Just told the kids that I'm CD

[tinaashley]

I have been planning this for some weeks but it has proved difficult getting the 2 kids (aged 21 and 17) in the same room at the same time. Finally tonight at the dinner table I told them I something to discuss with them. Before I had chance to tell them they told me that they already knew! My son had seen an email and my daughter had found a wig. They are both totally cool about it and have no problems whatsoever. I feel as if I have been let out of prison after a very long stretch. I can now come and go as Tina whenever I want. I feel so liberated and wonder why I was getting myself into such a state. My daughter asked if it meant I was gay - no; and if that was the reason I was a good cook! I feel great and free!!!

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Tina

I am glad it went even better than you could have expected :)

[Vicki-Z]

Fantastic! I'm really happy for you. :) It's great your kids are so understanding.

Vicki :cheer:

[tricia_uktv]

Yay, brill Tina. They are just the right age to tell. That must be a huge weiht off your mind :)

[MissAmy]

Good thing everything turned out alright. It's such a risk at telling people when they're older. Sure your kids aren't exactly old themselves, but there's a lot stories I hear about kids not accepting their parents after they told them when they were over 25.

If I ever have kids I'm going to tell them as soon as they're able to understand it.

[linnea]

Good thing everything turned out alright. It's such a risk at telling people when they're older. Sure your kids aren't exactly old themselves, but there's a lot stories I hear about kids not accepting their parents after they told them when they were over 25.

If I ever have kids I'm going to tell them as soon as they're able to understand it.

There are risks, of course, but when I told my grown children (all in their thirties), it was not only a relief to me but also a wonderful experience. All were quite accepting, curious about how I had keep my secret so long, full of questions, and supportive.
It was a great relief to me to share my crossdressing with them.

[Mary Morgan]

I have found that it is a much bigger deal to us and our spouses, than to anyone else including our much more enlightened children. Congratulations and enjoy.

[MJ]

so i wonder if being a cd = a good cook :D

[RitaCD]

so i wonder if being a cd = a good cook :D

My kids have known for several years that I CD because my ex told them. We have never talked about it. Don't know if CDing has anything to do with it but I am a great cook.

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

When I told them they mentioned they knew about it for 15 years. Both my kids Vicky and Jeffrey, both adults are very supportive of me in my transition process. It was so liberating to finally be out to family and to be accepted to boot. It was a beautiful day for me..Enjoy your future life. Kimberly :battingeyelashes:

[trisha254]

I also told one of my two girls , she was very surprised,She a also said that I should not tell this to my other daughter. I also explained to her that I have not changed in any way that this desirer as been with me all my life ,and I fell it was time for Trish TO BE FREE . Well I tryed to kind about it , she said to me, to watch out but also try to enjoy life.

Trish

[MiraM]

so i wonder if being a cd = a good cook :D

Hmmmm.....I'm a CD and I'm a chef....seems to be a trend here about being a good cook. Of course, it could be just a coincidence.

[cindychan]

That is so cool! Funny thing about being a cd is that it's like being a criminal--we gotta hide the evidence so we don't get caught.

[Laura Evans]

I have yet to come out to my two adult children but if they were to find out I will be open and honest about it. I am also a good cook, hm good question there. Glad it went well for you Tinaashley.

[KarenHiller]

I'm so glad for your sake that it worked out so well. Does that mean you can be dressed in front of them anytime you're in the mood? You might want to discuss that with them so you don't change how they feel about your crossdressing.

Best of luck, Karen

[Xenia]

Isn't it great to see how open-minded and accepting kids tend to be? Makes me optimistic for the future of the world. </sappiness>


so i wonder if being a cd = a good cook :D

Hrmmm......I'm a CD and can't cook anything more complicated than a bowl of Cheerios. I'm such a freak. :)

[TonyaV]

so i wonder if being a cd = a good cook :D

No - I am miserable cook.

[DiannaRose]

Tina, that is so great! I love it when things work out like that! :)

[DanaLynn57]

Very happy for you and I know you are releived...I have 2 children, 24-D and a 21-S...I have yet to come out to them personally but they could know and I dont know it..In my earlier years Im sure I was careless like leaving something on my computer or a piece of clothing laying somewhere that I shouldnt have been....My 2 Sis in laws, 1 bro in law and my mother in law know and nothing has ever changed...If anything my SOs oldest sis and her husband have become even closer since they found out...They dont know that I know they know but its all good...I was sitting and chatting with my daughter today and the thought of telling her actually crossed my mind...

For the record...I dont know cook...I warm things and heat them up but thats not cooking to me....hehe...

DanaLynn

[DiannaRose]

That's funny...I love to cook, and my wife can't stand cooking. I do not like to bake, though. :)

You'd think she could see the advantages to my crossdressing, such as this one. :)

[sherri52]

Tina you lucky girl. It's great that the kids understand, it gives you freedom. Don't abuse it too quickly.

