My new confidence.

[Schatten Lupus]

I decided to post this here, since I do not identify as a cross-dresser, but rather a transgender woman.
But when considering transition, I have always been very self conscious about my size. Depending on where I'm measured, it can range from 6'0'' (the Navy) 6'4" (BMV) up to 6'6" (A few places), I have a large frame, and am considered large by male standards. This has always haunted, and probably always will. At my last job, wearing a unisex uniform, I got called "ma'am" several times, which helped, but it made me feel better. But today me and my fiance were out shopping, and over the limit for a few items that were on sale. I took these items to a different register so we could get the extra ones. I was totally in male mode today, not even trying at all to pass today. I was wearing a Slipknot shirt, denim jeans, and my leather trench coat that has some mileage on it. But when the guy directing customers to open u-scan lanes pointed out an open one to me, I got the most unexpected "ma'am" ever. He corrected himself once I got closer and he could see I haven't shaved in a few days, but for the first time in a few weeks, I have really felt good. It gives me hope that maybe I just might be able to pass on a regular basis, despite my large size.
I felt like sharing this. I've had a fairly hard time this past month, and this was something, even though small, that has made me feel tons better.

[pamela_a]

Forget the height issue. I'm around 6'4" and hear "you're a tall woman" regularly

I recently read that 2-3% of Amearican women are now over 6' tall.

What finally made me understand and stop worrying about it was when I realized I could go to a store and buy pants or a skirt that fit and looked nice on me. At that point I realized that there must be a lot of other women my size out there or they wouldn't make them.

Just be proud of who you are.

[MAJESTYK]

I am large as well, about 5'10" and have quite the large frame. I just dont let it bother me. It can be a little un-nerving at times but, just be you. And take the compiments for what they are, it makes you feel great!

[Hope]

I'm 6'2 (everywhere) and I have had the same concerns. I have had a couple of experiences lately that have changed my mind about the possibility of blending in - if not passing.

After an appointment with my therapist (in which we talked about size issues) I stopped at the grocery store on the way home, and bumped into a woman who was at least 6'4; and definitely not one of us.

I bought a pair of jeans from Newport News not too long ago, and while I ordered the talls... they are an inch or two on the long side... there has to be a female population buying these if they are mass producing them.

I was in a mall about 6-8 weeks ago, getting my ears pierced, and wondering why I bother - loathing myself thinking I would never be able to pass or blend in no matter what I do... and while I was there - I saw 4-5 women who were at least as tall as I am.

There are plenty of tall girls out there. We are not complete anomalies. Will we draw attention? Yes. Are we unusual? Yes. (What else is new?) Is it our altitude that will keep us from passing? Not a chance.

[Teri Jean]

I too am 6-3 and in my early stages of transitioning. I work at a university in amongst the athletic and sports departments and the number of tall women is so reasuring. Do not think it is a problem but a way to be seen. Stand tall and hold your head high for you are woman!

Teri

[Schatten Lupus]

Two of my fiance's friends are also quite tall. The one my fiance used to call an amazon, and the other one she just met isn't much smaller than me.
It has just done wonder for my spirits, especially with all the emotional stress I've been under lately, to have some stranger say "Excuse me, ma'am."

[Violetgray]

Depending on where I'm measured, it can range from 6'0'' (the Navy) 6'4" (BMV) up to 6'6" (A few places),

So wait, depending on where you go they give you a height variation of 6 inches? How can that be? It's not like size and weight, which can all change dramatically in a relatively short span.

Anyway, I know someone who transitioned who is over six feet, and my goodness you cannot tell she passes ridiculously well. So take heart, it can be done!!!

[Byanca]

I'm 6.1. Guys usually ignore me. Women tend to look me straight in the eyes.

So I'm spotted, but it's like they dont know what to think. Sometimes it's like if eyes could kill I'd be stone dead.

My frame is tiny though. Yesterday at a gay pub(my first visit), a 21 year old girl, hormones by 3 years, came to me and talked to me(first time ever meeting someone like me, gave me her phone number, said I should call her). She was very pretty. I could not have picked her out. She told me she could tell because my thighs where slimmer. (very short dress...). I think that was a white lie. Since the heels on my boots made me about 6.5. Even regular girls dont pass very well at this altitude I think. But seriously did not care yesterday(quite drunk as well). 1 regular girl hugged me, like out of no ware, and saying, wow, you are so cool. And another, very pretty, tall, STARED, 1m away. I could not take it, and had to look away. Another talked to me at the bar. Asking about my self. Guys just looked, a few where rude, one touched me. One sent me like a air kiss, that made me look really quickly away. But no connections there at all.

In short. I fit in with the chicks more then with the guys. Even if I am tall.

[Schatten Lupus]

So wait, depending on where you go they give you a height variation of 6 inches? How can that be? It's not like size and weight, which can all change dramatically in a relatively short span.
I don't know, but it happens. I think I'm closer to 6'0'', maybe an inch or two taller, since I noticed I stand about the same height as a 6 foot ladder.