Crossdressing and alcohol abuse

[ramona203]

Hi was just wondering how many of us cders have experience with alcohol abuse and did the abuse seem to stop or reduce when the cder was able to spend more time as a woman?

[emmicd]

I never was interested in drinking alcohol but I am predisposed to the disease of alcoholism because my dad battled with this for many years. Thank God he has been sober for the past 15 years but it is always a struggle. He has had a wonderful but also a very tough life. I love and respect my dad very very much!

I guess my obsessive-compulsive behavior could be stemmed from that. Hence that is why I crossdress. Instead of the bottle I went for the dresses.

I am an ACOA. (Adult Child of Alcoholic)

Emmi

[Toyah]

Very good point, I do drink a little too much, not the hard stuff but beer. I find it makes life more tolerable and myself less irratable. Does dressing stop it, nope guess I am a mixed up guy and chick, it dulls the pain and makes the night easyer.Ok thats enough of that next subject please. Do I drink to excess, I do not think so, I have known a lot of people that could drink me under the table and drink stuff you would not believe, does that make me happy, no but here I am.

[Amelie]

What about CDing and drug abuse, some of us don't like the taste of alcohol.

There must be some crack Cds out there,,,,besides me....

[JayeEdgar]

I did abuse alcohol on my first venture out, as I related in the following post to another thread:

About 3 months after I bought my first set of women's clothes, foundation garments, heels, a wig, and a beginning makeup set, I ran into a "sister" online from my area who asked if I would like to meet her and a friend of hers at a local bar at 8:00 pm that night. I was ecstatic--my first time to be able to go out and meet other crossdressers.

I dressed, and applied my makeup, and drove to the bar, arriving a few minutes before 8:00. Being excited, I was not able to eat much before I went, but screwing up my courage I went into the bar (which was transgender friendly) and sat at the bar, playing a video game and sipping a cocktail, waiting for them to arrive. 8:00 became 8:30--no one had shown, so I ordered another drink, and continued to play. 8:30 became 9:00--still no one. Not wanting to miss the chance, I waited some more. At 9:15 they showed up--we introduced ourselves, and had another round of drinks.

My adrenalin was coursing through my veins--we sat and chatted, had yet another round of drinks, and then, suddenly, it was closing time.

I headed home. Apparently, I dosed off at the wheel--had a collision, totalled my car, and woke the next morning in a cell in the local jail, having been mugged and fingerprinted while en femme.

I had my license suspended, paid a hefty fine, lost my insurance coverage, and spent 12 weeks in classes to regain my privilege to drive.

Indeed I do remember my first time totally en femme--and should I ever want a memento of the occasion, somewhere there is a mugshot of me for me to treasure.

Nevertheless, I persevered, though now I do not drink anything other than soft drinks or coffee when I am out, and I have enjoyed every one of my subsequent ventures out

I found that abusing alcohol could severely hamper my chances to enjoy my crossdressing to the fullest (loss of driver's license and car, and loss of disposable income by paying the fine, for example) and decided that giving up the drinking was not too great a sacrifice to continue being able to enjoy going out.

[Clare]

Can't say that alchohol abuse, or any other substance for that matter, has been a part of my little world.

I have always tried to use rationale to cope with my XDR'ing, but it didn't work as i always ended up a confused emotional wreck!

Somehow, i've always got by on my own without the need for any form of reliance on 'substances'.

Christine

[Adrianne]

Hi was just wondering how many of us cders have experience with alcohol abuse and did the abuse seem to stop or reduce when the cder was able to spend more time as a woman?

No alcohol abuse for me.

Adrianne.

[Wendy me]

oh for shure for a long time i think wendy was too drunk to crawl out of the closet
when you buy j.d. by the case yes it might show that a slight drinking problme is abought.. now yes i still drink but not every day and mostly i don't drink to get all drunk but every now and then yes it cleans out the cob webs........

[MichelleGray502]

I use to drink on weekends only and sometimes th' occasional drink during th' week but never did ever had a problem with alchol dress femm or not. my farther told over and over again that it was alright to have a few drinks but (1) never drink and drive and i never did and (2) don't let ruin or control your life and it never either. However there was a couple of minor incidents over th' years but it was only minor not serious that it would effected me' life at all. To simplfied everything alcohol never effected me' life at all cause i never let it happen.

I don't drink anymore i quit about 10 year ago, 'coz it was getting a little to expensive for 'me likings and just didn't want to do it anymore. and like i said above that's 'th only reason why i don't.

[Sharon]

Never abused alcohol because of a family history of alcoholism (neither of my parents, but many aunts, uncles, grandparents, and cousins), but I did have problems with assorted narcotics (coke, acid, ludes, pot, uppers, downers, you name it) in my younger years. And I believe that it was directly connected with my crossdressing and the mental anguish I put myself through because of it.
Whether or not I was able to dress at any particular time didn't seem to have much of an effect on whether I got high or not. The guilt and depression I felt never seemed to waver until I straightened myself out and decided to stay that way and when I slowly (very slowly) began to accept myself for who I am.