[Samantha Girl]

Congratulations! :)

I feel like younger people are always more accepting of people who are different ;)

[Metoo]

Great that your kids were so accepting. I think it just show the about the relationship you have with your kids. I have a 4 year old and would never consider saying anything to him. He is just young to understand and I am 58 years old, so it might be a long time before he knows or finds out. Maybe he will find before I tell him

[suchacutie]

I'm told I cook very well! Put one more in that column!

tina

[Nicole Erin]

so i wonder if being a cd = a good cook :D
I can berely cook water, I am the worlds worst chef.
Chef Ramsey would be crying and cussing and pooping his panties, turning red and green and purple with anger, curled in the fetal position in the corner acting like a little B**** if he saw my kitchen skills.

And I would go over and kick his ribs a few times and say "Get up you little b**** and quit acting like a girl!"

Then I would toss him outside by the trash and throw him a kleenex so he could wipe his snot boogers while he was deep sobbing cause i suck at cooking...
boy do I hate Ramsey... :Angry3:

wait what wass this thread about?

[karennjcd]

If you have to tell them, probably early 20's is the best. They're out of school, which unfortunately would be a hotbed of ridicule for them if they shared the information with anyone. Early 20's they're usually on their own, and amongst more mature people who can handle and accept the truth, and keep it to themselves if that is what you agree upon.

Karen

[tinaashley]

24 hours in and still great. Overwhelmed by the amount of support from you all. It really re-enforces what a great network we have.
Some affirmation that cooking skills seem high amongst us - although not all.
I haven't dressed yet in front of them but have reconfirmed that they won't have a problem. I've waited all these years so thought I could wait a few days without seeming too eager. This coming weekend is looking to be busy for Tina so we'll see how it goes. I'll keep you all update with their reactions.
Thanks heaps, again.

[Claire Cook]

Hi Tina,

Your kids soud great -- how wonderful. So now Tina's Kitchen will be busy?

Take care,

Claire

[AmiFL]

I just looked at your photo album after reading this thread. I'll bet your children will love to see how beautiful a woman their dad can become. I'd cook them dinner dressed if I were in your shoes..... Have fun with it.

[Angie G]

That's awesome Tina glad it worked out so well for you.I on the other hand just can't bring myself to do that. I just don't know how they handle it. I just think it would not be all that good and I wish not to find out.Now you go girl.:hugs:
Angie

[tonixd]

To quote Mrs. Doubtfire

Honey, I'm so happy!!!!!

:bighug2:

[Lorileah]

Great lesson and reinforcement Tina. So many here are afraid of what they believe in their minds will happen. You know your children better than anyone else. So my thought is the people who don't know how their children will react, really don't know their children. Did they raise them to be cynical, narrow minded, bigoted people? Did they, when confronted with someone with a different point of view or look whisper "stay away from them, we don't want you to get whatever they have."? or did you tell your children, 'they just have a different lifestyle or outlook on life. Isn't that interesting to you?"

Steven Stills wrote "Teach your children well." Wouldn't the world be a better place if we didn't reinforce stereotypes and prejudices?

[Brandi Wyne]

If any of you have read my comments, you know I have a very unaccepting and unknowing SO. A number of months ago our older daughter came to live with us. At some point she saw, by accident, me in panties, bra and nylons. I was getting dresed for work (I under-dress) and the door to the bedrroom was open. She had said something from the other room and I replied that I didn't hear her and to speak up. She walked in to tell me again and there I was.

She was not only cool with it but wanted us to dress together, do makeup together and go out together. We did all the above at one time or another. The other day she said she didn't have clean panties to wear and could she borrow a pair of mine for the day till she did wash. Well, it all goes well with her but her brothers are a different matter. The younger son MIGHT be able to work with it but the older son as a lot of preconceived ideas about men and me in particular. I'm not looking forward to that discussion or the one that will come between my wife and me.

Mickey

[tinaashley]

I have been out several times now as Tina with kids seeing me each time. All is well. They have both asked if they can come and join in the upcoming Pride March and also attend Midsumma Festival with Tina later this month.
This really is better than I could have imagined in my wildest dreams. I also Skyped my sister last week and my nephew walked in her room and saw Tina on the screen. He didn't have a problem either and said its up to me to do what I want.
Seems like I have a very well accepting and adjusted family.
Its great that I can have all my wigs on display, have my make-up laid out, etc.. Bought some flat shoes today after trying them on in boy mode - ready for the Pride March - heard too many stories of aching feet on the march!! Love being Tina.

[Bethany38]

Tina It is like a million tons coming off the shoulders. At least it was for me. My wife and I told our thirteen yr. old this past summer. He did great with the whole thing. Anyhow Congratulations and may Tina come out whenever she pleases.:D

[Paula Siemen]

I'm pretty sure my son knows I crossdress. He and his cousin used to go through my closet when they were in jr high school (looking and finding my porn vcrs). I don't know how they could have missed my clothes and "stuff". I've never openly mentioned it to them though nor they to me.

I can cook pretty well. If my wife would just let me dress enfem when I do so I would be so happy.

Bon Appetite!

Paula