana is a part of you.
Sarah

[tricia_uktv]

Dana, I wasted fifty years leaving Tricia out in the porch. Let Dana in and feel the warmth inside. Now I've completely accepted Trish I am so much happier, and life is fun at last.

At last my hearts an open door
And my secret love's no secret any more

[Rianna Humble]

I've fought her!

I did that for too many decades :sad:


I've denied her!

When I did that, it spoiled any chance of a meaningful relationship and made me question who I was


But yet each morning?

There she is on my front porch?

I won't let Rianna appear on my front porch each morning - I let her in where she belongs - as an important part of me.

[Karen564]

Not only have I fought with Karen, but also had an all out war with her to keep her down, then over the course of time, she got stronger as I got weaker, and eventually she overpowered me...I asked God for mercy & then was slain by her almighty sword..
It was only after I was laid to rest, realized I had fought a senseless battle in vain that could never be won, and looking back, would have graciously surrendered to her long ago if I knew what was good for me instead of living so long with pain & angwish...

:Peace:

[DiannaRose]

Not only have I fought with Karen, but also had an all out war with her to keep her down, then over the course of time, she got stronger as I got weaker, and eventually she overpowered me...I asked God for mercy & then was slain by her almighty sword..
It was only after I was laid to rest, realized I had fought a senseless battle in vain that could never be won, and looking back, would have graciously surrendered to her long ago if I knew what was good for me instead of living so long with pain & angwish...

:Peace:

Well said, Karen! So true.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Dana
Ddn't your mom ever tell you not to fight with girls.
You just can't win so go with it.
................................................th anks........Orchid

[Joy Carter]

It will drive you nuts until you learn, that she's as much apart of you as you. Just relax an know that your normal, just like the rest of us.

[Dana]

Joy? Trying to be nomal? I think that's the problem ~ that being transgendered is normal ~ but we've all been culturally and socially conditoned to be "normal" to the cultural and societial "standard"

Bi-ploar logic. Either you heterosexual or your not. Either your black or white. Either you right or your wrong. Either your right or your wrong.

For the record? I tend to vote Republican more than Democrat ~ although I wish I had other choices. Such as the Libertarian Party.

That aside? Yea I've got to learn that "I'm part girl" and no I'm not interested in same sex ~ sex!

[Jenniferpl]

Why fight, unless it is the fun of making up?

[MaryAnn40c]

so let her in....or take her out shopping

[jenna_woods]

no need to fight it the girl withen is going to win out,

[Deborah Jane]

I spent the last four years fighting her

Then one morning I woke up and just thought......"Why?"

We don't only destroy ourselves with our fight within ourselves, we also destroy those closest to us with our constant struggle for self acceptance.

[kristinacd55]

Just as the other girls said, don't fight her/embrace her!! or as Mary Ann says TAKE HER SHOPPING!

[Shelly Preston]

Fighting her can prove to be very costly

You have to come to a compromise over her at the very least

[Karen564]

Well said, Karen! So true.

Thank You..

:hugs:

[charlie]

Life would be much simpler without this need! We all say that we accept our girl side, yet most of us (even those of us that go out and about) still hide it from friends, family, workmates and neighbors. If we were truly comfortable with ourselves that would not be the case.

[danielle.cd]

most uf us have had the same feelings at one time or another thats why its can be so darned expensive but i learned its part of me and it wont leave so im happy with both sides its a balance to bad im cant do it anytime i want too like one week fem the next maybe and switch back and forth that would be sooooooo fun

[Amanda Styles]

Give into that girl within and let her take over, it's a fight I long ago gave up on and have not regretting it since.

Amanda

[Claire Cook]

I think we need to accept the fact that we are not two people ... while Claire is my femme name, "we" are "me". "Her" clothes are MY clothes; "her" makeup is MY makeup. Accepting everything I am has taken away whatever guilt and shame I may have felt in the past. So accept, embrace and be proud!

[Samantha Girl]

It's useless to fight who you are ;) Become who you are...

I know many of you feel differently but I tend to agree with Claire :) There are some slight differences between Steve and Samantha. I hate to dance, can't do it, I'm shy, if I don't know you I tend to be quiet. When I'm Samantha I enjoy dancing, I'm less shy and more talkative. I'm still the same person, but being glammed up as Samantha just opens me up. I mean I'm already dressed like a woman, what else is going to happen that could possibly be so embarrassing?! :p