lycra shimmer
01-09-2010, 09:43 AM
reading the posts here you quickly realize that crossdressing is a diverse phenomenon that means lots of different things to lots of different people. nevertheless, there are some common patterns and one the most prominent is passing. this seems for many to be the 'gold standard' of crossdressing, and that makes a certain amount of sense since the objective of many crossdressers is actually to be seen as women.
but i'm wondering about crossdressers like me who really don't care about passing and don't try. technically i'm still a crossdresser because i wear women's clothes and enjoy doing it; it's an expression of who i am. but i don't think of myself as a woman and thus i don't really feel a burning need to 'pass' as one. in fact, for me, obsessing over passing imposes a burden that robs the joy of what i'm doing when i crossdress. i like to incorporate women's clothing into a femme presentation of myself, but i definitely don't care about going the whole nine yards with passing. it seems like a separate world to me.
i should probably say that i'm gay, so i think that when i go out crossdressed it's perhaps easier for me to see what i'm doing as part of a 'sissy fag' identity that i'm playing with under the umbrella of my gayness, and so i don't mind if most people who see me see me as 'gay' even though (1) most crossdressers are str8 and (2) i am admittedly reinforcing stereotypes about gay men that still persist in the minds of many (i.e. they wear women's clothes).
still i find crossdressing as a gay man very liberating and fulfilling, probably because i (and i'm only speaking for myself) feel that it allows me to express a dimension of my gayness. maybe this is why i don't care about passing! seems i just answered my own question! but i'll post anyway. thanks girls!
but i'm wondering about crossdressers like me who really don't care about passing and don't try. technically i'm still a crossdresser because i wear women's clothes and enjoy doing it; it's an expression of who i am. but i don't think of myself as a woman and thus i don't really feel a burning need to 'pass' as one. in fact, for me, obsessing over passing imposes a burden that robs the joy of what i'm doing when i crossdress. i like to incorporate women's clothing into a femme presentation of myself, but i definitely don't care about going the whole nine yards with passing. it seems like a separate world to me.
i should probably say that i'm gay, so i think that when i go out crossdressed it's perhaps easier for me to see what i'm doing as part of a 'sissy fag' identity that i'm playing with under the umbrella of my gayness, and so i don't mind if most people who see me see me as 'gay' even though (1) most crossdressers are str8 and (2) i am admittedly reinforcing stereotypes about gay men that still persist in the minds of many (i.e. they wear women's clothes).
still i find crossdressing as a gay man very liberating and fulfilling, probably because i (and i'm only speaking for myself) feel that it allows me to express a dimension of my gayness. maybe this is why i don't care about passing! seems i just answered my own question! but i'll post anyway. thanks girls!