A question about acceptance

[Super Amanda]

It's been a while since I've posted about anything, I guess that's because my life has been going great.

Coming out went without a hitch, I have not been rejected by anyone I love, getting on hormones was so fast and easy for me I am still amazed. I've been gone out quite a few times without a single double take. All in all I have had an incredible transition so far.

Lately however, about the last month or so people seem to be drifting away if I let them...I have to basically force myself into their lives.

So I want to ask if anyone here had great acceptance at first, only to see that acceptance gradually go away the further you transition.

Not that it would change my path whatsoever, but besides my son, who is my savior, all I have is a very small group of friends and family, and it hurts to see that they may not be in my future.

[Jenny Chen]

I am in your shoes, quite literally too. Everyone so far have accepted me for who I am, but I can already feeling some distance being formed. it's as if we are back to square one when we first meet our friends, which i can understand since in every sense that is pretty much it.

My friends don't know who I am anymore, or at lest they don't know which part of me they knew all this time is real. So we've got to rebuild the friendship from square one again.

Than there is also the family of my friends, which may or may not be as accepting for obvious reasons, which can also cause tension in the friendship.

Prejudice aside, we "the trans community" isn't widely accepted publicly, and thus would also indirectly affect the people we decide to associate with. So some may chose to consider us their friends, but at the same time would not be as active in include us in their day to day activities fearing what other may think of them to have a "trans" friend.

In the end, through out these ordeal, we find out true friends. the once that can't careless about what others think of them or their friend, the once that's supportive and always there when you need them, the once we call true friends that we will treasure for life.

[carolinoakland]

it's not that they shun you as much as there's nothing in the new life you live for them to have in common with. I"m not a brother or a sister, to my brother. I'm only allowed to go to my sister's house as her brother because she said she never had a sister and hates me for killing her brother. And no, I don't go to my sister's at all...I respect her opinions in her home. I think my brother and I are trying to evolve... I think or hope anyway...Carol