[StephanieCD]

I dance on the line between alcoholism and social drinker. Drinking runs in the family so I'm sorta cautious about it - though I didn't used to be.

I find that the more I drink (drinking more these days) the more likely I am to want to dress... I like to "play" when I'm "silly".

[Tristen Cox]

I drank for a very short period of my life when I was fifteen to seventeen. Drugs I have a lot more practice in. However I started crossdressing long before either of them. So technically perhaps the crossdressing caused me to want to do those evil things(which I believe there is some truth to). But alcohol was not a big enough factor in my life to cause anything but some physical damage at an early age due to excessive drinking over that short time. Either way I have been clean and tightened up for going on a year now, and it feels damn good. :)

[Julie]

Drugs, alcohol, crossdressing (for those inclined) are all stress relievers but only CDing causes no damage to the body, unless you prance around in front of a bunch of rednecks and heckle them. :rolleyes:

I found once my ex moved out my stress levels dramatically diminished. It's not because I can dress whenever I want now but because of other unrelated things. When the stress levels declined my desire to drink almost stopped completely. I realized I had been drinking as a form of self medication, to get away from an unhappy marriage. When I'm dressed I'm content and pretty much stress free. So I'd say drinking and dressing don't go hand in hand for me. I drink when I go out dressed but it's more because I feel I should partonize the places that welcome me dressed. But there have been times all I did was drink water all night. But I made sure to tip the bartender.;)

[racquel]

I started drinking early in life(father an alcoholic,binge drinker)every function involved alcohol.
I prided myself on the fact I only drank when with someone or when alone.
After entering the military I was surprise to find that there was lots about drinking I had to learn,(I was a good learner)
I cross dressed the whole time drunk or sober so I don't believe it causes or affects the inner femininity we crave to portray +?

[messygurl]

I must admit that getting really piss drunk whilst dressed is fun fun fun. Sorry.

[Trinity_cat]

What about CDing and drug abuse, some of us don't like the taste of alcohol.

There must be some crack Cds out there,,,,besides me....
No matter how drunk I may get, I would never abuse a CD.
Cracked or otherwise, no matter how much they begged.

[Tristen Cox]

No matter how drunk I may get, I would never abuse a CD.
Cracked or otherwise, no matter how much they begged.
...and that's pretty drunk too:D Just say no to cracked CDs

[CharleneCD]

I had serious drug and alcohol problems from my teens to about 22 yrs of age. The problems were serious enough to get me locked up for a bit of time. While I clant blame my dressing for my problems because I didnt even know I was a CD at the time. What I can say is that having to repress the feminine part of myself did contribute. I started drinking and using drugs in an attempt to fit in. I found that while they didnt help me fit in they took away my inner pain and I didnt care whether I fit in or not. It finaly progressed to where I was spendig most of my time high and having to sell drugs to be able to afford my habit.

This Sptember I will mark fifteen years clean and sober.

[eileen1969]

hi hun and ty for bringing this up! I have always came out when I was very intoxicated! sadly that hurted my very existance....painful times they where for during that time. Not healthy for a girl! I am an alcoholic and addict! I can share this with all! and not be afraid of who or what I done to me....Alcohol as well drugs kill if it has you in its grips! Not all understand it power! and most can actually handle thier substances....I for one cannot! it can't be just one for me!
Those substances killed me for 2 mins! a major stroke and then nearly bleed to death! all within a year upon coming out! Its important that one has proper supports in place! I do and today I am clean and sober for a little over 5 months! :dance: :clap: :cheer: :Power: I thank god for my female side that was able to persevere over traumatic circumstances! and be here today to share my expereince stregth and hope for those who do struggle with alcohol and drugs! God Bless and I love you all Eileenxoxo

[paulaN]

yes I abused alcohol for a very long time. I was realy bad the last ten years or so. it was running my life and I did not even know it. I am so happy to say that I have now been sober for almost two years. life is good, and I am much happier. I do not want to ever go back to that way of life. I do belive that my dressing was a factor in my drinking. Not the only factor but a big part of it. Trying to dull the pain of beeing a dresser. thank god for this forum and others like it. I am no longer the only person in the world who likes to wear womans clothes. I have come to terms with that fact, and accept it. I no longer have to hide in a bottle.Now if I could just dress more often. If there is anyone who want's to talk more on the subject of alcoholism PM me any time. let the hand AA always be there for anyone struggling with Alcohol. also I'd like to say to all you gals that have struggled with drug addiction or alcohol abuse and have gotten straight.CONGRATS and keep up the good work. hugs to ya all.