Lorileah
12-23-2009, 01:24 AM
They say that the best part of banging your head against the wall is when you realize how good it feels when you stop. I reached that point.
You see I thought it was all about being accepted and respected for who you are. I thought that was the goal. I was wrong. And I have found out that I could not possibly understand.
It has been suggested that since I am not a member of a certain group, then I should not promote getting rights and respect for that group because I could not possibly understand what people in that group feel. They are correct, I don't know what they feel, but I do know when I se them being kept apart and not having rights that I should step in. Well I did. But maybe not anymore. My head hurts. It hurts because I thought maybe I could be a voice. Maybe I could make a small difference. Silly of me isn't it? What can one person do? Especially when the majority ofthe people who you are trying to stand up for don't really want your support. Don't rock the boat. Don't make waves.
As transgenders you put yourself in a minority situation. Now no one logically would want to do that, so we make the point that "we" have something that makes us be in this group. But you can't use certain facilities in some areas. If you are a TS in some states you cannot marry a man even after you have SRS OR you can't stay married to your female spouse. Some places can fire you for being TG or not hire you. The original ENDA law didn't include you. So I say we need a voice. I am told, "don't tell me what to do". I don't see how blending into the wall paper will get anyone equal footing but if that is what the majority wants, it is a democracy. So, OK. The light came on. I am in a situation where I have little to worry about. I can marry. I can get benefits for my spouse. I can get a loan, a car, a boat. I can go to PTA meetings. I have it good. I can pretty much do what I like. But I am told that since I am not a member of a group I should not fight for their rights because I "would not understand".
So I won't. At least for a few days until I see that someone isn't getting a fair deal, then I'll probably jump back in. But I still won't understand.
You see I thought it was all about being accepted and respected for who you are. I thought that was the goal. I was wrong. And I have found out that I could not possibly understand.
It has been suggested that since I am not a member of a certain group, then I should not promote getting rights and respect for that group because I could not possibly understand what people in that group feel. They are correct, I don't know what they feel, but I do know when I se them being kept apart and not having rights that I should step in. Well I did. But maybe not anymore. My head hurts. It hurts because I thought maybe I could be a voice. Maybe I could make a small difference. Silly of me isn't it? What can one person do? Especially when the majority ofthe people who you are trying to stand up for don't really want your support. Don't rock the boat. Don't make waves.
As transgenders you put yourself in a minority situation. Now no one logically would want to do that, so we make the point that "we" have something that makes us be in this group. But you can't use certain facilities in some areas. If you are a TS in some states you cannot marry a man even after you have SRS OR you can't stay married to your female spouse. Some places can fire you for being TG or not hire you. The original ENDA law didn't include you. So I say we need a voice. I am told, "don't tell me what to do". I don't see how blending into the wall paper will get anyone equal footing but if that is what the majority wants, it is a democracy. So, OK. The light came on. I am in a situation where I have little to worry about. I can marry. I can get benefits for my spouse. I can get a loan, a car, a boat. I can go to PTA meetings. I have it good. I can pretty much do what I like. But I am told that since I am not a member of a group I should not fight for their rights because I "would not understand".
So I won't. At least for a few days until I see that someone isn't getting a fair deal, then I'll probably jump back in. But I still won't understand.