question about resources for teens

[tamela bell]

OK, so here is the deal.my wife finaly decided to tell her 14(almost 15) year old daughter. two days ago my wife sat her daughter down and told her that someone in the family was a crossdresser, her first response was that she already knew who it was and that it didnt matter.the daughter is not quite ready to see me dressed yet and we are not pushing the subject with her (going to let her deal with it in her own time). we are however looking for some resourses (books, dvd's, pamphlets etc) that might help her in her understanding a little better. does any one have any suggestions? she is already quite knowledgable about the subject.

[alexis GG]

Hi Charlene I don't know about pamphlets and the like but I have found some links that you may want to check out before passing onto your daughter.. these might help

http://www.gendercentre.org.au/cross_dressing_information.htm

http://www.lauras-playground.com/support_index.htm

I'm sorry its only 2 links that I have found but they seemed more appropriate for your daughter... but please check them before you pass them onto your daughter.. Hope they help

Also I think you are doing the right thing in in letting her digest the info... My kids read a magazine arictle about crossdressing before they found out that their stepdad was a crossdresser, and they asked me loads of questions, which I happily answered ... and they are totally fine with him and his dressing... though they have never seen him dressed... but they accept that he likes wearing girls clothes sometimes. I think communication will be the key with her at this early stage regardless of how much she is aware of cd'ing

[giuseppina]

Here's another from the UK:

http://www.mermaidsuk.org.uk/

The usual books are

My husband wears my clothes by Peggy Rudd and other titles by this author. Don't know if these are appropriate for your daughter

My husband betty

others available on Amazon.

[DeeInGeorgia]

Colage - Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere.
http://www.colage.org/programs/trans/

It has a Kids of Trans segment run by Monica Canfield-Lenfest, an adult child of trans. They have a resource guide, transition tips for parents going the full route and a Resources link.

I printed out a copy of the guide for my kids, but they were not interested in it.

Dee

[Joanne f]

Personally myself i would not bother with books and things that someone else has wrote as i feel that each person is an individual so when you decide to talk to her, talk about how you feel and what it means for you .

[Kate Simmons]

I believe Renaissance and Tri-Ess and probably other TG Orgs. have resourse material for things of this nature but I also agree with what Joanne said as well.:)

[lingerieLiz]

If she is already quite knowledgeable about the subject she may not need additional books or materials. She said she knew and you indicated that she is not ready to see you dressed. Give her time and don't push the subject which is what you would be doing with the books. Her feelings may never accept seeing you dressed. Give her some room for awhile. When and if she is ready she will let you know.

[Larissa Philips]

http://www.amazon.com/Coping-Crossdressing-Joann-Roberts/dp/1880715120

It covers the whole range of family dynamics.

The author is also a PhD, so, I guess that makes her an authority figure? lol

[eluuzion]

Here is a link to the site map page that contains a myriad of resources, links, psychological issues, etc. Scroll down through the index and you will find some help specific to your challenge.

http://www.tsroadmap.com/index.html

being honest always works well..."kids" are much more accepting than you realize.

[karennjcd]

One thing for Tamela to remember is that she is not the biological father of this teenage girl. I am sure the girl would handle this a lot differently if this were her dad.

Karen

[gretchen_love]

I recently wrote a paper about transgenderism in America. Here is my list of sources. Hope it helps.

Body, N. O. Memoirs of a Man's Maiden Years.
Califia, Pat, and Patrick Califia-Rice. Sex Changes The Politics of Transgenderism.
Cromwell, Jason. Transmen & FTMs: Identities, Bodies, Genders & Sexualities.
Ekins, Richard, and Dave King. The Transgender Phenomenon.
Feinberg, Leslie. Transgender Warriors Making History from Joan of Arc to Dennis Rodman.
"International Two Spirit Gathering - Background & Recent developments in Two-Spirit organizing." International Two Spirit Gathering - Home.
Rudacille, Deborah. The Riddle of Gender Science, Activism, and Transgender Rights.
Talamini, John T. Boys Will be Girls: The Hidden World of the Heterosexual Male Transvestite.
Weiss, Andrea, and Greta Schiller. Before Stonewall: the Making of a Gay and Lesbian Community.