jenniferishappy
12-05-2009, 09:28 PM
it seems to me more and more this whole thing may be a little like location shooting in the film industry. CAUTION: LONG WINDED ANALOGY!!
people are excited and agree to allow a shoot to take place in the location they own, business or home.
now, if the producer has any real experiece with previous location shooting they know what might happen, likely or not. maybe they dont have experience , or maybe they minimize the impact on purpose since the location owner may not agree otherwise. perhaps the producer just doesnt think things through on the more subjective level of the inexperienced location owner (very common). or finally, maybe the producer is almost certain what the impact will be, and it turns out to be something much different because the scene is rewritten during the days before they move to that location (dressing escalation).
bottom line: when you begin shooting a movie on location (coming out to your SO) it is almost certain it will be much different than what the un-indoctrinated owner (SO) thinks it will be. one thing is certain, it will be a serious disruption and the place will be likely completely taken over for periods of time . the idea of normal business (familiar male/female relationship) continuing while this is going on is ludicrous. some location owners are just naturally ok with it due to personality or genuine love of film and find the whole thing more intreresting than burdensome (rare SO). very often, unfortunately, by the time the location wraps the location owner, if asked, says they would not agree to it again.
observing this over several years, i have taken it as my responsibility during film pre-production with the knowlege i have now to give full disclosure of what i know for sure, what is likely, and what is possible, even if extremely unlikely. the person now has full knowlege of expectations and limitations. they know what is assured and what is fluid. very few producers take the time to sit down with the location owners and make sure they do this. the owners are always grateful to me for this and things almost always go well. sometimes, location owners pass. its in the details. we need to shut off your phone, your ac compressor, your dog need to be elsewhere. we need to ask the neighbors to shut off their security light and be quiet. we need to move a lot of things around. something might get broken. we may be here until 2am. etc, etc.
now i know with myself, i did not know this was going to unfold the way it is going (sudden awareness of an actual feminine component emerging). had i known, i am not sure what i would have done since i was in a very uncomfortable place with it (before Jennifer left me no choice but to let her in/out of her prison). i know what i will do next time if this does not work out. it is also certain there is someone for everyone. the search is long and filled with joy and heartbreak. as dynamic people (CD'ers) our lives are different than many. if the unhappy location shoot is going on and on and on that is no fun- for anyone. i also have to say that i have only been on a set once where the location owner kicked the production out. they usually just suffer through it, regretting it and waiting for it to end. so we should also consider the location owner (SO). maybe our CD'ing is really shortchanging them. maybe they would like to get out of the relationship but just arent going to be the one to end it. if we poison the well for someone we love with something they cannot come to terms with should we not consider cutting them loose? is that the high road? at least letting them know that they are free to leave and that we totally understand because we love them? and if we have to move on to another location, we should really think through the details and what we know to be problems and deal breakers so we are prepared for full disclosure. there are endless locations out there to make stories with. i suggest considering this.:whew!:
people are excited and agree to allow a shoot to take place in the location they own, business or home.
now, if the producer has any real experiece with previous location shooting they know what might happen, likely or not. maybe they dont have experience , or maybe they minimize the impact on purpose since the location owner may not agree otherwise. perhaps the producer just doesnt think things through on the more subjective level of the inexperienced location owner (very common). or finally, maybe the producer is almost certain what the impact will be, and it turns out to be something much different because the scene is rewritten during the days before they move to that location (dressing escalation).
bottom line: when you begin shooting a movie on location (coming out to your SO) it is almost certain it will be much different than what the un-indoctrinated owner (SO) thinks it will be. one thing is certain, it will be a serious disruption and the place will be likely completely taken over for periods of time . the idea of normal business (familiar male/female relationship) continuing while this is going on is ludicrous. some location owners are just naturally ok with it due to personality or genuine love of film and find the whole thing more intreresting than burdensome (rare SO). very often, unfortunately, by the time the location wraps the location owner, if asked, says they would not agree to it again.
observing this over several years, i have taken it as my responsibility during film pre-production with the knowlege i have now to give full disclosure of what i know for sure, what is likely, and what is possible, even if extremely unlikely. the person now has full knowlege of expectations and limitations. they know what is assured and what is fluid. very few producers take the time to sit down with the location owners and make sure they do this. the owners are always grateful to me for this and things almost always go well. sometimes, location owners pass. its in the details. we need to shut off your phone, your ac compressor, your dog need to be elsewhere. we need to ask the neighbors to shut off their security light and be quiet. we need to move a lot of things around. something might get broken. we may be here until 2am. etc, etc.
now i know with myself, i did not know this was going to unfold the way it is going (sudden awareness of an actual feminine component emerging). had i known, i am not sure what i would have done since i was in a very uncomfortable place with it (before Jennifer left me no choice but to let her in/out of her prison). i know what i will do next time if this does not work out. it is also certain there is someone for everyone. the search is long and filled with joy and heartbreak. as dynamic people (CD'ers) our lives are different than many. if the unhappy location shoot is going on and on and on that is no fun- for anyone. i also have to say that i have only been on a set once where the location owner kicked the production out. they usually just suffer through it, regretting it and waiting for it to end. so we should also consider the location owner (SO). maybe our CD'ing is really shortchanging them. maybe they would like to get out of the relationship but just arent going to be the one to end it. if we poison the well for someone we love with something they cannot come to terms with should we not consider cutting them loose? is that the high road? at least letting them know that they are free to leave and that we totally understand because we love them? and if we have to move on to another location, we should really think through the details and what we know to be problems and deal breakers so we are prepared for full disclosure. there are endless locations out there to make stories with. i suggest considering this.:whew!: