Sophia Rearen
07-31-2005, 10:28 AM
Hi girls,
Yesterday was my 42nd birthday. Originally, we had planned to go away for the weekend but we decided to stay home. As part of the agreement to stay home I asked my wife for fantasy birthday sex. Her response was she was affraid that she would disappoint me.
Anyway, the point of this thread is how we communicate with our wives / SO's. We went out to dinner at an Italian restaraunt that we frequent, I endrab, she, dressed in a long lime green dress with a layer tank top underneath. She looked beautiful and I made a point to repeat it several times during the night. We talked and talked about friendships, children, this and that. There were teary eyes every now and then from each of us. We split a nice bottle of red wine. I felt different though in our conversation, I made it about her. We moved from the restaraunt to an outside bar and continued our conversation. The summer evening was perfect. This was turning out to be a truly romantic experience. Here and there I would interject some of my feelings as a crossdresser. She knows of this side of me and understands it but has not really supported it until last night.
As we talked I didn't want to jam the crossdressing subject done her throat, but of course, I did want to talk about. I told her how I was lucky because I can indentify my feelings and experiences and learn and grow from them. I told her that I am glad that I told her about this side of me and that I will continue to be open with her. I mentioned that it is my intention to have our relationship grow and never become stagnant, that I intended her to be my best friend and true soulmate. She was gracious while listening to me and told me all she ever wanted is for me to be happy. She now knows that I have this need to express myself and she is ok with this. So after more than 2 years after coming out to her I now believe I have a supportive wife and I am greatfull for that. Happy birthday to me!
It's communication skills, girls, I could have made the conversation all about me especially because it was my day. However, I took what I have learned here in this forum and from the times I have been enfemme with GG's and applied those female communcation skills with my dearest. Thank you, for the brain sex thread we both took the test yesterday and we both scored the same, 25% male. I am so lucky to have her. If any of my sisters are looking for the right moment to talk with your wife / SO, may I suggest your birthday, it is your day. Be honest, be kind, be a good listener, and most importantly as we talked about last night be yourself. How many times have we heard that? How many of us actually do it? It's hard to do!
We where supposed to visit friends later but I couldn't wait to get her home. I was so turned on :). She met me in bed, I in my new white bra and black VS panties, bangles, and chandelier earrings. She wanted to know why I was so "girly"? My response, simply, because I want to be "Girly". Did I get my birthday fantasy sex? No, but I did let her get her nedds met (apparently she was just as turned on as I) and I was totally content and ok with that. I am part female, I do except that and will encourage this from now forward and life is good. Hope this helps someone. :love:
Yours,
Yesterday was my 42nd birthday. Originally, we had planned to go away for the weekend but we decided to stay home. As part of the agreement to stay home I asked my wife for fantasy birthday sex. Her response was she was affraid that she would disappoint me.
Anyway, the point of this thread is how we communicate with our wives / SO's. We went out to dinner at an Italian restaraunt that we frequent, I endrab, she, dressed in a long lime green dress with a layer tank top underneath. She looked beautiful and I made a point to repeat it several times during the night. We talked and talked about friendships, children, this and that. There were teary eyes every now and then from each of us. We split a nice bottle of red wine. I felt different though in our conversation, I made it about her. We moved from the restaraunt to an outside bar and continued our conversation. The summer evening was perfect. This was turning out to be a truly romantic experience. Here and there I would interject some of my feelings as a crossdresser. She knows of this side of me and understands it but has not really supported it until last night.
As we talked I didn't want to jam the crossdressing subject done her throat, but of course, I did want to talk about. I told her how I was lucky because I can indentify my feelings and experiences and learn and grow from them. I told her that I am glad that I told her about this side of me and that I will continue to be open with her. I mentioned that it is my intention to have our relationship grow and never become stagnant, that I intended her to be my best friend and true soulmate. She was gracious while listening to me and told me all she ever wanted is for me to be happy. She now knows that I have this need to express myself and she is ok with this. So after more than 2 years after coming out to her I now believe I have a supportive wife and I am greatfull for that. Happy birthday to me!
It's communication skills, girls, I could have made the conversation all about me especially because it was my day. However, I took what I have learned here in this forum and from the times I have been enfemme with GG's and applied those female communcation skills with my dearest. Thank you, for the brain sex thread we both took the test yesterday and we both scored the same, 25% male. I am so lucky to have her. If any of my sisters are looking for the right moment to talk with your wife / SO, may I suggest your birthday, it is your day. Be honest, be kind, be a good listener, and most importantly as we talked about last night be yourself. How many times have we heard that? How many of us actually do it? It's hard to do!
We where supposed to visit friends later but I couldn't wait to get her home. I was so turned on :). She met me in bed, I in my new white bra and black VS panties, bangles, and chandelier earrings. She wanted to know why I was so "girly"? My response, simply, because I want to be "Girly". Did I get my birthday fantasy sex? No, but I did let her get her nedds met (apparently she was just as turned on as I) and I was totally content and ok with that. I am part female, I do except that and will encourage this from now forward and life is good. Hope this helps someone. :love:
Yours,