pamela_a
12-27-2009, 05:17 PM
Christmas is over and my house is quiet again. My daughter, son-in-law, and granddaughter have headed home and my son is off with friends.
Due to bad weather, my daughter and her family came up Christmas Eve day instead of Christmas day. My daughter said she had to be here since it was the first Christmas after my wife died. When they arrived my daughter and granddaughter decorated my tree and did a beautiful job of it. Of course my kitties liked it too and proceeded to play with the ornaments and climb the tree.
Christmas Day dawned bright and snowy and my poor granddaughter (who will be 5 in May) was sad. There were no presents under the tree. She never looked behind it which is where Santa put them to keep the kitties out of them. Once she found them everything was better.
After she was dressed I remarked about how pretty she looked in her new dress. I'm not sure how it happened but she ended up going through my closet and picking out a dress for me to wear for the day. I wore it for a while then told her I had to change, I wasn't going to spend half the day cooking while wearing it and take the chance of ruining it.
During the course of the day I learned some friends were not able to make it to their grandmother's for Christmas so they came over also. My son-in-law's brother of course came over as did my brother in law and his girl friend. Add my son and 1 or 2 of his friends and the house was full. I was sure glad I prepared and had enough food. I made a 13# spiced bourbon turkey and thankfully I had a 7# ham too.
It was so nice to just spend the day with friends and family. Being with family and friends is truly what not just this season but everyday should be all about. It was even more special for me since this was Pam's first Christmas and although not everyone called me Pam, there were a few who did which made it all the more special.
The only sad part was finding out about my brother in law. The week after my wife (his sister) died he was diagnosed with mesothelioma. I found out last night it's metastasized into his lymph system already and the doctors are only giving him 1 or 2 years.
Looking back this year has been an unbelievable roller coaster. From the emotional highs of finally starting my transition to the utter depths of sadness as I buried my wife, friend, and partner of over 26 years and nearly everything in between.
I talk to , hear, and read about about others who's family and friends have turned them away and my heart goes out to them and I realize just how much I have been blessed by not only having my family and friends but by the many wonderful people I've met in groups and a trans book club as well as the ones online here.
I'm looking ahead to next year when I plan to see the end of my transition and the beginning of a mundane life of being just another woman in the world.
Due to bad weather, my daughter and her family came up Christmas Eve day instead of Christmas day. My daughter said she had to be here since it was the first Christmas after my wife died. When they arrived my daughter and granddaughter decorated my tree and did a beautiful job of it. Of course my kitties liked it too and proceeded to play with the ornaments and climb the tree.
Christmas Day dawned bright and snowy and my poor granddaughter (who will be 5 in May) was sad. There were no presents under the tree. She never looked behind it which is where Santa put them to keep the kitties out of them. Once she found them everything was better.
After she was dressed I remarked about how pretty she looked in her new dress. I'm not sure how it happened but she ended up going through my closet and picking out a dress for me to wear for the day. I wore it for a while then told her I had to change, I wasn't going to spend half the day cooking while wearing it and take the chance of ruining it.
During the course of the day I learned some friends were not able to make it to their grandmother's for Christmas so they came over also. My son-in-law's brother of course came over as did my brother in law and his girl friend. Add my son and 1 or 2 of his friends and the house was full. I was sure glad I prepared and had enough food. I made a 13# spiced bourbon turkey and thankfully I had a 7# ham too.
It was so nice to just spend the day with friends and family. Being with family and friends is truly what not just this season but everyday should be all about. It was even more special for me since this was Pam's first Christmas and although not everyone called me Pam, there were a few who did which made it all the more special.
The only sad part was finding out about my brother in law. The week after my wife (his sister) died he was diagnosed with mesothelioma. I found out last night it's metastasized into his lymph system already and the doctors are only giving him 1 or 2 years.
Looking back this year has been an unbelievable roller coaster. From the emotional highs of finally starting my transition to the utter depths of sadness as I buried my wife, friend, and partner of over 26 years and nearly everything in between.
I talk to , hear, and read about about others who's family and friends have turned them away and my heart goes out to them and I realize just how much I have been blessed by not only having my family and friends but by the many wonderful people I've met in groups and a trans book club as well as the ones online here.
I'm looking ahead to next year when I plan to see the end of my transition and the beginning of a mundane life of being just another woman in the world.