transitioning in a visible way to the public

[Felicity71]

I started transitioning on hormones on 26th nov, all my family and relatives know, my parents are supportive but unsure about how to cope. All my workplace know, and are cool with it. I work in a Gas Station serving the public. Im still stuck with a male name tag, long hair, earings, and a voice that doesnt yet match the face. Im going to a speech therapist soon.

The public of course dont usually understand what im about. i serve between 150 to 300 people a day. Some i talk to are accepting and supportive. Others i notice continue to stare blankly at me from their cars as they fill up. I try not to let it get to me, but there are days when it feels crazy.

Allanah

[Melissa A.]

If you're at ease and genuine with who you are, Allana, others feel it. Let 'em wonder. You took the step, and got the real you out there. Most people just don't understand why we have to, and what it takes. Pretty soon, you'll wonder how you lived any other way. Good for you. Keep it up.

Hugs,

Melissa:)

[Carole Cross]

Just be yourself, as time goes by you will grow in confidence and people will stare less and as you gain confidence it will bother you less, at least that has been my experience when out and about. :hugs:

[Felicity71]

Thankyou for your good points, I just have to wait for my new name badge, although I have worked at the station along time, and many regulars. I do love getting out and about around town.

Allanah

[Georgia_Grayce]

I've always thought of transitioning as the story of the mystical Phoenix. All the emotional and external dramas as the fire, once the fire is out...arises a beautiful bird flying free of a repression.

I envy your strength and determination...you are truly an inspiration to us all. I look forward to hearing of your success.

[Teri Jean]

Allana, you are a very brave girl and don't worry about those who don't understand. I'm in a very public arena also as I work for a university doing building repair, they break it and I fix it. With 14000 students and 1200-1400 employees coupled with 26 years on the job, you could say I'm public. The voice issue is difficult but I hear it can be feminized. Stand tall and don't look back.

Take care sis and I wish you the best of luck. Teri

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

in my division alone (12,000+ in the whole company), plus a lot of visitors come into our division. I interact with almost all of them at one point or another and as it was said by Carole, if you are confident and comfortable being you, others will accept you, if your not comfortable with yourself how can others feel comfortable with you. Just be yourself. Kimberly Marie Kelly :battingeyelashes:

[Felicity71]

Its been a week and a half since ive written that first post. Now day after day im feeling probably a numbness to any customer at work. I switch off now to what ever they may be looking at or facial expressions. It was funny, a few days ago i went to the station on my way home from a cafe meet up with other T girls, to talk to a co worker, I was wearing a shortish black skirt and blouse, carrying a very pink handbag. A very regular customer sees me in my non working clothes, then proceeds to say, Hello Allan, can you help me with a problem, i bought this item blah blah blah ... He didnt even blink.

My only obstacle in life is the Father that would prefer i dont visit in female attire.

[Melissa A.]

A very regular customer sees me in my non working clothes, then proceeds to say, Hello Allan, can you help me with a problem, i bought this item blah blah blah ... He didnt even blink.


:):):) One moment like this is worth so much more than a thousand bad ones. There will be more. Ever forward, sister.

Hugs,

Melissa:)

[noeleena]

Hi..Allana.

What do you see in my pic Allana ,

When i was over in os e . i went to syd first then to bris & up to bundy . spent 4 weeks staying with friends from T R tranny radio forum girls ,& then i went out & about & met lots of people . & have been invited back to see friends in southport .a group of 40 people . that was neat , in qid s .
now if those people did not like what they saw & talk to them i would not be asked back . all of those people i met i had never seen them . or spoken to them . only 3 have i rang .
Now what have i got that is going for me not my looks to male, voice no where as a woman . yet i get accepted for who i am
you know those people like i do . so what does it take for you to be accepted . your attatude your out going as a person . not wether your male or female or a woman . you allow your self to be open . you talk . you just get on with people . enjoy them be a part of them .
Hey i know only to well what its like what your saying . allow your self to be free to express your self as a female . woman . like i said look at my pic i dont pass, as we talk about , yet i can go any were & meet 1000 s of people . & have invertastion s back .

none not a one ever asked what i was . or said any thing about my looks or the way i spoke .or dressed for that matter . as a woman of cause & all with out make up . those clothes you see me in is how i was dressed then & now . yea i wear other clothes & a head wear or scarve now . dont think you cant be accepted . you can you worry to much . & dont allow your self time to ajust to who you are . people look at me . hey its to see what i m wearing . i do stand out some what . because i wear my head wear . other wise people dont take much notice. you have to grow as a female . woman . & that takes a bit of time . youll get there . i did & if i can with details that could have stoped me you have nothing to worry about .. trust me i know ,

...noeleena...

[corynn]

Its been a week and a half since ive written that first post. Now day after day im feeling probably a numbness to any customer at work. I switch off now to what ever they may be looking at or facial expressions. It was funny, a few days ago i went to the station on my way home from a cafe meet up with other T girls, to talk to a co worker, I was wearing a shortish black skirt and blouse, carrying a very pink handbag. A very regular customer sees me in my non working clothes, then proceeds to say, Hello Allan, can you help me with a problem, i bought this item blah blah blah ... He didnt even blink.

My only obstacle in life is the Father that would prefer i dont visit in female attire.


Sometimes Girl you can never tell until you come out too

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Allana I think you are doing SO well.. i hope you are giving yourself credit for your strength and determination

There are LOTS of people that look at what you are doing, and probably want to ask you for advice