Anything to prove?

[Kate Simmons]

When it comes to being your femme self, do you feel you have anything to prove to others or yourself? Or are you content with just being yourself? What is your point and purpose for coming to sites like this?

[theresa]

Hi Denise,

For me, I don't feel as I have anything to prove, but rather, want to IMprove.

There is so much to learn about in what we do and so few genuinely excellent resources such as crossdressers.com. For me, I am trying to do the best I can to emulate the woman I'd like to be. I think I also have a much better appreciation of what genetic females go through in their lives and understand that I cannot (nor would want to) experience all the trials and tribulations that they experience.

[Karren H]

Nothing to prove.... And I just like to hear myself talk mainly! :)

[sherri52]

I'm content with just being myself. I come here for support and friendship of others with similar feelings and attitudes. We are one.

[Kathi Lake]

Thinking about it, yes, I do have something to prove when I go out. I prove to to others that I am a normal, responsible member of society and not some sick freak. I want to prove to other women that I have the right to dress just as cute as they do (and look smashing doing it! :)). I am also proving to myself that I can do this - I can get out there, dressed just as I like, and have fun in that world.

As to why I'm here, I enjoy both the support of like-minded individuals, and providing support to others. I enjoy helping others (my wife calls me The Boy Scout), and letting them know that all of the adventures that I have are quite easily within their grasp as well. Also, I love to talk (in case you hadn't noticed yet :)). Like my daughter, if I didn't talk, I would explode. "Talking" here allows me to say my stories, sing my songs and share my life with my friends here.

Kathi

[NathalieX66]

I feel the need to prove to people that there's another side of me.
I have a number of friends that already know. ;-)

[AllieSF]

Karren said it perfectly!

[Joanne f]

I am just content to be myself, i think my purpose of being on this site has changed from it`s original purpose as things have developed or not developed depending on which way you look at it .

[Kerigirl2009]

I come to this site to validate my existance. Without this site I am just existing in my mind. By posting here I am existing in your mind. Plus this site can give you insight in what we can and shouldn't do. A support group is a wonderful thing to have in your corner. :)

[Jess]

I am becoming content with myself, thanks largely to sites such as this. I went a good number of years not sharing my secret with anybody. I was just so certain that there was something wrong with me. I had even completely repressed it for a few years now, but because of this site, and a couple of others like it, I was able to discuss it with my wife. She is so wonderful. She doesn't really get it yet, but I guess I really don't either. Despite a lack of understanding, she has shown support to the level that she took me out shopping for clothes (I got rid of the last of mine a while back), and even helped me shave my legs. I can't even express how excited I was when she took me to Victoria's Secret, the very day after I told her. Sorry, I didn't mean to ramble on like that.:o

[jenna_woods]

I have nothing to prove, I enjoy this site because I still have a lot to learn and its nice to know I am not alone,

[Rachel05]

For me coming to a site like this is to share with like minded people, sharing experience and advice after years of thinking I was weird for being like this, the weird was way back when and if I had this site then it would have been easier to live with my dressing.

Now I am happy with me, I am not alone and Ilike the easy going nature of this site, but I want to prove nothing to no one, including me, I just want to be me and be happy with it, which I am pleased to say I am

[Charleen]

I originally came here after searching CD sites and this popped up thankfully. Through this site I learned I am not a freak. The knowledge I gained and the support I received have been invaluable! For most of my life I could not understand why I HAD to wear womens clothing which lead to depression, self recrimination, not to mention the major confusion.
I'm still here 'cause this is where I need to be.

[Kate Simmons]

I, personally, am pretty complete within myself and don't need to prove anything to anyone, least of all myself. I have met a number of friends here(and they are spread all over the world) and the main reason I keep coming back is to see how they are doing and what they've been up to. We all benefit from the experiences and new discoveries about ourselves in any case.:)

[vikki2020]

Lilygirl says it for me! This site, and others are just a great release for me, keep me where I want to be, and become my virtual reality. Reality being the chance to dress, and get out. And, it's doctor recommended!:)

[Nikki A.]

Nothing to prove to myself anymore. But through this forum I have learned that I am not alone, that what I am doing is OK and that I m becoming comfortable with myself. I have met many new friends with like interests and have also let myself be more open with my other friends.
Hopefully I can help change people's perceptions of who we are and that in spite of dressing in a different fashion that we are good people.

[suchacutie]

It's not a question of proving anything, but a question of understanding this part of me that has been under the radar screen for so long. I'm on this site because understanding takes knowledge, and being feminine takes knowldedge, but to be feminine starting with a male body and growing up as a boy takes a ton of information!!!!

:)

tina

[PhillyGuy2Girl]

I don't feel I need to prove anything. I just love to dress femme and as long as my wife doesn't mind,I'm happy. I like to come to this forum to chat with other CD/TV's like myself and to learn new things. One thing I have learned in the last 2 years is to accept myself for who I am. Of course it helps to have a wife who is accepting of the lifestyle.



Felicity

[msniki48]

i guess i am trying to cope with the fact that we shouldn't have anything to prove,But i am not there yet...[which is why i come here to learn through those that have been able to let go...and be themselves]

when I met niki...[me] i was thrilled to know this wonderful side of me, and thought...[still do] that everyone should get to know her too. i have found that there are those, that should not know,.... there are those who know and will continue to love you but want to see the person they know and love, [not niki but vince] and there are those who know you, love you, and encourage you to be you...[few and far between.] all these people are in my inner circle in that they all know about niki....but to what extent they want to interact and be apart of your life varies a great deal.

When i get to the point that it doesn't matter to me anymore, i guess i will be able to say i have nothing to prove. till then

i have a lot to prove


hugs


msniki48

[PretzelGirl]

I spent most of my life trying to blend into the woodwork and not draw attention to myself. I just couldn't handle it.

So now I want things to be different. I dress and I figure that while I am out, I'll enjoy it by blending into the woodwork and not drawing attention to myself.

See, we do grow as we get older.

[Charlena]

Denise, I feel that I don't have to prove anything with my feminine nature. For years mostly due to my upbringing I felt what I did was a terrible sin and I was some kind of weirdo. But when I started feeling the urge strong I came to this forum and it helped me prove to myself that I was not the only person with this "blessing" (tongue-in-cheek). I think it has made me a more complete individual although it is confusing to me sometimes still. But I think I have made a lot of progress with communicating with my wife (which this forum helped me to do) and from reading about the different joys and hardships of my sisters and brothers here.

The one thing I needed to prove was that I was not some freak, my beautiful wife and this wonderful site helped me accomplish this goal.

Yes I am fairly content with myself but I feel that there is always more to do, people to help, give support and comfort, yes I would like to get out more and I think that is one thing I will work on in the coming year.
Good thoughts to all.
Charlena

[KimberlyJo]

I don't think I have anything to prove...maybe just that what I am feeling inside is real and that it's ok to express it. But I really only need to prove that to myself at the moment. I can't always believe it. I don't go out in public dressed so I come here to share this part of myself in what I feel is a safe and accepting environment. I also love hearing all the stories and sharing in everyone else's experience. I'd be lost floating in a sea of self-doubt and shame if I hadn't found this place. It validates me and proves to me time and again that it's ok to be me :D